Am I the only one who hates when unemployed people moan that weekend is over

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It's just annoying and frustrating.
I work full time and my weekend goes in a flash. Monday mornings are a mad dash between getting ready and doing breakfast club drop off. Finish work and then another mad dash to the school then dds clubs, cooking and tidy up then the bedtime routine it's hard...
Then you get the unemployed who sit and moan about the weekend been over, moaning about the school run or moaning they have so much to do and I think we'll at least you can drop kids off at school at normal time, put on your slouchies to drop off so takes minimal effort, come back and get a cuppa before you do housework etc.

If I get a day off during the week I do the above and it's bloody bliss.
I know I should just ignore and let them get on with it and I know it's none of my business but it's still frustrating all the same.

I am off to Walt Disney World in August and I am one of these virtually unemployed sahp of school aged dc.
Do you know me op?

Enjoy @moon! My mum (sahm / unemployed - the bitch ) and dad took my siblings and me there when I was 8 and I still remember it really well. We loved it.

Fair point Lady. But you could say the same about working women who choose to judge and make bitchy remarks towards SAHMs. If they're happy with their lot, why do they do that?

To anyone who feels annoyed by this thread, remember the poster can never ever get away from herself.

I'm talking about people who dont bother working because they have kids at school.

The cost of childcare or childcare never seems to enter into people's heads who say this.

You can’t leave primary age children and if you have no free or subsidies childcare from family for three children, no OP mentions, it can easily be uneconomical to work.

I like weekends and holidays as I enjoy spending time with my family - seems odd to begrudge someone feeling this whether they are working full time, pt or are a SAHP.

The cost of childcare or childcare never seems to enter into people's heads who say this.

That should have said before and after school chilcare and holiday childcare - something is eating all the words .

I'm sure people used to think that I was 'unemployed' when my kids were younger and I did the school run every day. However I was usually working all weekend or had just finished a nightshift, in fact for the past 18 years I have rarely had a weekend off as I've always worked around my dh as we could not afford childcare for 4 kids. I used to hate fb post saying people had that 'Friday feeling' - there was no such thing for me .

I didn't know I had to be happy about getting soaked on the school run coz I don't work, I'll remember that next time.

Know your place you lesser-mother and be grateful for every drop of that rain for you don't have a big enough salary to be allowed to have feelings! Grovel at our feet for your economic worthlessness!

If you work part time are you allowed to be pissed off at snow but not rain? Is it kind of a tiered system for what weather you're allowed to like or dislike depending on the number of hours you work or is it means-tested - above £50k a year you're allowed to dislike the cold and wet AND allowed to like nice sunny days, but below £12k a year you must have no weather-related opinions whatsoever?

enjoys cup of tea in the warmth and comfort of my home I may even watch homes under the hammer. Enjoy your day at work OP.

I'm still in my PJs

Not sure I'd ever put Homes under the Hammer and enjoy in the same sentence.

Blasphemy!

I think we're on the same page Lady.

Very goady and unpleasant thread. I hate the way some working mums appear to spend so much time attacking those of us who are SAHMs. You never know what's going on in another person's life. I have 2 school aged DDs, one of whom has special needs and has violent meltdowns. On top of that, I have MH issues, in my case complex PTSD because of childhood SA, so I'm not in a position to apply for work at the moment. I was working before we adopted the DDs, and I would love to be well enough to get a paid job, and I'm very much hoping that I'll find a way through this through therapy, so that I will again be able to work.

You really shouldn't judge. Until you've walked in someone else's shoes, you have absolutely no right to look down on them.

I don't complain, though.

Do you know their circumstances?
Do you know that they don't work nights?
Do you know that they are not ill?
Do you know that they are not caring for a severely disabled family member?
Do you know that they are not actively seeking work after being made redundant?
Everyone has their own personal circumstances and there is often a lot more to what the eye sees (and judges).

I am a SAHM and on benefits I'm a single mum of 3, 2 of whom are in school. My days are pretty full and I only tend to get chance to sit down at meal times. Sure, I could put my 3yo in nursery but I don't get paying someone else to look after my children so I can go to work to earn the money to pay for that childcare. I am the only parent my LO has in his life and there's no way in hell that I'm paying someone else to do my job for me. It means that I struggle some weeks to get everything we need but to me it's worth it. My older ones especially love that I'm always there for them. Bizarrely I'd actually get more benefits if working as would be entitled to working tax credits. I didn't ask to be a single mum or be in this situation but I choose my children over a job and paying someone else to look after them for the time being. Once LO is at school I will go back to my nursing career. I paid into the system for many years and will pay into it again once back at work.
Before I had my youngest and was married, I used to go to work for a rest. Nursing is pretty demanding so to go to work for a rest says something about what it's like to be a SAHM. It's pretty relentless and I'm up at 6.30, don't drive so we walk over a mile to school no matter what the weather. I don't get to relax and rest until I collapse into bed at night. I'm looking forward to going back to work. I miss my job and the satisfaction it brought me. It's actually that and not the money I miss. We certainly couldn't afford to go to Disney! Hell, some weeks I only have a fiver to my name.

So shove your working parent guilt.

I’m on maternity with a newborn, 2yo and 5yo and hate the weekends being over. It means back to juggling 3 kids on my own, struggling with the school run and the general boredom. Before my maternity leave, I wished weekends were over as 50% of the time I was working them put your judgey pants away!

Devil / well said! Have to do what’s right for you. As we all do in life.

Monday morning equals rushing around to get 3 ready to leave for the walk to school which is often in horrible weather then venture out in the cold and rain again to pick them up. The school walk takes 3 hours alone for the 2 round trips.
Weekends are lovely for a relaxed breakfast and walks for pleasure, spending time with their grandparent and things not being rushed. Still have all the housework to do, still up at the same time, just don't do the school run. So Mondays are a bit meh.

I tend to agree with some of the points made by the OP.
It is frustrating when people complain how busy they are with housework when they have had six hours free to do it.
I work full time and then have to come home and start again with the cooking/cleaning etc.
I presume that was the point op was making but I could be wrong.

Nope OP just wanted to stick the boot in, start a fight and disappear and MNHQ always like to leave SAHM-bashing to stand (we mustn't have enough economic clout to please the advertisers I guess).

Yes it's absolute hypocrisy to delete some things because they're not 'in the spirit of MN' but allow a thread like this to stand.