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Am I the only one who hates when unemployed people moan that weekend is over

410 replies

Sunflowerhappy · 29/04/2018 19:33

It's just annoying and frustrating.
I work full time and my weekend goes in a flash. Monday mornings are a mad dash between getting ready and doing breakfast club drop off. Finish work and then another mad dash to the school then dds clubs, cooking and tidy up then the bedtime routine it's hard...
Then you get the unemployed who sit and moan about the weekend been over, moaning about the school run or moaning they have so much to do and I think we'll at least you can drop kids off at school at normal time, put on your slouchies to drop off so takes minimal effort, come back and get a cuppa before you do housework etc.

If I get a day off during the week I do the above and it's bloody bliss.
I know I should just ignore and let them get on with it and I know it's none of my business but it's still frustrating all the same.

OP posts:
QuiQuaiQuod · 30/04/2018 12:26

I work 168 hours a week, that's 24/7.

But I'm classed as umemployed as I'm a full time carer for my disabled child, and have my own disabilities.

I'm registered at the job centre as a registered carer, plus I home school as Dc has multiple physical and mental issues and cant be in a social envioronment.

Sats and Suns are spent 'chilling' as much as poss, although the caring and seeing to Dcs needs don't ever stop.

I hate the weekends being over as its another round of council/camhs/other so called services and doctors/hosp appts etc etc, where most of these are shut for the weekend so we don't get bothered by them.

our weekends are bliss mostly, and I hate the weeks.

I see where you're coming from OP with the lazy feckless workshy, but don't put us all in the same boat please.

QuiQuaiQuod · 30/04/2018 12:28

Also I agree with Devil

Mookatron · 30/04/2018 12:33

I'm tempted to start my own goady thread about WOHP and see how long it lasts.

The problem is I actually think people live their lives as they see fit and can moan about whatever they want. If that pisses you off because you're not living your life how you want, do something about it.

LiteraryDevil · 30/04/2018 12:53

Mook you should! Bet it gets deleted though Hmm

stayathomer · 30/04/2018 12:53

I can slightly understand how it must be annoying but then in another way nobody nobody nobody has a simple perfect life and very few sahms go home and are lazy, sit about people and those who do no doubt wish they had something better to do. Some of us are not sahms by choice, but are regularly tarred with the 'you're lazy and rich' brush. You can list the people you didn't mean, but actually YABU because everybody has their own crap in life. Fair dues to the people who have been nice and/or diplomatic on this thread which was written just to pit people against each other.

youthrewmysandwichAWAY · 30/04/2018 13:00

I love a good SAHM bash because it reminds me why I am one. It is something to envy and I'm lucky. ;)

stayathomer · 30/04/2018 13:01

Oh and by the way I think working parents are fan-frigging-incredible!

Moonandstars84 · 30/04/2018 13:01

Thanks myfriend So looking forward to it.

Mumto2two · 30/04/2018 13:09

Or perhaps OP and the likes...just haven’t ‘worked hard enough’ to get themselves to the position in life, where that choice is possible?! Or they haven’t made the right choices in life..or chosen the right path...either way, they are clearly unhappy with their lot.
It’s a bit of a dig of course, but what can you say to a post like this. But thinking about it, and the choice between working or SAH, as like many of us, both DH and I had to work our butts off throughout our careers, to get to where we were at. From uni to long hours at work, with years of professional exams on top. Our 20s were not a joy. They were long and arduous, but a means to an end. Our 30s were no better, and certainly not conducive to family life, as we then discovered. We were grateful to have that choice when the time came to reconsider the dynamics of our family, and how it wasn’t working when we were both not there. And then there have been other curve balls since...you do what you do to work around these things.
Whether OP has that choice or not, they clearly do not appreciate, that some people make the choices they do, for whatever reasons life has bestowed them. And looking down on others with such a tone of misplaced superiority, is just frankly quite sad & ignorant.

mummabearfoyrbabybears · 30/04/2018 13:16

I'm intentionally unemployed (stay at home mum) but all my children are at school. I love the weekends, my kids are here, no one has to be somewhere. We can have fun and play and bake. Then Monday comes and it's rushing to get them out of the door and saying goodbye. I love the weekends and Fridays. Monday's, not so much. Not really that sorry either op Grin

mummabearfoyrbabybears · 30/04/2018 13:18

We don't claim benefits either and my husband was severely injured fighting for his country. Is that any better?

