To not reply to nosey mum who keeps messaging me?

[sagegreen5]

There is this acquaintance I know from baby groups, I do not know her well at all. However she keeps messaging me questioning me about my dds, their activities, what schools I am thinking of sending them to.. then how much we paid for our house & how did we get our mortgage!!!! Now she is messaging me asking me about my job. I am very private & am not at all comfortable with her being so bloody nosey. Aibu not to reply & just ignore?

As others have said, I’d just be honest and say, ‘sorry but I’m quite a private person and don’t appreciate all these personal questions’. Then ignore.

Thirded. We had a woman like this in an antenatal group I did, it escalated to her showing up to people’s houses uninvited to mediate arguments between her and her partner. It’s difficult because this time of life (babies, young children) is a time when it’s very easy to share intimate details, make connections with others and so on, but if someone has pre-existing issues parenthood doesn’t fix them.

OK so all these questions I've had from someone but the difference was we were close and had actually seen eachother...

She sounds like she is infatuated with you. I'm not saying she fancies you or anything like that but she is definitely obsessed and showing an unhealthy level of interest. It is possible for stalkers to be non-sexual and I think you need to nip this in the butt, call it out and get rid.

Reply with "Sorry, that's a lot of questions when we don't really know eachother that well and I don't really talk about things like that. Take care".

Then leave it at that and DO NOT respond to anymore messages. Ever. Hopefully she'll get the hint. If not, she'll be living in her car outside your house soon.

Good luck and KUP

The messages used to come early in the morning usually while I was getting the kids ready for school & I was on edge for the rest of the day..EssentialHummus I get what your say about it being easy to over share being a new parent, we were all very open at the toddler class. I still run into other mums at activies & we have a lovely little chat but I made no lifelong friends from the group, why she attached on to me I have no idea. I wouldn't feel comfortable asking any of the other women from the group if they were getting similar messages as I wouldn't know them well enough & wouldn't like to come accross as bitching. Thank God for mumsnet!

My neighbour is like this, she is Filipino so am I am not sure if it is a cultural thing. Every time she sees anything I have bought, the latest was a steam mop, she asks how much was it. Drives me insane, I want to tell her I find it rude, but don't want to offend her as she is lovely otherwise. I understand how uncomfortable it makes you feel, I don't think you are BU to ignore, hopefully she gets the hint!

Just delete and block her if you don't want to answer her, or remove the whatsapp group.

@sagegreen5 - my case in point. She's texting you at the busiest time in the day, getting kids ready and out the door. She should be doing the same thing surely and not wondering about whether you are on a decent repayment mortgage? The fact that you are literally her waking thought is just bloody weird. Run.

If a single one of my absolutely closest to my heart, love them to bits, BFFs started texting me in the morning about my general thoughts on life and economy I'd tell them to F right off.

The lady in question is Spanish, not sure it makes much of a difference but maybe it is a cultural thing, I don't know many Spaniards..

The lady in question is Spanish, not sure it makes much of a difference but maybe it is a cultural thing, I don't know many Spaniards..

So when I said she was a one woman Spanish Inquisition, I was right

It is NOT a cultural thing. It's a borderline mental health issue.

Brown eyes you were right! Too funny!