To wonder why I weren't orginally invited?

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The bride has had 1 hen due already which was a spa type weekend. My DM was invited to this but couldn't go. She's having another hen party in our hometown. My DM got a text to say what all the details were. My DM text back and said is spotsandstripes invited? The reply was oh I'll put her name down. So I'm thinking I weren't orginally invited?

The wedding is not in the UK which my parents are invited to but I weren't. Ive been invited to the reception thing in the UK though. I know the groom better as we have grown up together and our families are friends. His fiance does come to family friend parties though and I do speak to her at them.

Me and the groom dated but I'm talking in middle school so I think it's pretty irrelevant but I get a feeling from his DM and the bride that they aren't that keen on me! Not sure, but AIBU to be annoyed I weren't orginally invited to the hen due in our hometown?

If a friend was calling a hen do a hen due I would tell them- unless it really is a local dialect thing. I'd say something because they sound foolish saying the wrong word and I think it's kinder to say something than leave them to keep saying the wrong thing and having the piss taken out of them by others, as would undoubtedly happen.

So to be clear....she has delivered the hen and is now expecting another?

Going back to THE ACTUAL THREAD, I think both the OP and some of the respondents are reading way too much into this.

OP - if the bride had an issue with you, you wouldn’t be invited to the reception. However, you’re more friendly with the groom than with her, so you weren’t a natural ‘top of the list’ for the hen do.

I don’t think your mother was being rude or pushy asking if you were invited; more just a bit tactless. I very much doubt it’s a problem, given that she’s happy to have you at the wedding. If anything she’s probably a bit embarrassed that she hadn’t thought to ask you.

"Why I weren't originally invited"

"Hen due"

Sorry, can't get past those.

Really? You can't get past them? It's a good thing you managed to recover enough to post about it.

MissMorkans, I’m not sure you’re as right about “as though she were (being) paraded” as you think you are.

You either parade the streets or you parade a something (like flaunting it).

So if she’s being flaunted like an object, she was paraded. If she was walking down the street like in a parade, she was parading.

when: intr, often foll by through or along) to walk or march, esp in a procession (through): to parade the streets.
11. (tr) to exhibit or flaunt: he was parading his medals

I think YABU to be annoyed that you weren't invited OP. You are not her friend or family. It wouldn't cross my mind to invite someone to a hen do because they were female and I'd met them at a few parties.

"If a friend was calling a hen do a hen due I would tell them"

To be fair, some brides seem so entitled that "hen due" sounds quite fitting.

I haven't heard of people saying due for do-only the other way round.

Petulant- I was referring to the missing subjunctive, not the difference between the transitive and intransitive use of a verb.

OP what made you think you should be invited to the hen do? You are a friend (ex squeeze) of the groom, not the bride. Why don't you ask the groom if you can go on his stag do? Doubt it will happen since it's probably blokes only but it makes more sense than attending a hen do when you barely know the person.

Seeing definately and discusting so often online drives me crazy
They are not grammatical errors. They are spelling mistakes.

"Why I weren't originally invited"

"Hen due"

Sorry, can't get past those

Oh, get a grip!

So dialect is now an excuse for incorrect grammar?

Who said that it was?

We obviously knew what she was trying to get at. To be honest, posters pointing out the obvious and being smug, just slows the thread down. It's boring !!

Anywày hen do's are a pain in the bum. The hen's friends are expected to pay for themselves, often abroad (so expensive), then you dress up, get drunk and make a fool of yourself

“Petulant- I was referring to the missing subjunctive, not the difference between the transitive and intransitive use of a verb“

And made a spelling mistake?