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Original poster

I didn't like a 'tell-tale' when I was younger and I still don't

281 replies

LittleMonkeysWideAwake · 30/04/2018 09:08

Those kids that tell on the teacher all the time, or tell you off in a high and mighty way. I didn't like them as a kid, and I don't like them as adults now!

This morning another parent at sons school told me off for my inappropriate parking. I was of course in the wrong! And said so, and apologised. But I'm fuming inside!!! I can't stand busy- bodies who go out of their way to tell me off!

Grrrrrr

Just a rant!

Are you one of those parents? (and we're you one of those kids?) and why do you do it?

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SoupDragon · 30/04/2018 10:02

Sobeyondthehills - I guess they got their punishment then - didn't need you to also butt in.

PMSL. She was trying to stop them getting a ticket! It’s called being helpful.

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LittleMonkeysWideAwake · 30/04/2018 10:03

MirriVan - I don't think I'm special enough. Actually me quite flawed.

I had to make a decision - park breaking the rules and get son to school on time or park further away and he'll be late. In hindsight, I probably picked the wrong option judging by the posters on here. I regret my decision. Maybe he should've been late. Not sure.

I know we should've left the house earlier - but I guess you've all been there so perhaps have a little understanding about my running late.

I'm trying my best to be a good human being! It's hard! (It's even harder when people who don't know you at school come up and have a go!!)

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GertieMotherwell · 30/04/2018 10:05

We all know this type of Mother. The one who drives and parks as near to the school as possible whilst everyone else walks and then has to negotiate pushchairs around inconsiderate parkers.

Odoreida · 30/04/2018 10:06

Definitely parking in the right place and being late would have been the right call here. But loads of other people are like you, so I wouldn't worry too much, you're in the majority!

GertieMotherwell · 30/04/2018 10:08

I think it’s the fact you were offended and annoyed you were called out on it that says a lot tbh. Not that you actually did it.

KnittinKitten · 30/04/2018 10:10

We all know this type of Mother.

We do! I live opposite a primary school. There are loads of them. They fight over getting to pull in across the bloody school gates right where the lollipop man crosses the children. They actually queue in the street to get to that spot so there child has to walk as few steps as possible and they have to do as little driving as possible that isn’t drive straight>stop>drive straight. It’s quite disgusting tbh. I would love to be a parking warden on this street. Never see them though. Mores the pity.

Rikalaily · 30/04/2018 10:10

The main people who dislike telltales or call people grasses are those who don't like to follow the rules or the law themselves. You don't want to be 'grassed on' or told off, then follow the rules that you are supposed to.

I would rather my kids be late than park like a twonk and inconvience others, some idiot parkers at my kids school actually put the rest of us in danger.

bannanapeppers · 30/04/2018 10:11

Tell Tale Tit
Your mammy cannae Knit
Your Daddy cannae go to be without a dummy tit.

AndromedaPerseus · 30/04/2018 10:11

Entitled behaviour - What!
OP do you also have a note stuck to your windscreen saying ”I’ll only be parked for 5 minutes”

Original poster
LittleMonkeysWideAwake · 30/04/2018 10:11

GertieMotherwell - what does it say?

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bannanapeppers · 30/04/2018 10:11

that used to get sung to any gresses when i was at primary school. Wink

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 30/04/2018 10:12

Parents like you drive me mad OP. I see them every single day doing the school run.
Get your shit together and be more organised and you won't need to be a selfish twit and park where you shouldn't.

Good on the other mum.

sobeyondthehills · 30/04/2018 10:12

LittleMonkeysWideAwake

It was no skin off my nose, if they had listened, I would of told them they move their car down one bay, they could park there for 2 hours, would of saved them £80 odd quid and as it is council, they have to pay it

bannanapeppers · 30/04/2018 10:12

grasses not gresses

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LittleMonkeysWideAwake · 30/04/2018 10:13

GreatDuckCookery - have you ever made a mistake? Done the wrong thing? Shown a flaw?

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LaurieMarlow · 30/04/2018 10:14

littlemonkeys your actions do show that you think you're special. You think you should be able to leave late, but at the same time your son not to be disadvantaged and that you should be able to break the rules without consequence to achieve that. If everyone had that attitude there'd be chaos.

I'm often running late, so no judgement from me there. I'm not sure what choice I would have made with the parking (would depend on circumstances) but if I'd broken the rules and someone pointed that out to me, I would have accepted that they were in right and I wasn't. And I wouldn't have done that again.

MirriVan · 30/04/2018 10:14

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Mothertruckeraintnosucker · 30/04/2018 10:15

I fucking hate tell tales went down when my two year old son ratted me out for smoking kush in the car with him absolute nancyboy gave him a right wolloping after xoxox

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 30/04/2018 10:15

Of course OP all the time, but I try and own it when I do and especially so if someone else pulls me up on it.

TawnyPort · 30/04/2018 10:16

This morning another parent at sons school told me off for my inappropriate parking. I was of course in the wrong! And said so, and apologised. But I'm fuming inside!!! I can't stand busy- bodies who go out of their way to tell me off!

Don't park like a dick then and noone will say a word to you. And leave some !! for the other children Hmm

AjasLipstick · 30/04/2018 10:16

I once read a children's story in which a girl calls out the teacher for saying "Stop telling tales"

The girl says "that phrase was made up by bullies to stop people telling others what they're up to"

And I would go with that.

willynillypie · 30/04/2018 10:17

I hate people who think that the rules don't apply to them!

I find it highly unlikely that you didn't know you were parked incorrectly - more likely you tried to get away with it.

I will always, always call someone out in the park if they leave their dog's crap lying around. I don't see how this is any different.

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LittleMonkeysWideAwake · 30/04/2018 10:20

Ok ok! I guess this is why I posted!

I clearly am being unreasonable! Not sure why this man has triggered me so much! (and I will reflect in this later and try and sort my head out on this!!) But feels good to have had a rant! Perhaps I triggered something for him by my parking, and he too felt better for having had a go!

I will try and be more on time in the mornings (to b fair, we r normally pretty good at being on time!) and if I am in this position again, my son will have to be late for school. He's never late so once or twice in a year won't hurt!

Thanks for your honesty everyone!

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GertieMotherwell · 30/04/2018 10:24

GertieMotherwell - what does it say?

It says that you don’t like being told and possibly feel superior. I completely understand why you did it and you’ve gone to great lengths to explain why. We all make mistakes, it’s our reaction to them that counts.

KnittinKitten · 30/04/2018 10:24

It triggered you because you were already stressed with being late and you already knew you had parked wrong so there was a bit of guilt. He tapped into it and because you were already stressed you’ve gone into defensive mode. It’s no big deal, you know you were wrong, just move on now.