To wonder why I weren't orginally invited?

[stripesandspots10]

The bride has had 1 hen due already which was a spa type weekend. My DM was invited to this but couldn't go. She's having another hen party in our hometown. My DM got a text to say what all the details were. My DM text back and said is spotsandstripes invited? The reply was oh I'll put her name down. So I'm thinking I weren't orginally invited?

The wedding is not in the UK which my parents are invited to but I weren't. Ive been invited to the reception thing in the UK though. I know the groom better as we have grown up together and our families are friends. His fiance does come to family friend parties though and I do speak to her at them.

Me and the groom dated but I'm talking in middle school so I think it's pretty irrelevant but I get a feeling from his DM and the bride that they aren't that keen on me! Not sure, but AIBU to be annoyed I weren't orginally invited to the hen due in our hometown?

YABU to not ask ‘Why I wasn’t originally invited’

It doesn't sound like you are friends with the bride, so why do you want to go?

If you aren't a particular friend of the bride, it's not surprising you weren't invited. Hen parties are usually for pretty close friends. If you only know her from family friend parties I wouldn't expect you to be invited.

Sounds like she was put on the spot by your DM and invited you to be polite.

"Why I weren't originally invited"

"Hen due"

Sorry, can't get past those.

You are an evening guest at the wedding - you shouldn’t expect a hen do invite.

*wasn’t invited

Wasn't wasn't wasn't

My DM isn't particularly a close friend of the bride's either. The other family friends on the groom's side aren't extremely close to her either but were invited.

Yabu if you're not close friends with the bride.

OP but again, why do you want to go??

Jesus! It's a dialectal thing to say "weren't" instead of "wasn't".

Maybe you're not invited because of your history with the groom? That does sound ridiculous but could be the reason.

Sometimes people take a dislike to you for absolutely no reason at all.
I'd take all these hints and unless I was very good friends with the groom, would refuse to go to anything to do with their wedding.
Have a weekend with your friends instead.

She can't invite everyone she's ever met. Regardless of what you think her relationship with the other guests is, you've already said you aren't close and that you think she and her mother don't like you. Under those circumstances it would be more odd if you had been invited.

Your DM obviously made her feel awkward by asking if you were invited and so to be polite she has said you can come.

You dated the groom
You know him better
You aren’t friends with the bride
You aren’t invited to the wedding

I can’t understand why you are surprised not to have been invited to the hen do and why you even would want to go!

TBH I would cringe at my mother putting someone in the position of feeling like they had to invite me. If the bride wanted you there, your mother wouldn't have had to ask. Do both of you a favour and decline.

Maybe your English isn't up to the standards that the bride likes.

You weren’t anything

If the bride doesn’t feel particularly close to you (& it sounds like she doesn’t), why on earth would she invite you? Flowery is right. You are being a bit weird and pretty rude about this. You are just not that important to the people getting married so stop fussing.
Their wedding is not about you.

I didn't invite my husband's female friends to mine. Not even the ones I'd "spoken to" at parties. Why would you be?

Wow! Why is everyone so damn catty about as few grammatical errors? It’s just downright nasty. I noticed the errors as well but I didn’t feel the need belittle her for it. When did this place get so mean?

So dialect is now an excuse for incorrect grammar?

Although, it's a bit rude to point out grammatical mistakes on a thread (unless you are in pedants' corner).

Have to agree with others, if you're not a close friend if the bride then you to expect an invite to the hen do.

Maybe she likes your mum but she's just not that keen on you.

It sounds like your mum put her massively on the spot. She shouldn't have done that and, in your shoes, there is no way I'd go. I'd send a very nice text to the bride thanking her for thinking of you, but that you have a previous engagement.