To have binned MILs batshit gift to my DC?

[FreshJeffhasleft]

If the gift was dreadful? And we're no contact and I'd like to believe the gift was a horrible joke but no- it was "sincere"

Seriously though - he will absolutely know that you binned them, but won't be able to do a thing about it - and if the dynamic currently is that he can throw his weight around sulking and you essentially just take it, then you doing this, looking him in the eye and saying oooh I have no idea what you mean is going to throw him a bit, and that's good. He's going to see that you've started really not giving a shit and being perfectly prepared to cut yourself away from him too, and lie to him.

Not a bad thing for him to realise by the sound of it.

they sound erm nice

bin them somewhere else deny all knowledge

He knows they were delivered.

He doesn't know what happened to them after they were left on the step.

And neither do you.

You can even add 'And if I had seen them, I wouldn't have accepted them, as you well know'.

Fuck him.

DHs granny once gave us some beautifully wrapped but dirty, used tea towels with pictures of holiday destinations she’d never been to on them, but she’s a lovely woman and I assume she picked them up in a charity shop and thought they’d be useful in our new house, but the intention behind them was good.

I can’t imagine your in laws thought a primary school aged child would be interested in the free CDs from a newspaper and a half eaten cake.

winners you think I made up the cake?

Thank you very much -I think years of feeling I had to try filled me
With that dreaded FOG- so at times I do slip and doubt myself -hence me posting

I am very grateful for your posts

do we have the same mil op. I was once given a used kids necklace wrapped in toilet roll as a christmas gift. To add to that I was also asked to forgive their son (not dp) for the 'falling out' He attempted to hit me out of jelousy when he found I was pregnant.

That caused another argument with me and I dp. I told him they were batshit. I dumped loads of their stuff after that.

I totally get the half eaten cake thing unfortunately. dp once ripped the bottom of a christmas card and resent it to his mother.

Pretend you never saw them.

Can somebody please randomly type the name of a small kitchen utensil in their next post.

Like a whisk you mean?

My MiL loved one of my DDs, didn't like the other one. DD1 would get lovely expensive gifts, DD2 would get any old crap, including a handbag with old make-up encrusted in the bottom when she was about 10 and had no interest in handbags of any description. Luckily the two DDs used to snigger to each other about the favouritism, but it could have caused fights.

Or a potato peeler

Veg peeler. Y shaped.

Pickle fork?

DH: Where are the gifts my mum left?

You: Gifts? What Gifts?

DH: She said she left them outside.

You: Nope. No gifts. Someone had dumped some rubbish outside though. Some half eaten food, a rusty compass and some tatty CDs you get from a newspaper. I figured someone had cleaned out their car and dumped the litter.

Oooooo I found a passive aggressive deposit from lc DM just today, on our front porch.

She puts things where my DD is likely to see it on her way out to school- before I get a chance to bin it or at least make a decision. This time it was a note on scrap paper wishing DD Happy Grandparent’s Day (??), together with a red apple and a re-used takeaway container of... cooked green beans.

Only they weren’t green, they were splotchy brown, slimy, and liberally covered in white furry mold. Try explaining that lot to a 7yo. I had to bite my lip when she asked if the apple was ‘like Snow White??’.

I took a pic of the beans before I gifted them to the worm farm, cos DM will likely claim it’s a vicious lie designed to make her look demented. No need, Mummy Dearest. You manage that all on your own.

Just for winner

One half cake taken out of the trash
With a spoon to disguise DS name.

Please see lilac whisk

Please be advised:
the Sun and The Daily Mail readers are all CUNTS and I hope the reporters will not steal this thread

Fresh

a rusty teaspoon

Some toxic people are truly crap gift givers as well. Narcissists are notorious for their inability to choose an appropriate gift for a person they supposedly love – which is not to say they will always be stingy about gifts. If you’re in his good books, you might get a pricey present from a narcissist – but it will still show just how little he knows you and just how badly what little he knows about you compares to what he thinks about himself.

You’ll get the same aftershave he uses, as it’s the best – even though you have a beard. She’ll bring you the same set of frying pans that she has and admonish you to use them every day – although she’s heard you say a thousand times that you work 12-hour days, never have time to cook, and don’t like fried foods, anyway. Your kids will get things that are too big or too small (but isn’t he too small for his age? And isn’t she getting a bit chubby?). Or they may get gifts that are age-inappropriate (but isn’t it time you potty-trained your baby so she could wear the lacey thong her narcissistic Granny got her?). Alternatively, the gifts your kids get will have nothing to do with what actually interests them (but surely something must be wrong with your son, who’s into guns, trucks, and Spiderman, if he doesn’t like the exact same creepy porcelain doll she loved when she was little).
And that is only if you’re currently dear to the narcissist. If she’s trying to put you in your place, you’ll know it, as the narcissist will gladly use gifts to make a point. You will get oversized clothes and be asked whether they’re too small for you, along with a bottle of diet pills – because, of course, you’re fat. You’ll be given her old mismatched plate set after she buys herself a new one – after all, they’re good enough for you, as beggars can’t be choosers. You’ll get the message that you’re somehow inferior loud and clear.

Honestly Fresh, do not even think about responding to this because what they want is a response from you. That is the reward so radio silence from you must be maintained.

And what Fizzy wrote earlier. Your H is truly mired in his own FOG, after all he was raised and thus conditioned to accept his parents "normality".

I say spatula

Pastry brush.

And what parent in charge wrote earlier.

Wow - amazed at how many of you think it's OK for the OP to gaslight her DH! It's fine to bin the stuff, it's not fine to lie about binning it.

Whoops sorry took too long.

What! I thought you meant a random cake from a supermarket, not that they got a professional personalised cake made then ate half, who does that? Why? Did they put candles in and make a wish before they dug in?