To ask what age you had your children?

[MrsMac12]

Me and dh have been together 4 years and got married 3 weeks ago and have just returned from our honeymoon, we are both 28 turning 29 in September (Within the same week). Anyway he has suggested that we should start trying for a baby straight away and is obsessed with having one before he’s 30 whereas I was thinking of waiting until I was 30 at least.
I don’t know if this has anything to do with it but his mum had him at 21 and my mum had me at 44. I like the idea of doing everything I want to before we have kids (travelling, holidays, just being married). I spoke to his mum and she said she had planned to do things after having her children and them leaving but by the time she got to 50 she couldn’t be bothered anymore and didn’t have the money to do it, my mum on the other hand told me she really lived before having me and my brother, her and my dad had nearly paid off their mortgage by the time they had us and are now happily retired. I’m not trying to base it off either of their experiences and I know everyone Is different.
Just looking for some experiences and opinions?

I'll be 37 when my first is born this year. Haven't travelled or had a great job or anything you're meant to do before settling down. I don't mind about that. I am ridiculously tired though.

I've recently had my first at 34. My pregnancy wasn't the easiest (morning sickness, insomnia, SPD) but that's luck of the draw rather than age I think. Lack of sleep is tough now but I honestly think I needed more sleep when I was younger so would have found it harder in my 20s. DP has two older kids so luckily he knows what's he's doing which is a big help. I travelled a fair bit when I was younger so am happy to wait to do more. Despite being knackered all the time I feel such a new lease of life being a mum - it's very empowering.

Only thing is that I want at least one more child so will have small age gaps if things go to plan as don't have many years at my disposal.

30 and 33

I'm 21 and had my son when I was 20

I totally get what you mean sometimes I wish me and my partner had some more time to ourselves before we had our little boy but now I wouldn't change it for the world

I do certainly plan on travelling in the future - good luck

41 and he was 45

21, 23 and 30.

If money was no object we'd possibly try for a fourth, but I'm 31 and dh is 35 so it would be soon. Personally early - mid thirties would be my limit.

I was 32 & 35. If I had started younger I would have had a 3rd but in all honesty my 2nd wore me out & then I felt to old to consider another at 38. I did feel I had lost freedom even at 32.

My eldest brother had his kids at 23 & 24 & both kids were off to uni in his early 40s. Him & his wife travel & love the freedom. He spent his 30s building his business & nowhe can relax a bit. My other brothers are in their 40s with kids under 8.

First at 30
Second and last at 35

31, 32, 34, 35. Both DH and I did major travel and adventures and career stuff in our 20’s. I wouldn’t trade it for the world but then I was lucky enough to get pregnant very easily,

Just turned 21 with my first and 32 with my second. I think I was too young in that I didn't appreciate everything I should of with my first although I love DS more than imaginable, but being that bit older with my second I felt a bit wiser and confident.

21, 23 and 24

I had my DD at 27, DH was 32. I was the first of my friends to have a baby and was one of the younger ones in my antenatal group. Hope to have DC2 when I'm 30.

37 with my first and currently 35 weeks pregnant with number 2 at 40.

Neither dh or I wanted children until dh got broody in his mid 30s though (we've been together 18 and half years). We traveled, bought a house and got good jobs before I got pregnant.

Never had any fertility issues but I'm not sure if I knew I wanted children, I would have left it as long as we did. I've found pregnancy both times very easy too (apart from the nausea) and I'm lucky in that I don't need that much sleep so I think it's really individual as to whether you're tired etc.

28 and 30, we were the first amongst our friends, which had it's challenges. So pleased we got on with it now though (I am 42 ds is 14 dd nearly 12). We have such fun and great holidays (sailing, skiing, cycling all together). I was too junior to have any meaningful career break so kept working and am now quite senior, with very few childcare worries so can really focus and hopefully do even better in my 40's and 50's. By our mid to late forties we will be free to travel and enjoy ourselves and hopefully have enough money to really enjoy it.

15 and 38

32 and 37. Definitely a big believer in living and enjoying life to the full before you have kids. Though we’ve accomplished a lot since we had our first, started a business, I got my PhD, travelled, etc, nothing is ever as easy and you can never be as selfish again once you have kids. We partied, we got started on our careers, we worked abroad, we really lived life and had a very carefree, spontaneous lifestyle. You never really get that back once you have kids because then there is always someone else’s needs to put before your own. Our children are the best thing that ever happened to us, but I am forever grateful we did so much stupid stuff before we had to settle down and be parents.

I used to say I’d never have kids past 30 too. But then I didn’t meet my dh until I was 27. Then it was 35 and then I said 36. Our youngest was born when I was 37. I wouldn’t have done it any differently.

28 and now pregnant with second at 29. Both planned. Wanted ours before 30. Married three years ago, both settled in careers. Made sense to us and we love being parents.

32, 35 and 37.

For us it was about career progression and travel before starting a family. Those things are harder once you have children. Your focus shifts.

But you're pushing 30 anyway so it sound like a fine time to start. You never know if you'll find it easy or struggle.

We got married at 28 and had ds when 32 took 8 mth to conceive

I’d been clubbing/ going out since I was 13,

What I did find really hard was
Lack of sleep
Not being able to just go out(without baby bag, buggy etc)
Getting up early(love my sleep/bed)
And birth was horrendous (got told was like bad period pains) nothing like, but I do have low pain threshold.

Don’t know if I’m right in thinking, but it must be easier in your 20’s
As you’ve not had years of doing as you like and being selfish

38. Conceived immediately we started trying. It was the right time for us, we had fun together as non parents before we started having fun as parents. In some ways i wish we'd been younger, but not that we'd done it sooner if that makes any sense?

First and probably last 26

28,31 and hope to have another about 32/33.

I was 42 when I had DS. Realise I was a late one! Had given up on being a mother actually. DH was 38.

17 and 21... too young perhaps but wouldn't change a thing

Hopefully will have more one day... will probably be classed as a geriatric mother by the time I find a nice guy to have more babies with...

With DH since I was 23, married at 26, children when I was 33 and 37.