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Am I the only one who hates when unemployed people moan that weekend is over

410 replies

Sunflowerhappy · 29/04/2018 19:33

It's just annoying and frustrating.
I work full time and my weekend goes in a flash. Monday mornings are a mad dash between getting ready and doing breakfast club drop off. Finish work and then another mad dash to the school then dds clubs, cooking and tidy up then the bedtime routine it's hard...
Then you get the unemployed who sit and moan about the weekend been over, moaning about the school run or moaning they have so much to do and I think we'll at least you can drop kids off at school at normal time, put on your slouchies to drop off so takes minimal effort, come back and get a cuppa before you do housework etc.

If I get a day off during the week I do the above and it's bloody bliss.
I know I should just ignore and let them get on with it and I know it's none of my business but it's still frustrating all the same.

OP posts:
TheTroublesomestTribble · 29/04/2018 19:59

Yes stay at home mum's of school age children are the ones I'm talking about

...but these people are not unemployed, to be unemployed is defined as being actively seeking and available for work. Being a SAHP is quite a different category of occupation but I think you already know that and are using deliberately goady language

I'm sorry you're feeling the green-eyed monster this evening, but the solution to this is to make changes to your own life, not take chunks out of other women who have made different choices to you.

PinkbicyclesinBerlin · 29/04/2018 20:00

Don’t we all hate the end of Sunday’s. Surely that is universal. What has being employed or unemployed got to do with it.

mumofthemonsters808 · 29/04/2018 20:00

It's not a walk in the park being unemployed, it destroys your soul, it's very lonely and isolating and although work my be exhausting and boring at times, it provides us with our identity and gives our week some sort of structure. I hope you never have to experience long term employment because it can break you, so my advice is to appreciate that you are able to work and enjoy the money that it brings.Forget about throwaway comments that other people make.

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 29/04/2018 20:00

Can I offer you a teeny tiny violin?

I would love a teeny weeny violin SoupDragon if you've one going spare. I went for a run today with my pre-teen and he outshone me, out-ran me and generally out-did me in every way. And now the weekend's over and I've got to go back to work and rush everywhere all over again and I've not got a single evening this week free. Play that tiny violin, play it loud!

ConciseandNice · 29/04/2018 20:00

People can suck. I work from home for a company in Europe and usually am in running gear. I was treated like dirt on the school run at a new location because no one knew me and must have assumed I was a layabout. I turned up suited and booted straight from the airport once to do pick up and I was asked if I’d been at a job interview. I told them no and that I was a company director and I had a meeting unfortunately. Changed their tune. Tragically I also decided they were a bunch of tosses.

SoupDragon · 29/04/2018 20:00

It's irritating.

Do you know what is even more irritating? People bitching about SAHMs. It’s tedious, it’s nasty and it is unnecessary. Somehow it is seen as more acceptable than people complaining about working parents.

Rufustheconstantreindeer · 29/04/2018 20:00

Bollocky fuckery

Grin
CheeseTheDay · 29/04/2018 20:01

If you're not happy with your current situation, perhaps it would be more productive to look at ways of changing it (new job?), rather than sniping about SAHPs.

SoupDragon · 29/04/2018 20:02

I would love a teeny weeny violin SoupDragon if you've one going spare. I went for a run today with my pre-teen and he outshone me, out-ran me and generally out-did me in every way.

Here you are 🎻 you deserve it. There is no way on earth I would take on any of my children in anything other than bananagrams

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 29/04/2018 20:02

Also, SAHM's aren't really unemployed, they're raising their children whilst also not taking anything from the system so can hardly be accused of anything untoward. Do you think because they don't work they have a more cushy life than you? I'm pretty sure most parents have the same struggles, stresses and worries regardless of their employment situation.

I have friends who have become SAHM's and friends who work (I teach, too) and we're equally deserving of our nights out and time away.

Lemontart25 · 29/04/2018 20:02

Yes stay at home mum's of school age children are the ones I'm talking about.

But I do it to support us without relying on benefits....these people still manage to afford trips to Disney land and I can't afford a camping holiday 10 miles away. It's irritating.

So you KNOW for a fact all these people claim benefits?Hmm
None of them can possibly have a husband that earns enough for them to be at home as a preference for what works best for their family?!

TheOriginalEmu · 29/04/2018 20:03

i never understand when people get so pissy about 'the uemployed'. If you want it SO badly, just give up your job. its not hard to make yourself unemployed if thats what you like in life.