KarmaStar · 30/04/2018 13:29

An extremely judgy thread OP and very unpleasant for people who really want to work,whose Careers have been ended due to disablement ,who are alone,for retired people who miss the busy working life.
For people who full their days with charity work,housework,gardening,studying,helping neighbours and family,so they keep busy.so they feel 'worth'something in society.for the many many people in these situations,you really need to think before starting threads!

FrustratedTeddyLamp · 30/04/2018 13:38

Not that i agree with OP but i find it fascinating it seems like the majority of replies were in support of OP until it became clear they were talking aboit SAHM's 🤔 seems a bit like yeah let's have a dig at those people...oh shit they mean me!

The80sweregreat · 30/04/2018 13:43

you will never win regardless of what you choose to do or not do.

LiteraryDevil · 30/04/2018 13:44

I've decided to sit and have a cup of tea and watch some CBeebies with my boy. Because I can Grin Very kind of you to suggest I sit on my arse and watch tv OP. Excellent suggestion. I do t know why I don't do it more often really. Oh yeah, because the house and 3 kids don't take care of themselves, that's why!

GrimSqueaker · 30/04/2018 13:57

For people who full their days with charity work, housework, gardening, studying, helping neighbours and family, so they keep busy.so they feel 'worth'something in society.for the many many people in these situations,you really need to think before starting threads!

Nah they just take a pop at those ones as well - was a nice one laying into those who volunteer in their kids' schools recently as well... that's wrong as well.

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 30/04/2018 13:59

I agree with this completely.

Macarena1990 · 30/04/2018 14:11

youthrewmysandwichAWAY

Me too! Love every day and have done for the last 6 years. Fuck working - life is way too short!!

Mumto2two · 30/04/2018 14:22

FrustratedTeddyLamp...I think most of us knew exactly who the OP was implying when she used the term ‘unemployed’.
But as other more well informed posters have stated, that category can encompass a whole host of people. To be truly ‘unemployed’, means you have no use or utility....and I hardly think that can be levied at the vast majority of people implied in the OPs very misjudged post.

CalF123 · 30/04/2018 14:27

Fully agree OP. I think we should reintroduce poorhouses for the unemployed- they should be forced to work 12 hours a day, 7 days a week. How very dare they think they deserve 'weekends' when they're leeching £50 a week off our hard-earned wages.

BitchQueen90 · 30/04/2018 14:31

OP just get a grip. I'm a WOHP and I think everyone has the right to feel glad that it's the weekend/to moan about housework/school runs etc. That includes SAHP and people on unemployment benefits.

MyFriendFlickaWasAHorse · 30/04/2018 14:59

@FrustratedTeddyLamp

Unemployed is the word cunts use to describe sahms (I’d say sahps, but it’s usually just mums these folk are after. You’d almost think they didn’t like women or something...*) on mumsnet.

see @pooryorick*’s theory

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 30/04/2018 15:04

I'm not unemployed OP. I choose not to work and if I want to moan that my life is hard at times so be it.

Just because people have time on their hands because their dc are at school doesn't mean they don't have other problems or things to worry about.

Whenthereshope · 30/04/2018 15:06

It's annoying but we prob all do the equivalent in a way. I know a very rich family, she's a stay at home Mum, never worked but kids all in nursery by 1. She moans like mad about the "school runs" but she also has a child with severe autism and I moan about my child's normal humdrum childhood traits in front of her. Not deliberately but it's just part of conversation. She's prob thinking "oh shut up, you have no idea" which is what I think when I finish a 65 hr week and see her moaning about the school run.

willynillypie · 30/04/2018 15:50

Some of us are not sahms by choice, but are regularly tarred with the 'you're lazy and rich' brush

If someone's husband is wealthy enough and happy for their wife not to work, whose business is it and why is it acceptable for people to have a go at them just because they have money?

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