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AIBU?

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Am I the only one who hates when unemployed people moan that weekend is over

410 replies

Sunflowerhappy · 29/04/2018 19:33

It's just annoying and frustrating.
I work full time and my weekend goes in a flash. Monday mornings are a mad dash between getting ready and doing breakfast club drop off. Finish work and then another mad dash to the school then dds clubs, cooking and tidy up then the bedtime routine it's hard...
Then you get the unemployed who sit and moan about the weekend been over, moaning about the school run or moaning they have so much to do and I think we'll at least you can drop kids off at school at normal time, put on your slouchies to drop off so takes minimal effort, come back and get a cuppa before you do housework etc.

If I get a day off during the week I do the above and it's bloody bliss.
I know I should just ignore and let them get on with it and I know it's none of my business but it's still frustrating all the same.

OP posts:
JohnMcCainsDeathStare · 30/04/2018 07:58

I used to moan about the weekend being over when I was unemployed as it was the only time I felt normal and not some unemployed freak. It was for 6 months but time dilated during that time while my money didn't.

Gardai · 30/04/2018 07:58

You are not (obviously) reading the responses to your one sided bitter tirade about us tracksuit wearing tea drinking sloths that make your life HELL. You need to unfollow those twats you know on Facebook, they are making you bitter. I don't know anyone who posts such shite on FB.

You need to change your job if it is making you so unhappy and you obviously have too much time on your hands to FB when you should be diligently working your smug arse off.

Now get to work OP, I've some tea to drink.Brew

QueenOfMyWorld · 30/04/2018 08:00

Op but so what if they don't work? It doesn't affect you personally

MoistCantaloupe · 30/04/2018 08:01

Sorry you don't like your own life OP.

ScipioAfricanus · 30/04/2018 08:02

You seem to be moaning more than they are, OP. Maybe you shouldn’t throw stones while living in a glass house.

Laiste · 30/04/2018 08:12

Goodness me really you're coming across as a bit of a fool now OP. So we've boiled this down to:

AIBU - A very specific type of person (who may or may not be 'on benefits', i don't actually know) annoys me if they have a moan about their day because i'm fed up with working and i can't afford Disney Land''

Hmm. This really shines a light on you and your state of mind rather than anything else. No?

Smeddum · 30/04/2018 08:16

I have literally never met anyone, anyone on benefits who can afford to go to Disneyland. Ever.

1derwoman · 30/04/2018 08:17

Weekend? I work from home. Some people think that I am 'unemployed' because I do not 'go out' to work. I get up at 5.30 am so that I can get some work done before my son gets up and 'caring' responsibilities begin. He experiences mental ill health.

Weekends are just an extension of the week, but I am less likely to be bombarded by tasks and e-mails from my online employers.

Please do not evaluate people by 'appearances'. Many of the 'unemployed' people may be carers, home workers, zero hour employees and so on.

Ariela · 30/04/2018 08:20

I hope you don't assume that because I'm not dressed in a sharp suit and heels that I'm not working?

Maybe you are one of the mums who said 'are you ok to have DC for inset day seeing as you don't have to go out to work?' Or 'can you pick up DC and take to Cubs/swimming?' Or encouraged their child to say 'my mum said it's Ok to come to yours for tea'.
I didn't mind, but it was sometimes annoying and did impact on my working hours, and loss of time affected what I could earn.
Us self employed can look smart in business attire when needed, but more often than not we simply hadn't had time to dress up for the school run.

Ariela · 30/04/2018 08:21

and FWIW I wouldn't pay to go to Disneyland. Or go if I was paid.

LiteraryDevil · 30/04/2018 08:24
Biscuit
Mookatron · 30/04/2018 08:29

Ugh. Monday. Back to coming back home and picking my arse in front of the telly. No rest for the wicked!

Ariela · 30/04/2018 08:30

Actually I don't think OP's post is about people moaning the weekend is over, but the fact she cannot afford to go to Disneyland.
I suggest a complete clampdown on unnecessary spending, sell anything no longer played with our outgrown, trim all budgets, and see how much you can save. Or take on a bar job 1 evening a week. Might take a few years but is surely do-able especially if you do Paris.
Or try and win one, plenty of competitions about eg promo.heart.co.uk/contests/2013/disneyworld/win/

JaneyEJones · 30/04/2018 08:37

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DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 30/04/2018 08:41

Sorry OP, didn't work for 3 months and dreaded Sunday evening as it meant saying goodbye to DP (not cohabiting) and knowing in the morning I'd be getting back on the job search treadmill and picking back up the exhaustive round of appointments for DM (I stopped work to help her after a health issue) or doing jobs to help DM or using the time to catch up on things in my own life - admin, appointments. I was pretty busy and packed a lot in but I did manage a much needed holiday for 5 days. Which I paid for myself.

coffeeforone · 30/04/2018 08:43

OP - you sound a little jealous of SAHMs.

Everyone has their own reasons for enjoying the weekend. For a lot it’s because they get to spend more time with their kids and partner, regardless of how they spend their weekdays. YABU

coffeeforone · 30/04/2018 08:45

And FWIW I work full time, drop off at 8am and home at 7pm. I hope SAHMs wouldn’t judge in any way, just like I wouldn’t judge

PickAChew · 30/04/2018 08:53

They should think themselves lucky they don't have to put up with you at the school gates, OP.

Though tell me, how are you having these conversations with feckless mums at the school gates when you're so busy elsewhere?

imweirdandcool · 30/04/2018 08:55

no i get annoyed when people who CHOOSE to have children then complain about how poor they are and that they have to work full time ext

Graphista · 30/04/2018 08:58

Do you mean?

