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Am I the only one who hates when unemployed people moan that weekend is over

410 replies

Sunflowerhappy · 29/04/2018 19:33

It's just annoying and frustrating.
I work full time and my weekend goes in a flash. Monday mornings are a mad dash between getting ready and doing breakfast club drop off. Finish work and then another mad dash to the school then dds clubs, cooking and tidy up then the bedtime routine it's hard...
Then you get the unemployed who sit and moan about the weekend been over, moaning about the school run or moaning they have so much to do and I think we'll at least you can drop kids off at school at normal time, put on your slouchies to drop off so takes minimal effort, come back and get a cuppa before you do housework etc.

If I get a day off during the week I do the above and it's bloody bliss.
I know I should just ignore and let them get on with it and I know it's none of my business but it's still frustrating all the same.

OP posts:
BoomBoomsCousin · 29/04/2018 20:25

I'm a SAHM. I don't complain often about having too much to do, but when I do it's not normally really that I have too much, it's that what I have to do is shit and boring and will get little thanks and I don't want to do it. Which is pretty much what most people with jobs complain about too.

And when I complain that the weekend is over it's because the best bit of my week is over. Which, again, is pretty much what most people complain about.

LondonJax · 29/04/2018 20:25

Well I'm a SAHM with a soon to be secondary school age child.

I started my own business two years ago as I couldn't get a job because I also care for my mum who has Alzheimer's, a heart condition, diabetes and Vascular Dementia. One year she had 27 appointment for me to cover with her - no one is going to employ you for long when you need to take that sort of time off. So I began my own business.

So I turn up for the school run in jeans and t-shirt. If I had a rough night with phone calls from my mum (3am being her favourite time to call), I'd go back to bed when I dropped DC off - why not, I was at home? I also go for coffee with friends.

But because I work for myself I can dictate my hours. So if I have orders to do and I also want to meet a friend for coffee I work into the night to complete it.

And I love weekends as I don't take orders then, I spend time with my family and I have my husband's support and company.

Just because people wear 'sloppy' clothes on the school run or say they are going back to bed doesn't mean a thing.

And even when I was working in an office I still made a cuppa the minute I walked into work so I don't understand the remark about SAHP being able to make a cuppa before their day starts.

PamsterWheel · 29/04/2018 20:25

They're

Dragged up me

Ravenesque · 29/04/2018 20:26

The thing with being long-time unemployed (in my case due to disability), is that you get used to people slagging you off and making all manner of assumptions about your life, your laziness, all the millions of pounds of benefit that you're "scrounging" off the good tax payers, and while it's sometimes really upsetting, like when it's five days until you get some money again and you have about a quid in your purse, or you hate not having spare money to go out or to enjoy the things that people seem to think you can enjoy when you're not working, eventually it's water off a duck's back.

Our society needs people to look down on and for the past few years one of those people - who worked hard, paid tax and did all of those things that apparently make someone deserving - and my attitude is "have at it!" Very few of us are as secure in our jobs or our health as we think we are and must of us know very little of the lives lived by those around us. We're all dealing with our own issues, better to focus on those rather than getting annoyed at people you think somehow have it easier than you.

NorthStarGrassman · 29/04/2018 20:26

I do the school run and then go to work every day. You wouldn’t guess it from what I’m generally wearing though...

CadyHeron · 29/04/2018 20:27

i wish I didn't have to work, I hate working. But I do it to support us without relying on benefits....these people still manage to afford trips to Disney land and I can't afford a camping holiday 10 miles away. It's irritating

Ah. Was reading OP like Hmm as it didn't sound like you were having a problem with unemployed, just SAHM's. Looks like I was right.
You sound jealous and bitter as hell.
It's not always greener on the other side,you know. The monotony, the wanting a job, but having been out of work for several years due to having children, unable to do conventional hours or overtime due to dh doing shift work and needing childcare - not always as easy as just get a job.
Work on that chip on your shoulder instead of judging others, live and let live. You'll feel much happier.

YouCantBeSirius · 29/04/2018 20:27

Well OP you could always give up your job and have lots of lovely holidays to Disneyland.

eastegg · 29/04/2018 20:27

You could say Lemons that it's the parents in 'office wear' in the playground who have it the easiest of all ie a decent job, probably in a nice calm environment, which allows them to be able to pick up and drop off at school, in other words what some might call a bit dossy.

You're going to tell me your job isn't dossy now aren't you? That's why it's not a good idea to make wild assumptions.

