Annoying things other posters do

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Just wondering what things other posters do that really annoy you?

For me it's the deliberate misconstruing of an opening post and then flaming the OP for something they never actually said or implied.

Also the posters who conjure up wild scenarios to try and prove the OP is BU - "How do you know the woman who pushed you out of the way at the bus stop wasn't rushing home to her seriously ill child and has only 2p in her purse so couldn't afford a taxi. Try to be kinder and less self absorbed in future".

OP I'm really scared, I've found a lump on my vagina, I was diagnosed with cancer a few years ago and am terrified it's back.

Twat: The word is vulva. HTH

Also I dont understand when people say "NC as it's outing" but then proceed to give a number of incredibly personal details that would be very outing anyway? I don't really get it - why NC?

The reason they do it is so that their previous posts can't be linked, if I post about my embarassing sex dreams about my boss under this name then want help with a very identifiable siruation with the same boss I will change my name so that even if boss recognises me under my NC name he know it's me on the sex dreams thread

When people don’t bother reading the thread but chip in with their worthless opinion, 500 posts in.
You can view threads as one whole page and have the OPs posts highlighted, how much easier does it need to be?

People aghast that others say LTB, as if someone who is used to abusive behaviour will instantly leave on the basis of a website, ‘people are too quick to say leave and break up a ‘family’’ they bleat. An abusive relationship is never acceptable and by the time women post on here it has usually been going on for quite some time. This is the only place where women aren’t encouraged to ‘make it work’ and might actually have their eyes opened to how unacceptable abuse is and how it’s damaging their children for life, so no, do not stop saying LEAVE THE BASTARD.

Posts that start with

So I was ... or
So there's this ...

So what!! Stop it with starting threads with so!!

PattiStanger

I didn't realise it's so common for people to trawl through poster's history! Makes a bit more sense now

Hilariously type "" when they think a thread is going to be controversial.

And when they get your posts deleted simply because they don't like them.

Starting threads that will paint people on here in the worst possible light, and the more naive amongst us not realising that is what is going on

The gender one uppers.

‘My 3 year old dd has never worn pink, she hates dolls and sparkles and anything girlie and is happiest up a tree with a chainsaw or changing the oil in our car’

‘Well my 4 year old ds has only ever worn tutus and high heels made out of unicorn tears and cuddles his pinkie pie 24/7’

About 3 threads I've been on recently someone's appeared to say Who Gives A Shit? or words to that exact affect

Clearly all the people having a light chat found it interesting enough

Piss off with your superior bollocks.

When you've read the full thread and someone pops up to sanctimoniously tell you you've misunderstood the OP but you are replying to a later post by the OP that they haven't bothered to read

The wedding stories. 'Fifteen years later and people are still talking about our wedding!' or 'Everyone said it was the best wedding they'd ever been to'.

"Not AIBU, just posting here for traffic"

Another!

Someone posts about one subject and then people AS them and use a different thread against them.

It's often done in a cruel way too

"FUNNY OP BECAUSE YOU ADMITTED IN JULY 2005 YOUR DH GOT DRUNK AND KISSED SOMEONE BUT YOU HAVE A GREAT DH DO YOU?"

OP: Looking for a name for #4, I particularly like J names as all my other children have them. The name should work with Jack, Jenny, Joshua and Jamie, and I really dislike creative spelling, thanks!

Poster 1: (list of thirty horrendous names, none of which start with J as requested)
Poster 2: (list of twenty horrendous names, a couple of which start with J, but none of which go with the aforementioned names in terms of flow/theme at all)
Poster 3: (list of thirty horrendous names, some of which happen to start with J, but all of which are spelled so creatively that not a single one has less than two apostrophes and three Ys where other vowels ought to be)
Poster 4: (one name: the first name from the first horrendous list, easily spotted but still repeated as if it's a new suggestion because this poster couldn't even be bothered to read ONE comment before posting)

For Pete's sake, OP has asked for something relatively simple, by SPECIFYING PREFERENCES. Who is it that you're helping if all thirty of your horrendous suggestions fit exactly none of the documented criteria?????? Pro tip: NOT THE OP!

People still posting “cancel the cheque ” and thinking it’s funny. It’s not.

People who use 'think' meaning 'for example.

Tenuous links to anti-trans sentiment in threads.

"Beyond". I'm beyond livid. Beyond angry. Beyond anxious.

Passive aggressive switching to male pronouns for no reason other than disliking an argument.

"Red flag"

Posters who aspire to be second rate supermarket magazine contributors when describing food. "Crusty bread with succulent blah and deliciously sumptuous blah with some artisan blah".

Anyone who ever says "space", "the conversation" and "trigger".

Posters who haven't rtft, and so haven't seen that the OP has admitted they have BU, and are rude and nasty to the OP in what they obviously think is a witty manner.

Anyone who uses ‘virtue signalling’ - such a spiteful little expression. I agree that some posters just want a pat on the back for doing something nice, but I like threads about random acts of kindness, they can be a cockle-warming relief from trolls and bun-fights.

And HTH reeks of passive-aggressiveness to me.

I dislike the PPs who trot out 'why did you have kids with this man/get pregnant?' to an OP who mentions any issue with their partner - from simple frustration to abuse. Very helpful timelords, she'll just go and make other choices in the past, sell her much loved children? Bog off smug mugs

Posters that think it’s absolutely insane that you and your OH do not have a joint account for both salaries. “He is a financial abuser!” “LTB” “Doesn’t bode well”
... I don’t know anyone in RL where this happens.

Use the term ‘menz’

The phrase "get your ducks in a row" gets me irrationally irked!

People get told off for noticing things or wondering about others people lives, habits and interests.

OP: the neighbours never seem to open their front curtains. Weird. Why would you do that?
Poster: I work full time and a life, I wouldn't even notice the neighbour's curtains! What's it got to do with you anyway - It's none of your business.

What's wrong with harmless curiosity?

Coming onto a newly-started thread only to say that they don't know anything about OP's query or whatever but that they are sure someone who does will be along soon.

Searching someone's previous posts to use it against them, as if people's circumstances or opinions never change.

Someone disagreed with something I said on a thread, searched my history, found a thread I'd posted on (asking if thinning hair was a menopause symptom and did anyone know of anything that might help) and came back and told me the reason for my stupid opinion was because I was a menopausal old bag.

Reverses. I don't get the point.

A difference of opinion does not a troll make.