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Am I the only one who hates when unemployed people moan that weekend is over

410 replies

Sunflowerhappy · 29/04/2018 19:33

It's just annoying and frustrating.
I work full time and my weekend goes in a flash. Monday mornings are a mad dash between getting ready and doing breakfast club drop off. Finish work and then another mad dash to the school then dds clubs, cooking and tidy up then the bedtime routine it's hard...
Then you get the unemployed who sit and moan about the weekend been over, moaning about the school run or moaning they have so much to do and I think we'll at least you can drop kids off at school at normal time, put on your slouchies to drop off so takes minimal effort, come back and get a cuppa before you do housework etc.

If I get a day off during the week I do the above and it's bloody bliss.
I know I should just ignore and let them get on with it and I know it's none of my business but it's still frustrating all the same.

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KurriKurri · 29/04/2018 20:08

What fresh bollocky fuckery is this?

This.

" SAHM unemployed people - the scourge of our times blah blah blah shitetalk shitetalk shitetalk"
Bugger off, you know nothing about other people's lives.

Lemontart25 · 29/04/2018 20:10

Maybe you need to increase your workload so you don't have time to worry about such things?

^Dying Grin

ChickenOrEgg6 · 29/04/2018 20:10

You do not know who is fighting what battle in their lives. Please try to be kinder.

As someone who's never worked I'm sure I'll come up against loads of judgement, though my H did discourage me and put me down while I job searched and when I did finally get offered a trial I was told he would kill himself/me/both if I got a job as it would "shame him" then slowly but surely he tried to control every inch of my life. We are now seperate but the feelings of hopelessness, fear and inadequacy are still with me. I'm terrified of trying, terrified of failing and even more terrified I'll never get a job. I don't know where to start... I'd be ecstatic at the prospect of cleaning toilets, after so long of feeling like a no one with nothing to contribute. Would you like it if I judged you for bitching?

I'm sure a few weeks off work would be fab for you, but I wonder how you'd feel 6 months or 6 years down the line.
It makes me very sad to think of those who may be facing huge struggles (whether you are aware or not) being judged in such an unkind way.

BrieAndChilli · 29/04/2018 20:11

People may not be in work clothes on the school run because ....

They work from home
They work in a casual office
They work shifts
They work evenings/nights/weekends
They have an illness/disability
They have a husband that supports them to be at home while the kids are small
They have a private income/inheritance
They are on benefits

SunnySkiesSleepsintheMorning · 29/04/2018 20:12

SAHM bashing is really rather dull. I’m not even a SAHM and I think your post is rude and twatty.

Tiredtomybones · 29/04/2018 20:12

Flowers fannyfelcher

PlaymobilPirate · 29/04/2018 20:12

My cousin regularly lists her chores for the day ahead 'oh god, beds to make, stairs to Hoover, ironing to do, dinner to prep.....' on Facebook.

She's a scrounge who's never worked. Kids are grown up. Does my tits in... I do all that shit AND work full time.

evilharpy · 29/04/2018 20:12

I was unemployed for a few months after we moved to a different part of the country. I hated not working, I spent hours every day searching for and applying for jobs and getting lots of rejections which was soul destroying. I had no friends here (yet) and was terribly lonely during the week when my husband was at work so lived for the weekends when he was home all day, and dreaded Monday morning when it was back to feeling lonely, worthless and unemployable again.

It was a miserable time and I was only out of work for about three months.

So no judgement from me.

hdh747 · 29/04/2018 20:13

Ooh look at that lovely green grass next door. With a lawn like that they must have a perfect life. They had better bloody appreciate it or I'll piss on their petunias.

Whenwillitstop1 · 29/04/2018 20:13

I sort of agree. A stay at home mum of a baby or pre schooler doesn't sit about all day and have it easy, it can be bloody hard. I say that as a mum of a 2 year old. However once your child is at school I honestly don't understand what you would do all day. I get that some women don't have to work as they live off their husbands money but personally I'd rather have a career and something to call mine, that's why ill be going back to work next year. Women who are disabled or are carers are obviously not sitting about all day doing nothing.

gamerwidow · 29/04/2018 20:15

I hate competitive busyness. Everyone has stuff to do, everyone gets tired and stressed, everyone needs a break and enjoys being able to spend time with their families.
You're not special because you work nor do you have more rights to be tired and stressed than those who don't work.
Fwiw I currently work FT in a senior management role, and I Chair the PTA , and I look after my elderly mum. Perhaps I should look down on the OP for thinking she works hard with her piddling responsibility of just a job. I think instead I'll not be a twat and just respect the fact she's doing her best the same as everyone else.