When I was working (criminal barrister on mat leave), if you saw me in workwear in the playground I would already have been running about an hour and a half late for court, which is why it didn't happen. Plenty of times I was in scruffs though, either looking after small children or having a day of doing prep work and getting paid nothing for it!

IamPickleRick · 29/04/2018 20:28

I agree. Don’t go to work tmw. Let’s swap! Come round and take my two under twos, ailing mother and her incontinent dog, older child to pick up, the three other children I collect and walk home and I can take your job!

I assume you get a lunch break for quiet contemplation? An uninterrupted commute to and from work?

I don’t actually hate Monday’s, I hate people who have to take ownership of moaning off other people because they’ve clearly got it the worst and how dare anyone else say so. Piss off.

YouCantBeSirius · 29/04/2018 20:28

I bet they have a goat and a flat screen TV as well.

PortiaCastis · 29/04/2018 20:29

Oh yippee a benefits bashing thread for a Sunday evening.

Amanduh · 29/04/2018 20:29

Jeez I hate bitter, sad women having a go at SAHP because they’re massively bitter we aren’t poor like them and don’t have to go to work. Sorry I’m not a part time parent and can actually afford to look after my children.

Yeah imagine how you’d feel about that vile post if the boot was on the other foot? The ignorance is astounding. It’s like saying I can’t moan about the flu because someone has a terminal illness. I can’t moan about a 5am wakeup because someone elses child was up at 4. It’s all relative. Just stop being a goady dick

SoupDragon · 29/04/2018 20:29

As I have said I didn't mean to offend anyone who isn't working through not having a choice or people with real struggles....i meant stay at home mum's with school age children who choose not to work through choice that moan to full timers about how pressed for time they are.

Do you think that makes you sound any better?

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 29/04/2018 20:30

iamyourequal there are also lots of full time workers getting topped up with tax credits. No one is morally better than anyone else, on account of working/not working.
Women pitting themselves against other women for totally spurious reasons is just serving the patriarchy and doing the Tories job for them, in buying into the notion that tax payers are more important people than anyone else.

madmomma · 29/04/2018 20:30

You're very bitter, op. And competitive busyness is so boring. Maybe focus on those worse off than you rather than those with a nicer lifestyle.

EdmundCleverClogs · 29/04/2018 20:31

Obvious goady fucker is obvious.

coffeecupofmilk · 29/04/2018 20:31

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Idontdowindows · 29/04/2018 20:34

I think you forgot to lock the door on the goad barn.

Rufustheconstantreindeer · 29/04/2018 20:34

Its much too late to dig yourself out of the hole your post has put you in sunflower

The backtracking is leaving divots in the carpet

Rawhh · 29/04/2018 20:35

I was briefly unemployed.

Weekends broke up the monotony- being able to see people, not having yo focus all my attention on job searching.

I had a holiday the week before I started my new job - it was amazing.

Until you have lived with the stress of joblessness that feels like 10 tonnes on your chest you cannot judge.

If you are talking about SAHP then you are also BVU. The week is still an on going treadmill of life that is relentless you will find that SAHP will in the majority fill their time doing things WOHP don't do. My mum never stopped and was exhausted by the end of the week. She finds working and studying far easier now we are all older.

Plumsofwrath · 29/04/2018 20:35

Well OP, personally I think you should have tried harder at school. Then maybe you wouldn’t have to work so hard, or could pay someone to do your housework and chores.

How does that feel, now?

Jeez.

OpalIridescence · 29/04/2018 20:35

Comparison is the theif of joy.

Honestly, I find if I start to feel sorry for myself at all I get really unhappy.

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StayingAtTamaras · 29/04/2018 20:35

This could be said the same for stay at home parents couldn't it?

Ghanagirl · 29/04/2018 20:36

*Amanduh

Jeez I hate bitter, sad women having a go at SAHP because they’re massively bitter we aren’t poor like them and don’t have to go to work. Sorry I’m not a part time parent and can actually afford to look after my children.*
Very mean post, as there's no such thing as a "partime parent".
Also bragging that you're not poor is incredibly boastful and rude.

ellsbells2 · 29/04/2018 20:37

I am one of those parents you so despise. I am a SAHM and both my children are at school. I love the weekends as my family are all together and yes, for me, they go too quickly.

Yes, during the week I have time to do household chores and shopping without kids in tow, whoopee do. It's not stimulating, I spend a lot of time on my own and it's monotonous. We made the choice we felt was best for our family and I don't regret it.

What pisses me off when people like you think everything is rosy and being a SAHM is code for being a lazy fuck. If you mind your own business you'd probably find yourself less bitter and less judgemental.