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Aibu to think my friend enjoys rubbing things in my face?

124 replies

Malibuandpineapple32 · 28/04/2018 11:08

Both been friends for 10 years.
Both work.
Im currently scrimping and saving to buy a car,second hand one ..so far only managed £500 but plodding on,hopefully get a decent run around under £2000.
Friend passed her test a few weeks ago and couldn’t wait to ring me telling me her dad had bought her a 5k car and put the insurance in his name so she only pays £30 a month..that’s great I’m pleased for her BUT then she says “awww don’t worry you will get a car one day,just keep saving your penny’s”
How much you got saved? I couldn’t live without my car now.

Then last night we went for food and I ordered a dessert and she goes “you will never get a car you” I say why and she reply’s “spending money on dessert”

OP posts:
Undercoverbanana · 28/04/2018 14:56

That’s not friendship,

EmilyGB · 28/04/2018 14:56

YANBU but... hey, she's proud of passing her test and excited to get a lovely present from her Dad, and, sure, she wants you to be a little bit envious, but it's understandable, and I'd say forgivable. Cut her a bit of slack - you've been friends for ten years, so unless this is a constant problem, I'd let it go.

Bramble71 · 28/04/2018 15:05

She doesn't sound very friendly to me! I used to be friends with a girl and, no matter what I had or bought or went, she always had done better. I gave up and stopped contacting her in the end, fed up of being patronised and put down. I felt much better for it!

Mosaic123 · 28/04/2018 15:05

She should view herself as lucky but she thinks she's superior.

Not a friend at all.

neveradullmoment99 · 28/04/2018 15:11

What bloody age is she? 10?
Sounds completely immature and entitled. Totally distance yourself from her. She is NOT your friend.

Ansumpasty · 28/04/2018 15:20

She sounds awful. Can you afford a car on lease? Would be lovely to pull up in a nice car worth £12,000...you don’t have to tell her you lease it and can just say, ‘I couldn’t live without a decent car on warranty like this, must be awful when yours breaks. Just keep saving your pennies and you’ll get one one day.’ Wink Grin

Ansumpasty · 28/04/2018 15:21
  • under warranty!
SeriousChutzpah · 28/04/2018 15:24

I would never be friends with someone who says dessert.

Grin

Do adult woman actually behave like this? I can't imagine maintaining a conversation at a bus stop, far less a ten-year friendship, with someone whose idea of conversation is essentially 'Santa brought me a MUCH NICER dolly for Christmas than your crappy dolly'.

OP, if, as I assume, this materialistic bore has redeeming features, otherwise you would have long since binned her, can you try to train her out of her 'look what I got that you have to save for' conversational approach by giving her a small electric shock every time she shows off?

Littlechocola · 28/04/2018 15:25

She’s an idiot. Much nicer to save yourself and to have earned it.

DoryNora · 28/04/2018 15:37

She sounds like a right bitch! I paid for my lessons, car, insurance etc with my own hard earned money and I appreciated it all the more! There were people in my circle of friends who were lucky enough to get a car for their birthday/Christmas and couldn't understand why it was taking the rest of us so long to save up and buy one. My Dad always says that some people know the price of everything but the value of nothing!

PercyPigAddict · 28/04/2018 15:44

She's horrible. As a side note though, do you really need to spend £2k on a car? I know I'm in a minority here but 've never spent more than a grand on a car - you can easily get a decent second had car (like a nissan micra or similar) that will last for years for less than that Smile

Ski40 · 28/04/2018 15:47

She sounds like a high school bully. How sly. I wanted to slap her on your behalf OP.
I hope you have a lovely car very soon.
And better friends 😚

Gemini69 · 28/04/2018 16:04

You're doing great OP.. ignore your ignorant friend... she believes she's better than you because she's been handed a car on a plate.. that's not a friend lovely...

good luck with your Saving Flowers

witchofzog · 28/04/2018 16:06

Agreed she isn't a friend. Will you really miss her if you cut contact?

I used to work with a smug bitch like this. Her grandfather had a multi million pound company and every year paid for a new car for her. She said to me with a smirk that she didn't see why anyone didn't drive a car in this day and age as everyone could afford a car. Her grandad also paid for a top private education for her yet she still ended up working in the same shitty call centre I was working in to save money so I could afford to retrain. She had no idea about how fortunate she was compared to most.

Skiiltan · 28/04/2018 16:11

Friend passed her test a few weeks ago and couldn’t wait to ring me telling me her dad had bought her a 5k car and put the insurance in his name so she only pays £30 a month

This is illegal. If the car is for her use, rather than her dad's car for which she is a named driver, her dad is committing fraud and her insurance is invalid, so she could be prosecuted for driving without insurance.

WomanWithAltitude · 28/04/2018 16:16

I agree with everyone else. She sounds awful and she's not your friend.

Wdigin2this · 28/04/2018 16:17

With friends like her, you certainly don't need enemies!

BMW6 · 28/04/2018 16:22

What an atrocious cunt she is! Tell her to get lost. Friends do not say things like that.

RunYouJuiceBitch · 28/04/2018 16:28

put the insurance in his name so she only pays £30 a month

Pleeeease tell her that this is fronting, which is illegal and means the insurance likely isn't worth a jot. Then let us know her response. Sadly, I suspect she won't understand or care.

mzcracker · 28/04/2018 19:12

I had a friend like this once. She would only ever come to see me in order to gloat, never asked me about myself.
She's an ex friend.

Ivorbig1 · 28/04/2018 19:15

She isn’t your friend. She is someone you know and spend time with.
A friend makes you feel good.

Ivorbig1 · 28/04/2018 19:15

Well done on your savings. I’d be tempted to spell out how her car was gift, not something she had to work for.

TrappedWind · 28/04/2018 19:16

I couldn't be friends with someone like that. Just ditch her, she is a complete waste of space.

ALongHardWinter · 28/04/2018 19:35

I would say there's a case of insurance fraud going on here......

Whatshallidonowpeople · 28/04/2018 19:48

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