FoxyRoxy · 29/04/2018 20:16

I hate it when people who are lucky enough to work Monday to Friday moan about the weekend being over when I've spent it stuck in work but, you know, everyone's lives are different and if I spent my life being annoyed at other people for having different circumstances to me I'd be annoyed all the time. Yabu.

blackteasplease · 29/04/2018 20:17

I think you mean sahp / housewives / househusbands which is not the same.

But might still be annoying. But maybe they like habing their kids at home which is a nice thing.

iamyourequal · 29/04/2018 20:18

Idontbelieveinthemoon

Also, SAHM's aren't really unemployed, they're raising their children whilst also not taking anything from the system.
True indeed for some who have partners in a good salary or their own money. But there are also many taking plenty from the system in income support and tax credits/ UC.

MombieMumbles · 29/04/2018 20:19

I'm what you would regard as unemployed having taken a break from work after 20+ years of 50+ hours per week, pregnant now with second child. I get pretty narked off on a Sunday night with the thought of Monday morning looming as it signals a week of domestic drudgery, school runs, looking after the home single-handedly (hubs works away a lot), seeing to both sets of elderly in laws who invariably need carting around to 'the club' or the supermarket. My days are generally filled and although I do get a chance to sit down and have a coffee in peace I do do an awful lot which makes me appreciate the weekend. Thank God I don't have the added burden of having to look for work too.

I am inclined to agree with @insancerre.

TheFirstMrsDV · 29/04/2018 20:19

THis thread reminds me of when that Tory wanker blapped on about neighbours being fed up of seeing the house next door with the curtains still closed at 10am.
Because the Tory wanker didn't know enough about the world of real work to understand about shift work.

TheFirstMrsDV · 29/04/2018 20:20

Also, SAHM's aren't really unemployed, they're raising their children whilst also not taking anything from the system

Everyone takes something from the system.

BamBamIsALittleShit · 29/04/2018 20:20

I don't like it when the weekend is over because I like having my husband here with me and the kids.

People are allowed to have different reasons for not wanting the weekend to end.

Why does it matter to you if I'm "unemployed" (actually just finished maternity leave and completing an online course prior to uni starting), why is my preference for the weekend less important than yours?

Crack on with your own life, it doesn't matter what everyone else is doing.

expatinscotland · 29/04/2018 20:22

Another one of these threads.

And you're deluding yourself if you think anyone is taking plenty from UC.

Judydreamsofhorses · 29/04/2018 20:22

My partner is currently unemployed. He says the weekend is the only time he feels normal, because most people are “off”. He hates not working (hasn’t had any benefits after six months, as I work) and would do absolutely anything to be dreading Monday because of a long commute or a busy day of meetings.

TheFirstMrsDV · 29/04/2018 20:23

Is this a TAAT OP?
Because they are not allowed.

Original poster
Sunflowerhappy · 29/04/2018 20:23

Yes the ones I'm talking about are on benefits or their husbands work/claim benefits. They moan about the weekend been over, all the jobs they have to do etc and I find it annoying because i have all that to do with a full time job on top and I'm tired.
One of them is even going to Disney land I just don't know how they manage it.
I know iabu and it's none of my business but it still gets me wondering and it still annoys me.
I saw all the doom and gloom Sunday posts on Facebook moaning about Monday school run and oh I hope it's not raining and think oh shup up. But as they do say grass isn't always greener but we all have things that annoy us.
As I have said I didn't mean to offend anyone who isn't working through not having a choice or people with real struggles....i meant stay at home mum's with school age children who choose not to work through choice that moan to full timers about how pressed for time they are.

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MorningsEleven · 29/04/2018 20:24

Mymycherrypie

❤loving your post.

PamsterWheel · 29/04/2018 20:24

Oh this is a dig at SAHM. Lazy cunts, the lorra them. Don't know their born. S'alright for some.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 29/04/2018 20:24

Oh. OP. Don't be a dick.

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