To ask what age you had your children?

[MrsMac12]

Me and dh have been together 4 years and got married 3 weeks ago and have just returned from our honeymoon, we are both 28 turning 29 in September (Within the same week). Anyway he has suggested that we should start trying for a baby straight away and is obsessed with having one before he’s 30 whereas I was thinking of waiting until I was 30 at least.
I don’t know if this has anything to do with it but his mum had him at 21 and my mum had me at 44. I like the idea of doing everything I want to before we have kids (travelling, holidays, just being married). I spoke to his mum and she said she had planned to do things after having her children and them leaving but by the time she got to 50 she couldn’t be bothered anymore and didn’t have the money to do it, my mum on the other hand told me she really lived before having me and my brother, her and my dad had nearly paid off their mortgage by the time they had us and are now happily retired. I’m not trying to base it off either of their experiences and I know everyone Is different.
Just looking for some experiences and opinions?

Had my first two at 18 and 20. Number 3 at 35 and due my 4th 2 months before I'm 40 this year.
I'd say go with flow.

Hi OP,

There are a few other things to consider such as the fact that you are likely to take longer and possibly have trouble conceiving if you wait longer; that you're more likely to miscarry at an older age; that you have a higher probability of having a baby with Down's syndrome or other chromosomal abnormalities.

I'm 30 and not in a relationship so don't have a choice but I've heard that generally medical professionals recommend getting pregnant by 30 to increase the chances of having a healthy pregnancy/baby.

Fertility declines through your 30s, more significantly after 35 and then drops off for most people by 40-45.

I don't get these people who say "have them young so you can get your life back whilst you're still young ".

The whole point of having kids is that you are ready to shape and mould another tiny human, show them what you have learnt, create a family. Go on adventures with your kids, family holidays, school plays, movie nights, dinner fights.......family life.

If you want to have kids to 'get them out of the way' so you can go back to your previous lifestyle I think you're missing the point imo

I had dd at 30 after having travelled somewhat, as pp said if I did everything then I would of never been ready!

I think it's fun to travel and explore different cultures with dc.

In regards to career however it is a little trickier. After having a baby your priorities shift massively and it's just more difficult to work harder to get a promotion because you're constantly battling childcare issues and illnesses. Not only do your dc catch everything going at nursery, they give it to you too!

You really need to be on the same page about this. If your relationship has cracks, even tiny hair fractures, I guarantee a baby will show them all up.

Pregnant with DC1 at 32. 35 weeks pregnant now with DC2 at 36, who will be Norma month before my 37th birthday. This time it's MUCH harder. I feel ancient.

*born, sorry, weird typo

I was 28, DH was 43 when DC1 wa born.

Had DD at 32. Were planning to TTC number 2 in a few months. I'm 36.

Currently pregnant with DC2 (34yrs old)

I would wait a few more years if I were you. I had mine at 37 and 40 and I’m so glad I did all my travelling and partying (although it doesn’t stop completely it changes) pre kids. Career was established, travelled the world, did lots of dancing...things you will find harder when you have kids.

19,20,23 and 25.
None of my children want to have their own until at least 30

Early 30s. But we started trying when I was 18/19. It took us that long to get a bfp. Yep. Really.

My advice, don't wait. Everything else CAN wait.

19 with DS and 24 with dd 😊

I had mine at 29, 30 & 33.

Of my closest friends, one had her first at 21, another had her one & only at 44.

I was 26 and 30 .My dd was 31 and 33. My own mum had me just before her 21st birthday.
The optimum age health wise is early 20s I believe but waiting till you feel ready is most important.