I have become to think that my mother-in-law isn’t a very nice person.
She keeps doing things that aren’t nice under the guise of “helping” or forgetting. But there are only so many mistakes or infringements that someone can make before you get to thinking something is wrong.
For instance, DH and I are doing low carb to lose weight before our holiday. For the first time ever, MIL has started bringing high carb baking with her when she visits. She used the downstairs loo after specifically being told not to because the flush was broken. We put a sign on the door after that and she still tried to get in. She threw away packaging for a top I was sending back. She’s never tidied in my house before but suddenly decided to put the bag and receipts in the bin (I noticed and fished them out).
But that pales into insignificance with what she’s done to SIL. SIL has been away on a “self help” holiday (not organised, just herself) to try and get a new start after her marriage breakup. She wanted to lose weight, get fitter and, most importantly, wean herself off the otc painkillers she has been taking. MIL knew this yet still got some shopping in for her, including the fucking paracetamol. She said “Well she always has them” and got upset. But that’s tipped me over the edge, I think she’s sabotaging on purpose whilst pretending to be helpful.