To wonder why I weren't orginally invited?

[stripesandspots10]

The bride has had 1 hen due already which was a spa type weekend. My DM was invited to this but couldn't go. She's having another hen party in our hometown. My DM got a text to say what all the details were. My DM text back and said is spotsandstripes invited? The reply was oh I'll put her name down. So I'm thinking I weren't orginally invited?

The wedding is not in the UK which my parents are invited to but I weren't. Ive been invited to the reception thing in the UK though. I know the groom better as we have grown up together and our families are friends. His fiance does come to family friend parties though and I do speak to her at them.

Me and the groom dated but I'm talking in middle school so I think it's pretty irrelevant but I get a feeling from his DM and the bride that they aren't that keen on me! Not sure, but AIBU to be annoyed I weren't orginally invited to the hen due in our hometown?

Please don't tell the SPaG twats to come and post on Pedants.

a) their own use of English is clearly not up to it
b) we don't actually take the piss out of other people to feel superior, we just talk about language.

Millacinth/FranticallyPeaceful- your punctuation could do with an overhaul- would you like me to PM you both the name of a good basic literacy book? Nothing too advanced, given the really basic level of the errors you have both made. (Frantically- your English is arguably much worse than the OP's, as you have serious issues with both grammar and spelling, so I'd STFU about other people if I were you; though of course it's always rather wonderful to see Muphry's Law alive and well.
Pandoraphile- you too, do say if you need some help, most people on this thread would be only too pleased to explain some basic stuff to you- punctuation/question formation, that sort of thing.

Don't you worry, @FranticallyPeaceful, if someone is a cunt to me about my grammar or dialect "outside my front door", you can bet I'd be bitching them out there, too.

Sad you spent your time counting all the posts up, eh?

You missed another comma. (Frantically)

That's a mighty big hole you're digging yourself.

Honestly some of you just aren’t cut out for life outside your front door let alone the internet

Maybe these people just aren't cunts. Just a thought.

The irony is also not lost that a person who thinks it's OK to point out another person's error on a mammy forum then says that others need to get a life.

I don't understand why you assume you'd be invited to something just because your mother is invited?

I also don't understand why you'd think it is called a hen 'due'.

I appreciate there are grammatical and local dialect issues here but why would anyone call a 'hen do' a 'hen due'?

I think grammar ought to be corrected. It’s basic and needs to be corrected. Seeing definately and discusting so often online drives me crazy.

Anyway, OP, I think your dm was out of order to ask if you were invited. It’s nothing to do with her whether you are or are not invited, it’s up to the bride. Clearly you weren’t invited and now the situation has been made awkward by your dm asking.

OP had a single word corrected and you’re all acting as though she was paraded through the streets with a shame-bell.
I always have to wonder how to get to the point in life where I would care enough to reach that level of pathetic on the Interwebs. I also wonder what happened in your lives to be thoroughly offended and distraught about having a word corrected.

It’s entirely possible that there are seriously deep rooted issues here; especially from the person who asked if I needed help because I missed a comma. Honestly it doesn’t offend me, I don’t go out of my way to write on a forum but something as glaring as “weren’t” was obviously going to gain some kind of attention (like my “and wasn’t” comment, after I commented on her post, which apparently translates to something far more cruel in crazy-land).

I’m guessing some serious trauma at school or similar has happened to get that kind of reaction have fun

oh dear, the grammar police are out

How does your DM know her?

If you’re not friends with the bride I can’t work out why you think you’d be invited.

I appreciate there are grammatical and local dialect issues here but why would anyone call a 'hen do' a 'hen due'?

I think the op is writing it as she says it. I suspect a local accent impact.

I also don't get all the corrective posts. This is an adult who has been through many years of out educational system. If for whatever reason she still struggles with grammar, then a few bitchy posts are not going to change that and are rather pointless. So leave her be.

bluntness, I'm intrigued as to which dialect pronounces it 'due' though.

It's most odd.

As is the whole post though. I genuinely don't understand why you'd assume you were invited to something your mother was.

I think someone suggested Norfolk. But I'm not sure it could be many.

Other way round probably bearbehind. I'm guessing OP pronounces due as do.

To be honest, in your situation I wouldn’t expect an invite (and wouldn’t want to go!).
You aren’t a friend of the bride. You’re closer to the groom. You’re not invited to the wedding. Surely it would be more weird if you were invited?
Do you even want to go?

Ah, I see now.

Do you want to go to the hen party op?

I'm guessing OP pronounces due as do

That's maybe more likely actually.

Because only close friends go to hen parties.
Why did your mum ask? Did she think you were closer than you are?

Frantically oh dear oh dear, it's getting worse.

Surely you meant to say "as though she were (being) paraded" ?

I'm sure your mistake was due to some serious psychological trauma etc etc.

Those glass houses are truly going to be just shards in the grass by the end of today, aren't they?

I always have to wonder how to get to the point in life where I would care enough to reach that level of pathetic on the Interwebs

Many of us on this thread have been asking ourselves the same. Maybe you could tell us?

Wtf? Some glaringly obvious clues as to why you're not invited;
You aren't friends with the bride
You used to date the groom
You feel like there's already an awkwardness between you and the bride
You aren't invited to the wedding
Oh yeah... and you aren't friends with the bride

Also I am shocked at your mothers rudeness. How cringey to ask if you were invited when you clearly weren't. The bride was put on the spot.

I do notice and note bad grammar on here. I'm starting to see a lot of 'she done', 'he seen', 'I've went' on here, which, along with the famous 'would of', does grate tbh. BUT pointing it out, on a thread (where grammar isn't the subject), let alone in a way intended to belittle and humiliate, is far worse. I challenge any of the posters who've leapt from a great height on the OP's grammar here to do likewise in RL, face to face, next time they speak to someone who makes errors. If your response is 'but I would never do that', it may be time to think about why you have done it here, particularly in the manner that some od you have ('maybe your English isn't up to the bride's standards' and similar).

Sod's law that there'd be a typo. Some OF you, of course.