Hi,
Desperate for some advice.
I relocated away from my family after a long distance relationship with my fiance. We are getting married in a few months (super excited...) however there is a big dampener in the form of his mum.
Over the course of the past year, since I moved, she has become more and more controlling.
Examples include -
When I've gone home to visit my family, she has come into our house and "helped" - hanging her old curtains up in our bedroom as a "surprise", rearranging our living room, even as far as opening post.
She will "appear" as if by coincidence - she tracks my OH on Find My Friends app to find where we will be. This has happened when we've gone out for dinner, just trying to enjoy some quiet time in the house and, cherry on the cake, when we went ring shopping.
Organising dinners/family events at stupid times when I can't get there due to work commitments (I'm self employed) then making me feel like I don't make enough effort.
She has two other children, both adults with kids of their own, and I can't understand why she enjoys meddling in our lives. It's caused so many issues with my OH. I feel like I bend over backwards to make enough time for her in our life - I've cancelled work, friends, to spend time with the family, I took her wedding dress shopping alongside my own mum etc.
I have swallowed most of my anger with this. I have spoken to my OH about how I feel with her coming into the house and rearranging our things however I don't want to make my OH feel like he is torn between me and his mum however I'm now sat here fuming. She has just sent me a picture of herself in a cream dress with a white jacket - this is what she's planning on wearing to the wedding.
AIBU?! Any ideas how I can sort this mess out without causing huge issues right before the wedding???