Jobseekers - who are having to face soul destroying judgmental dwp staff and targets? Having to spend the same number of hours if not more job seeking so effectively working at getting a job? Constant rejection, being made to attend interviews for jobs where either the employer already knows who they're going to hire or job centre knows you don't have the quals/experience. Whilst also living on a VERY ltd budget and seeing their family go without?

"cause well I had loads of time." I'm guessing YOU were unemployed quite some time ago because it hasn't been like that for years.

Carers who are actually doing a job they just don't get recognition or proper payment for it. In addition they are seeing someone they love decline, in pain, possibly dying - that must be SO easy! 🤔 plus getting no break themselves or very few, quite possibly getting hit, verbally abused, spat at, vomited, peed and shat on (literally) again by someone they love.

Sahm who quite possibly have younger DC at home to raise/care for in addition to the school age children, who have more housework as when people inc children are home more there's more mess created. Even if no DC during school day - school day ISN'T that long. I was at uni when dd started school and there was an overlap between her going to school and my term starting. Thought I'd have loads of time - nope! By the time I'd done any errands and the housework it was time to leave to collect her. They may ALSO be job seeking in addition.

Disabled/sick - who are constantly battling their illness/condition, perhaps dealing with constant excruciating pain, who are maybe also living on a very ltd budget and seeing their family go without as a result, who are probably experiencing ignorance and prejudice not ONLY from the general public but dwp, other govt agencies, even healthcare staff. Who if they ARE able to work a little are desperately seeking a job they can manage provided by a caring understanding employer (cos yea there's THOUSANDS of them about - not!)

I've been the latter 2. It's bloody hard! I'm not saying working outside the home isn't hard too I've done that too. They're DIFFERENT hards - one isn't more "worthy" than another.

Lovely post op 🤔 and apparently either first post or NC.

"Don’t judge too much nobody knows what’s round the corner" exactly! All it takes is a serious accident, debilitating illness, bereavement, relationship breakdown, redundancy, the economy getting even WORSE... All of which can MASSIVELY limit your options and employability.

Ah so based on post at 1955 yesterday it's JEALOUSY! Their husbands earn more than you and your OH jointly - get over it! Didn't YOUR mother teach you life isn't always fair? And that comparison is the thief of joy? Oh are you trying some shitty benefit bashing too?!

Also just because they're in casual clothes doesn't mean they DON'T work. They may work FROM home (wish I could), nights (which I did), shifts, in a job where they CAN wear casual clothes (factory, care work, call centre (or any number of other non-customer facing role) childcare) where they change AT work (certain scientists, medical staff, police officers etc) you DON'T KNOW!

If you hate your job so much find another. Not saying it's easy but just actively looking for another job or into retraining may help your mood attitude

Well said fannyfelcher - sorry you are going through all that.

Chickenoregg excellent post and an option I had shamefully forgotten - that some sahm are so due to DA. Either in the midst of it, recovering from it plus if they were in it for several years that will leave a HUGE gap in their cv - that makes job seeking easier - not!

Ah so you ARE benefit bashing too! Aren't you a prize!

Go look at the NUMEROUS threads on the REALITIES for those on benefits ESPECIALLY UC.

"One of them is even going to Disney land I just don't know how they manage it.
I know iabu and it's none of my business but it still gets me wondering and it still annoys me." It was booked when they WERE working, or they won it or someone else is paying - as you said NONE of your business.

Although

"I have literally never met anyone, anyone on benefits who can afford to go to Disneyland. Ever." Me too. Nor any holiday beyond perhaps the sun ones or camping/caravanning and that's usually due to the kindness of family/friends.

You know them SO bloody well (not!) what benefits are they on? Because a lot of benefits are or can be IN WORK benefits. As with any benefit bashing post chances are you know fuck all about their PERSONAL finances because it's none of your business and people don't discuss this stuff in detail.

How do you know it's "through choice"? It doesn't sound like you know them very well and even if you did - people are also likely to claim a situation is through choice to save face. They're not going to say (especially to someone who probably comes across as condescending) "I can't get a job because of X y z" and why should they have to explain themselves anyway?

Didn't mean to cause offence my fucking eye! Bollocks!

Have you NEVER claimed any benefits then op? No tax credits, no CB? No ssp? I highly doubt it!

But then I also doubt much of what you've said.

Littlechocola · 30/04/2018 09:01

I hate when people that only work Monday to Friday moan about people not working.

I hate when people that get to do the school run or take their dc to clubs moan about it because I don’t get to.

I hate when people moan about managing a couple of children and a job moan. I have ten million children and work 140 hours a day.

The last one might be a bit ott but that is what you sound like. I’m off to bed following my Sunday night shift. Enjoy Monday.

Come on op stop being such a judgy bum.

Limoncell0 · 30/04/2018 09:02

Another sad thread started by another bitter woman.

Its a depressing insight into UK society that so many women seem possessed by insecurity, unhappiness and jealousy. These threads are a running theme on MN.

Graphista · 30/04/2018 09:05

I wouldn't assume this is a woman posting. As several pps have said there's a few questionable threads been started with overtly "feminine" usernames.

mzcracker · 30/04/2018 09:07

I have literally never met anyone, anyone on benefits who can afford to go to Disneyland. Ever.

No neither have I. Most people I know who need to rely on benefits are struggling massively to make ends meet.

MyFriendFlickaWasAHorse · 30/04/2018 09:09

I wouldn't assume this is a woman posting. As several pps have said there's a few questionable threads been started with overtly "feminine" usernames.

YY

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