To not reply to nosey mum who keeps messaging me?

[sagegreen5]

There is this acquaintance I know from baby groups, I do not know her well at all. However she keeps messaging me questioning me about my dds, their activities, what schools I am thinking of sending them to.. then how much we paid for our house & how did we get our mortgage!!!! Now she is messaging me asking me about my job. I am very private & am not at all comfortable with her being so bloody nosey. Aibu not to reply & just ignore?

"I am not comfortable answering your questions"

and repeat

I think I'd reply "I find this barrage of personal questions intrusive and rude. Stop it."

I had one of these once, not from a baby group though. I ignored the texts and when she asked in person, I just keep saying, "I'm sorry, I can't tell you." When she asked why I couldn't tell her, I just said again, "I'm sorry, I can't tell you."

It pissed her off and for a while she tried to bait me with questions like "who did your boob job?" to try to get me on the defensive denial. But that just confirmed to me that she was an utter freak and I really shouldn't give a monkeys what she thought. Kept on with the "sorry, I can't tell you" and it did stop fairly soon.

Everyone else thought she was a nutjob too. I was glad when we could finally stop crossing paths. It was annoying and a bit creepy.

She's probably going to try to copy your life. In her mind, you have what she wants so if she does all the same things as you then she will have the same life. It's gross and sad.

Just say "A guard wouldn't ask me those questions! "

Is she of a non-British culture? I only ask/suggest it because, after moving in to my newly purchased house, I was astounded to be repeatedly asked by my neighbours how much I'd paid for it. This was in the course of 'normal' conversation (whether or not I am married is another popular and seemingly-normal topic!). From my travels, I'm aware that such topics of conversation are the norm elsewhere, even though they startle us Brits :)

You haven’t seen her for two years????

Just block her

Why do you even care?

Yeah, block and forget.

She lives in the locality but paths don't cross, she has my no as we were in a Whattsapp group from the toddlers group... I replied in the past, just oneliners, brief answer but it wasn't good enough for her she would keep probing & probing...I would be very brief, never message her, I have blocked her on fb now trying to figure out how to on whattsapp.. She makes me feel so uneasy...

House prices are available on the internet for all the world to see.

That’s is so rude of the woman OP. I wouldn’t reply or if I did I wouldn’t answer her questions fully. Maybe direct her to a self help mortgage guidance internet link and ignore the rest.

This sounds so utterly unboundaried and socially graceless that I do wonder if she has some kind of problem!

I would ask her if she's OK, and when she says "Yes, why?" say "It's not normal to ask people this kind of question, it's a bit personal".

Text her and ask how she found such a gorgeous man, was it through a dating service online.

Hopefully she'll get the message.

I'm an introvert by nature so find it all very unsettling, it's also questions about my dcs development, what activites they are doing, my thoughts on schools etc, then why would I choose one over another it's all a bit bizarre...

You have done the right thing in blocking her, rest easy now.🌸

I had s mum do this. She invited dd around for a play date with hers. She was so nosey. I never reciprocated the offer of a play date but her dd did come to dds birthday party.

Not heard from her since.

Just try and be evasive with answering questions.

Why don’t you just answer her back with similarly intrusive questions? She’ll soon back off.

Oh, are you house hunting?
Why?
Has something happened?
Are you in financial trouble?
You’re not getting divorced are you?
Did he have an affair??
Omg, did you have an affair???
Did he catch you????

Same for the job questions.
Are you job hunting?
Did you get sacked?
Omg what did you do????
Was your affair with a work colleague????
I need details!

Or you could just tell her you’d rather not discuss your private and finacncail situation with an acquaintance

Oliversmumsarmy beat me to it - people seem most offended by the 'how much did you pay for your house', and yet that is the one piece of this information that anyone can look up anyway!

I'm an introvert by nature so find it all very unsettling

It's really nothing to do with you being introverted. It's to do with her being a complete wacko. You owe her nothing.

When I was a kid going through the ask millions of questions phase, if my ever patient dad tired of it or couldn't tell me for whatever reason he would default to 'why do you want to know are you a police officer?' Might work here!

Just block her and ignore

Chances are she’s part of an MLM such as younique etc. A mum was messaging me on Insta- all innocuous stuff but a lot of questions considering I barely know her. I mostly fobbed her off but then she started asking me to join her beach body mlm group so I now just ignore her! Could be something like that or maybe she’s just mega awkward at making friends...!

I'm just wondering whether she may have gone back to work full time?

I get similar messages (but not the money ones!) from a mum I met at toddler groups, who nobody sees since she went back to work. She sends random questions about potty training, 30 hours, vaccinations, swimming classes, sandals... I take it she may not be in contact with parents of same age children, and it is useful to compare notes.

No excuse for the mortgage questions though.

m.wikihow.com/Block-Contacts-on-WhatsApp

Block her then forget about her.

@FASH84, love it ! 😂⭐️