To not reply to nosey mum who keeps messaging me?

[sagegreen5]

There is this acquaintance I know from baby groups, I do not know her well at all. However she keeps messaging me questioning me about my dds, their activities, what schools I am thinking of sending them to.. then how much we paid for our house & how did we get our mortgage!!!! Now she is messaging me asking me about my job. I am very private & am not at all comfortable with her being so bloody nosey. Aibu not to reply & just ignore?

I would not have replied to any of those requests
Why does she need to know?

Delete and block, you do not have to give such personal information.nosey hint.

Block her. So inappropriate. If she asks in person you deleted your Facebook for a while or tightened your privacy settings.

Or you can just be totally honest and reply 'that is so invasive and inappropriate, what's wrong with you?'

No just ignor the messages .
If she asks you face to face tell her you don't like giving out personal details.... No more than that and repeat it when necessary

Is she new to your area and trying the gauge whats what ? If not, I would just ignore. Mortgage and house stuff is proper bloody nosey.

Good God no YANBU.

I would be sarcastic about the mortgage and go 'from a bank'. I mean how else did you buy it, got 3 wishes from a genie?

Or just ignore and delete.

Thanks for the replies, she really puts me on edge.. I never ever message her first, yes won't reply, so bloody frustrating though..

Just tell her exactly that - that your a private person and don't appreciate these kinds of questions. Then don't reply to anymore. It's none of her business about any of these things - especially work/house/money related - whether well known friend or not. I would have deleted and blocked her number at those questions!

Block her.

Do you think she's trying in totally the wrong way to build a friendship with you? Perhaps her questions are a way of reaching out?

Just answer back very vaguely about things you don't want to disclose, and reply "oh that's a bit personal, what are you up to today" sort of thing. Give her the benefit of the doubt, unless she doesn't take the hint and carries on.

Is it possible she's trying too hard to be make friends with you and is expressing a genuine interest in you and your life?
Generally when we want to get to know someone you ask questions rather than going on about yourself. Maybe she doesn't intend to make you feel the way you do.

I think I'd reply pleasantly/jokingly/briefly without fully answering her questions. Maybe she is lonely and looking to engage, and ignoring her might hurt her feelings.
Q: What schools? A: Probably all of them at this at this rate!
Q: What activities? A: The usual swimming etc
Q: How much for your house? A: (I'd ignore this one or say that I'd rather not discuss it)
Q: Mortgage? A: I hear the financial adviser in xxx is good.

I couldn't resist winding her up: DD does Tightrope walking on Monday, Scuba Diving on Tuesday, Piccolo on Wednesday, Raw Vegan cookery on Thursday etc etc

And then tell her you are prepping them all for entry to Eton as you don't believe gender should be a barrier in this day and age when it comes to a public school education.

Block her and if she says anything just say you have a new number and are not giving it out.

I can be quite private too... But I've no problem saying outright "look, I'm quite private and don't feel comfortable discussing things like that. Sorry"

So weird and lacking in boundaries! Do you know anyone else still from the baby groups - are they also getting bombarded? I think I would feel a little less irritated if I knew I was one of many people getting these intrusive questions - maybe she is just genuinely clueless. If it was just me they were directed at, it would feel like I had a stalker! I think def block her. I am not especially private but even I would find this discomfiting.

It makes me feel so uncomfortable, she is a passing acquaintance, we met 2 years ago at a baby group & paths havn't crossed since. I never contact her, then I get messages with a barrage of questions, she interrogates me in the messages, this mornings text contained 6 questions!

Just tell her it's none of her business. No big deal.

Give people like her the widest berth possible.
They bring nothing but trouble with them.
They cross all sorts of lines, which means they don't know how to dial it back and will have no problem dishing out insulting behaviour (if it comes to this). From my own experience over the years, I'd really give this woman no truck. People like her are not clueless. Believe me.

You could reply but it will open up more stuff and more and more and more. The more you give (even if your answers are vague), the more she'll take that as permission to seek you out.

Don't reply!
And don't feel guilty. Don't feel obliged to feed the pest.
I've run into such messes with obsessive people like the woman you are describing. And it all started out like this, just as you're describing. Our kids ended up at the same school and we ended up living around the corner from each other and in both cases (two different moms) it ended so badly, I eventually moved away.
I was stalked by both mothers.
It has been 9 years and last week, I got (another) Facebook friend request from one of the mothers. Every couple of years I get one. I ignore.

Just because she too is a mother, does not mean she is a kindred spirit. She's just a random person you met in a baby group two years ago. Leave it at that.

You could reply, "Wow! That's a lot of questions." I'd be curious to see what she comes back with.

Or just block.

You haven't seen her for two years, you don't actually know her. How has she got hold of your number?
Just block and delete on your phone, FB etc.

Reply, sorry who is this?

I probably would play dumb. Reply 'no idea....DH does all that....you're best finding a mortgage advisor, estate agent, good schools guide etc' sorry, got to dash to dentists! 😬