Is this shit or am I BU?

[IamPickleRick]

It’s my birthday today. I’ve not had a birthday celebration in 4 years (friends hen party weekend/c section/baby’s first birthday/sil’s hen party this weekend) so I guess people have on the whole forgotten.

I am away Friday to Sunday for SIL hen so can’t go out this weekend, last weekend was DC’s birthday party and the weekend after is another friends birthday party.

So while I am away this weekend, DH has organised a massive BBQ for him and all of our friends at our house. Lovely. It’s the celebration I would have been at if I hadn’t been roped in to this hen (which I couldn’t say no to, as it’s his sister). I guess I’ll just see all the pics of my mates having a great time without me on FB.

So this morning, I thought I might get a card or what not. Nope. Awoke to dc2 screaming, while DH has his bath. I made my own coffee, breakfast, the kids breakfasts, asked where my cards where, DP quickly ran out with the kids to write them. We can’t go out tonight because we haven’t got babysitters and even if we did, we’d have to be up at 6am.

Am I expecting too much?

That it rubbish!

I would not be happy with DH. Do you make an effort for his birthday?

Oh and Happy birthday!

Only if you think zero is too much

But if you want to do something for your birthday, organise it

I have booked Venice for his birthday

There’s no time to book anything, it’s all school nights or other friends celebrations.

i'd be unbooking Venice pretty sharpish.
that's totally crap.
all it takes is a few cards, a bit of thought, and maybe a meal out all together, or take away in?]

hope your day improves. xx

Oh OP, what a let down. Happy birthday. Try and make the best of it.

That sounds crap OP.

It's not hard to make a little effort and I would be unhappy with DP.

As for a bigger celebration it sounds like this a busy time of year for you so perhaps try and arrange something earlier next year.

happy birthday !

It's my birthday today as well. Happy birthday! I know how you feel. My DS2 birthday was yesterday and pretty much since he was born, it's all about him. I don't mind that so much. My OH is quite good about making sure we do something for me as well as DS2, so we had a date night on Saturday just gone and he did spoil me with presents. But today, it's just me home on my own, kids in school and nursery, OH gone to work and we'll probably just be having a take out and watching the footy tonight.

And Happy Birthday

Do all the things you enjoy.

aww that's really s**t, you should let him home to babysit tonight and go do something yourself

oh I forgot swear words aren't filtered here

I’d love that fatted. All I wanted was a bit of recognition, it’s like today was just any other day. Even if they’d just all got in to bed with me this morning for a birthday cuddle I’d have been happy.

The weekends before are all other friends celebrations. April and May are our busiest. The earliest/latest I could celebrate is probably the last weekend of March. It’s cold then so no BBQ 😂 or maybe do a joint thing with the DC.

That’s shit. Very thoughtless. He needs to let you know he will make it up to you.

Happy birthday

Your dh could of made you a coffee, had the cards written out and got you a cake for tonight surely? All little things but they can mean a great deal

Go out now and buy a cake? I would!
Can you get a takeaway and bottle of fizz/wine tonight?

Happy birthday 🥂🎉

A friend of mine has her bday the same time as her daughters so what she does now is kids party during the day and we go out that night (whatever sat she has the dd party)
Or a few people have birthdays within about a month of each other so we do one big night out for them all, any chance that might work?

I find it odd that he invites all your friends around when you aren't there.
This is MN so I don't find it odd that he does nothing for the day, but I would be disappointed if it were me.

Why the hell are you booking him a holiday whem he cant be bothered to even get you a card or present?
Cancel that pdq and book something for yourself next available weekend you have and leave him to run after the kids himself for a couple of days. He might appreciate you more. and no long baths in the mornings then

Happy Birthday 🎂🍾

Cancel Venice. Or book it for 12 months time Happy birthday.

Oh op, that is shit. Happy birthday!

He doesn’t deserve bloody venice. Or you for that matter! Treat yourself to something lovely today x

It’s booked and paid for, we go next month. I think the joint party thing might be the way forward, it’s the only way to pin everyone down.

It IS weird about the BBQ with all my friends isn’t it. I told him it was! He thought I would be happy that he’d asked everyone over so that their kids could play with our kids.

Happy Birthday

That is pretty crap not the - nothing organised bit and other stuff going on around it because that is just life- but your dh could have had cards present etc ready it is really just the little things to show you're loved and appreciated that are missing that would bug the hell out of me. Get a bottle of wine in later order take away and chill out do what you want to do for the rest of the day.

Happy Birthday xxx

Yanbu, it is shit

You should go to the shop and buy yourself a card, write it, insert tickets to Venice and open it later and say Venice is your gift to you and you are going with a friend Totally pa but hey ho