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Original poster

Aibu to think my friend enjoys rubbing things in my face?

124 replies

Malibuandpineapple32 · 28/04/2018 11:08

Both been friends for 10 years.
Both work.
Im currently scrimping and saving to buy a car,second hand one ..so far only managed £500 but plodding on,hopefully get a decent run around under £2000.
Friend passed her test a few weeks ago and couldn’t wait to ring me telling me her dad had bought her a 5k car and put the insurance in his name so she only pays £30 a month..that’s great I’m pleased for her BUT then she says “awww don’t worry you will get a car one day,just keep saving your penny’s”
How much you got saved? I couldn’t live without my car now.

Then last night we went for food and I ordered a dessert and she goes “you will never get a car you” I say why and she reply’s “spending money on dessert”

OP posts:
TheGirlOnTheLanding · 28/04/2018 11:09

Why do you think someone who treats you like this is your 'friend'? I'd distance myself from anyone who thinks it's ok to put me down like that.

JiminyBillyBob · 28/04/2018 11:10

She’s no friend. None of mine would dream of saying stuff like that.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 28/04/2018 11:13

Horrible bitch. I'd say to her at least what ive got is through your own bloody hard work. It wasn't handed to me on a plate. Well done on managing to save that much. I wish I could. I'm bloody hopeless with money.

Shesellsseashellsontheseashore · 28/04/2018 11:13

You should have said 'Not sure how you know this since you haven't had to save for one yourself .'
People like this aren't friends.
I would have ordered a second dessert to go.

Whocansay · 28/04/2018 11:16

She's a dick head and not a friend. I would stop taking her calls.

Bumblesnuff4Crimpysnitch · 28/04/2018 11:17

She and her father appear to be committing insurance fraud by using his policy to purchase her cheap insurance. If he is the main driver and she is an additional driver and they get rumbled (happens frequently) the consequences can be dire. Tell her she's being naive and mention fraud by misrepresentation.

Nikephorus · 28/04/2018 11:17

You'll enjoy your car more when you get it.
Just say 'awwwww, you'll understand eventually how good it feels to not have to rely on daddy for everything.'

Original poster
Malibuandpineapple32 · 28/04/2018 11:54

Exactly it will feel better knowing I’ve saved for it and not just been given a car.
She also went on to say “ahhh my bank balance is looking so healthy”
You know when you think it’s sly digs to you.
If I can afford a car before September il be happy.

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AmazingPostVoices · 28/04/2018 13:18

She sounds horrible.

Save some additional money by never going out with her again.

SocksRock · 28/04/2018 13:20

If the insurance is in her dad’s name, they are fronting and it’s illegal, insurance fraud. I would tell her to rectify that PDQ if she doesn’t fancy a criminal conviction.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 28/04/2018 13:23

She sounds horrible.

Aprilmightbemynewname · 28/04/2018 13:23

Ltb.
Today..

Ghostontoast · 28/04/2018 13:27

she's no friend.

pasturesgreen · 28/04/2018 13:28

Well, with friends like these...Hmm

She's no friend, she's a spiteful, gloating bitch. I wouldn't want anything more to do with her unless she does some serious apologising she won't.

Tistheseason17 · 28/04/2018 13:34

OP - is this how you think friendships work?

It really is not.

Ellendegeneres · 28/04/2018 13:34

What a cunt. I'd decline meeting her again and mention you’re making cutbacks on things you don’t see value in to save for car- so for the foreseeable you’re not going to waste you’re time or money seeing her.
Then drop. Nasty cow.
This morning I met up with a friend- rough times for her. Did I gloat and say how fab I’m doing? No. I listened, sympathised and suggested ideas that would potentially help her situation- because I actually like her and don’t want her to feel like I keep her around to make myself feel better! Your mate isn’t a mate!

Dvg · 28/04/2018 13:36

Haha thats not a friend o_0 she is spiteful and to be honest... a bitch. I would honestly let her go and i would be telling her why.

WomaninGreen · 28/04/2018 13:37

drop her
I don't think I'd even bother explaining why

My feeling is that kind of nastiness is how she really wants to behave. If someone points it out to her, all that will happen is she will walk around pretending to be nicer than she is because she knows it's cost her a "friend" - but in her case, "friend" means someone she can look down on anyway.

Moominfan · 28/04/2018 13:37

Wow she's mean spirited. I'd be kind as she needs it but also from a distance alot of distance

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 28/04/2018 13:38

I don't think I could have stayed civil! It's not the fact that her Dad is funding her car (which frankly most adults would prefer not to admit), but the gloating "Aaw, poor you", which reveals her pleasure at one-upping you.

I wouldn't pick a fight about it, but I would phase her out. It's not about the car, just the unfortunate personality.

Littlelambpeep · 28/04/2018 13:39

Pull away from her. I knew someone left this... It ground me down. In the end the final comment was so below the belt it was a relief to get rid of her once and for all

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 28/04/2018 13:42

She’s not a friend,she’s mean and unkind to you.up to you to decide if you want this

JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 28/04/2018 13:42

Gosh. What a cow.

Appuskidu · 28/04/2018 13:44

She’s no friend.

TheJoyOfSox · 28/04/2018 13:52

She sounds a nasty cow. I couldn’t be bothered to have someone like her in my life. Life is too short to give nasty cows like her any of your precious time.

Good luck saving for your car, at least you’ll have the satisfaction of knowing you bought it and you’ll build up your own no claims bonus.