To wonder why I weren't orginally invited?

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The bride has had 1 hen due already which was a spa type weekend. My DM was invited to this but couldn't go. She's having another hen party in our hometown. My DM got a text to say what all the details were. My DM text back and said is spotsandstripes invited? The reply was oh I'll put her name down. So I'm thinking I weren't orginally invited?

The wedding is not in the UK which my parents are invited to but I weren't. Ive been invited to the reception thing in the UK though. I know the groom better as we have grown up together and our families are friends. His fiance does come to family friend parties though and I do speak to her at them.

Me and the groom dated but I'm talking in middle school so I think it's pretty irrelevant but I get a feeling from his DM and the bride that they aren't that keen on me! Not sure, but AIBU to be annoyed I weren't orginally invited to the hen due in our hometown?

I think it’s weird you would assume an invite. You’re not even friends?

Also wasn’t

Oh pack it in with the whining about wording, you knew what the OP meant!

Why do you want to go OP? Hens and actual weddings are a ball ache. The party bit is much better. In your shoes I would decline the obvious polite invite, you won’t be comfortable going I don’t think.

@kissthealderman I thought Norfolk too: "hen do" and "hen due" sound exactly the same in a Norfolk accent. Wish people would lay off, if you know what the OP meant why does it matter if they aren't writing full on correct dialectless English in a throwaway thread on mumsnet?

OP, I would guess she's jealous about you dating her fiance when you were at school. It's petty and childish but a fair number of people have issues with that sort of thing. I would just write off the other hen do and only go if you're specifically invited. YANBU to be annoyed if she's as close to you as she is to your mum, but it's better for your peace of mind not to dwell on it.

It’s rude enough to be the first person to point out grammatical or spelling mistakes on a thread but to post them repeatedly is just really horrible.

I’m embarrassed for you all.

OP Please ignore those posters with no manners.

Is it possible that your Mum was invited to keep the groom’s Mum
Company at the Hen night? That might be why she was invited and not you.

@AnnieOnAMapleLeaf
Wow! Why is everyone so damn catty about as few grammatical errors? It’s just downright nasty. I noticed the errors as well but I didn’t feel the need belittle her for it. When did this place get so mean?

This

But you are not a close friend of
the bride, so why would you be invited? I'm confused.

Unsure what’s more embarrassing though, pointing out the annoying ‘weren’t’ or people spamming for people to stop pointing out the annoying ‘weren’t’. I’ll have to go with the latter.

Also lol @AmazingPostVoices you obviously felt the need to reiterate what others said, so what’s up with others doing it?

Wasn’t.

Fucks sake. Those of you correcting the OP's grammar make yourselves look like a bunch of tools. Really bad form.

OP, it doesn't sound as though you know the bride particularly well, so I imagine that's why you haven't been invited to the hen do. Don't sweat it, hen dos are generally bloody awful anyway.

"The bride has had 1 hen due"

So to be clear....she has delivered the hen and is now expecting another?

I want to know why I weren't invited to the birth, cos that sounds kind of awesome!

It doesn’t sound like you know the bride and aren’t that close to the groom, so why on earth would you be invited to the wedding, let alone the hen do?

No, it doesn't sound as if you were invited & if you're not a friend of the bride, why would you be?

I think that your mum was rude to ask tbh & it's made an issue where there is none.

It's probably nothing to do with you having dated the groom-especially if you've been invited to a reception.

There were women at the wedding that I didn't invite to my hen do-it's not unusual as the song goes!

I would guess that you weren’t originally invited to the hen do because you’re not a close friend of the bride.
I wouldn’t be annoyed about the lack of an invite if I wasn’t all that friendly with the bride TBH.

As for your mum being invited to the hen do - I would guess it’s most likely she’s been invited as company for the grooms mum. I wouldn’t be annoyed about her getting an invite when I didn’t if that’s the case.

Wow! Why is everyone so damn catty about a few grammatical errors? It’s just downright nasty. I noticed the errors as well but I didn’t feel the need belittle her for it. When did this place get so mean?

Some of them love it Annie. Makes them feel good to try to make someone else feel shit. Odd, but true.

Is it possible that your Mum was invited to keep the groom’s Mum company at the Hen night? That might be why she was invited and not you.

This was my thought too about why your mum was invited, if she is a good friend of the groom's mum. Otherwise I would expect her to have close friends and female family members, not every female invited to any part of the wedding.

so what’s up with others doing it?

Frantically because it was unkind.

You were deliberately and unnecessarily unkind to the OP.

I really don't understand the mindset that some women have that simply being a female guest/acquaintance they should be invited to the hen do.

You hardly know the woman, why the heck would she invite you to her hen do. And why was your mum begging you an invite . And why are you now pissed off you weren't invited to some relative strangers hen do. None of that is logical. It's odd.

Your mum clearly is invited for a reason, whatever that may be. You're not.

Do the decent thing and decline and don't gate crash this woman's hen do. You don't need to go everywhere your mum goes.

Correcting somebodies grammar isn’t being unkind, otherwise teachers are full on nobheads. Most people have likely not even read the thread before they post

Correcting somebodies grammar isn’t being unkind, otherwise teachers are full on nobheads

We’re not at school. Doing it repeatedly on a chat forum just makes people look like dicks.

Do you reply correct the spelling and grammar on every Facebook post you read or email you receive Frantically?

Or just when you are anonymous?

Bloody hell the ones correcting grammar are embarrassing themselves.

I have read the thread Frantically.
This: Correcting somebodies grammar isn’t being unkind, otherwise teachers are full on nobheads

is just silly.

Its not rude to call someone overweight, if it is all doctors are dicks

Its not rude to ask someone when they last had sex, if it is then all nurses are bitches

its not rude to ask someone how much they earn. If it is all bank managers are twats...

Correcting somebodies grammar isn’t being unkind, otherwise teachers are full on nobheads. Most people have likely not even read the thread before they post

This is not school. However, judging by some of the posts on here, I can see how you made the comparison.

Correcting somebodies grammar isn’t being unkind, otherwise teachers are full on nobheads.

I don't normally correct anybody's grammar on threads. I just had to notice the irony of "somebodies grammar".

Somebodies grammar

~6 posts noting grammar vs ~16 posts bitching about how mean people are . Honestly some of you just aren’t cut out for life outside your front door let alone the internet