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 29/04/2018 20:03

There is no way on earth I would take on any of my children in anything other than bananagrams

This is my new life mantra.

mancmummy1414 · 29/04/2018 20:03

I am a (part time) working mum now but before that I was a SAHM and looked forward to the weekend because my DH was home and I got some help.
OP - entitled goady fucker

RedForFilth · 29/04/2018 20:04

This wouldn't annoy me. I'm a single parent to a toddler with no support. I work full time and look after 2 poorly grandparents as much as i can. But I still understand life is also rough for others more fortunate than myself because it's all relative.

Maybe you need to increase your workload so you don't have time to worry about such things?

Rufustheconstantreindeer · 29/04/2018 20:05

there is no way on earth I would take on any of my children in anything other than bananagrams

Wouldnt even do bananagrams

Apparently I'm awesome at spotting other peoples words...not quite so good at my own

BakedBeans47 · 29/04/2018 20:06

*I have never heard an 'unemployed' person say 'thank God it's Friday.'

Ever.^

This

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 29/04/2018 20:06

Ahh when mine were at school and I was schlepping off to do my ver' ver' worthwhile and caring NHS work , the Other Mothers were all farting off to have their nails done and eyebrows threaded.
Then larding in the garden toasting themselves before driving back to school in white trousers and flip flops .
While I sweated till 4.30 (only because I did compressed hours to finish earlier and pick up from AfterSchoolClub)

They all had better holidays than me and drove better cars.
Envy

Moonandstars84 · 29/04/2018 20:06

Yabu. Maybe a sah likes spending time with their family and hates that the weekend is over as there dh has to go to work.
I only work very part time hours but prefer holidays and weekends.

fannyfelcher · 29/04/2018 20:06

I am unemployed. And a mum of four. And I am chronically Ill with several auto-immune diseases that are eating my joints and right now I am not being medicated so am in pain 24/7. So much pain not even opiate based pills touch it.

Why the fuck should I dread Monday's?

Because it does not matter how I slept, I have to get up for my kids and get them to school. Even though it feels like my shoes are filled with marbles when I walk and it is, in fact, my bones poking through the fatty padding in my soles due to the inflamation. Because I suffer with dry mouth and eyes so much I can barely see or talk at times.

And because every day I get to sit at home alone while every other member of my family has a life. Then they come home and they do the chores that I have been unable to do as my hips and knees can't bend to get to the washing machine , and my hands can't weight bear. And there is a lot of washing because I get chest infections and pneumonia pretty regularly and cough until I choke and then it is pretty much guaranteed that I will wet myself from sheer fear that I am dying.

But yeah, I am just an unemployed bum that should appreciate Mondays.

And when you all pipe in " Oh but not YOU, not sick people......just remember it is your judgie hoiky pants that cause you to make threads like this and people like me feel bad for not being able to wear office wear on the playground and have lunch with our work mates. You club us all together under one umbrella and then act all offended when one of us points out that rather than being lazy chancers we would rather be able to GO TO WORK. I would love to put my post grad education to use, I would get a damn sight more than I do now.

boywiththebrokensmile2 · 29/04/2018 20:07

''They may miss the company of their family and have to go back to long, lonely, depressing days alone. As they say you need to walk a mile in their shoes ....''

mmm you would be surprised, my aunt never worked and was a housewife and mother of four and she never stopped working- if you are running a household with kids and a husband, elderly relatives etc. as her mil lived beside them and she would often come and help her own dm who lived with her db to clean etc. There is plenty to do. You get into a routine-you certainly do to be in employment to be kept busy especially if you have kids and a husband etc.

Greenyogagirl · 29/04/2018 20:07

Wow I think you have issues and are very unhappy in your own life!

TheOriginalEmu · 29/04/2018 20:07

im a SAHM to school age kids, and i often do the school run half dead and then head straight back to bed. because i'm also the parent of a child with adhd/asd who doesn't sleep for more than 3 hours a night. so those naps i get after he's gone to school keep me alive. you woulnd't know that if our kids go to the same school though, because I don't broadcast it. in other words, we all have our own issues. stop being a judgy fuck.

Looneytune253 · 29/04/2018 20:08

Surely people whether they work or not, can enjoy their families company and not want them to go back to work/school? Might not have anything to do with dreading the actual day/week ahead. Just the face they do actually enjoy family time

Mymycherrypie · 29/04/2018 20:08

I’m a SAHM and I can moan about whatever the fuck I like thankyou Smile I don’t like the weekends being over because I miss my kids when they are at school. If you don’t like it, perhaps you should have made different life choices. You can still do that you know, instead of being so bitter.