AIBU?
to not want to go swimming with a dad ...
NotQuiteCockney · 15/05/2007 20:29
I'm friends with a local dad. I take DS2 swimming in the afternoons sometimes. The dad has suggested that he and his DD tag along sometime. (We do things in the afternoon pretty often, the four of us, or the six of us when we have our older kids with us.)
Frankly, I find swimming with a female friend slightly stressful and weird. I don't exactly live in a burka or anything, but swimsuits are frankly too revealing imo and I just really don't feel comfortable with the idea.
(And yes, I do sometimes run into dads I know at the pool, and I'm friendly and nice, and it's fine really. But I wouldn't set out to run into a bloke there!)
NotQuiteCockney · 15/05/2007 20:38
I don't think he does fancy me. I certainly don't think I am a creature of such ravishing beauty that he would be thunderstruck by my marvellousness in a swimsuit!
I just know I would feel uncomfortable.
It's not like I'm generally comfortable in a swimsuit anyway.
I agree that it's irrational.
NotQuiteCockney · 15/05/2007 20:42
Oh, I'm perfectly friendly to parents in the pool, I ran into a dad I know the other weekend. It's not like I hide in the corner or anything.
But frankly, I went swimming with a reasonably close female friend the other week, and I found that a bit freaky tbh, so I can't see that I'd be more comfortable with a bloke.
I can't really see how I can get out of this, though, particularly with half-term coming up. I will have to motor through I think. He's good company and good with the kids, we do things together rather a lot.
speccy · 15/05/2007 20:46
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NotQuiteCockney · 15/05/2007 20:46
Oh, awen, he's not isolated, trust me - he has lots of mum friends. His DD goes to the same co-op as my DS1, and we're around at each other's houses at least once a week, often more. No, it doesn't take guts for him to ask, it's perfectly normal, we're always doing stuff together.
But yeah, I also don't want to see him in a swimsuit, no thank you.
Hmmm, I could always take off my glasses for swimming. That would make me more comfortable. But then I can't see DS1 if he goes too far away. Grrr.
NotQuiteCockney · 15/05/2007 20:47
Oh, I don't mind other men being in the pool! I just don't want to go swimming with a bloke I know! (I'm not that keen on swimming with women I know, either.)
Ok, so some of you think I'm a freak, and some of you understand. I guess that's about normal.
Nikki76 · 15/05/2007 20:49
I would hate to even swim with men let alone go with a male friend! I mean if you were dating them, you wouldn't let them see that much until whatever date so swimming with someone you aren't even dating...oooh
Added to which, I would die if someone other than DH saw my stretch marks!!!
NotQuiteCockney · 15/05/2007 20:49
He is a nice guy, we get along well.
Ok, I should just get over it.
Thing is, I go swimming basically never, so I just am not comfortable in my swimming costume. DS2 is pretty mad for swimming atm, so I will no doubt end up going swimming more these days ...
speccy · 15/05/2007 20:56
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