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Annoying things other posters do

467 replies

user1485342611 · 27/04/2018 10:24

Just wondering what things other posters do that really annoy you?

For me it's the deliberate misconstruing of an opening post and then flaming the OP for something they never actually said or implied.

Also the posters who conjure up wild scenarios to try and prove the OP is BU - "How do you know the woman who pushed you out of the way at the bus stop wasn't rushing home to her seriously ill child and has only 2p in her purse so couldn't afford a taxi. Try to be kinder and less self absorbed in future".

OP posts:
pigsDOfly · 27/04/2018 13:03

People who don't read the OP properly, make up things in their heads and then get antsy with the OP about something that she/he (the OP) hasn't actually written.

ThymeLord · 27/04/2018 13:03

Food/weight fixated posters are my biggest bugbear on here. Just mind boggling obsessiveness of the level I have never ever in real life, not once!

BustopherJones · 27/04/2018 13:03

The Rule Followers who can’t understand the value of common sense:

OP: My son’s school make the children ask a teacher to remove blazers. It’s been 30 degrees all week. What a waste of time.
RF: YABU, you knew the uniform rules when you sent your child to that school. Why is your little darling too special for discipline? You’re clearly raising a criminal.

ThymeLord · 27/04/2018 13:04

never ever seen* in real life...

Irritating posters who correct their mistakes underneath their first post....Grin

Imsosceptical · 27/04/2018 13:04

For me and a the really foul language, I’m not a prude, I can swear like a trooper in the heat if the moment, in real life, NEVER in words, particularly aimed at others. The C* word is so disgusting yet used so widely on here, it shocked me every time I read it, F words are unnecessary most of the time but can occasionally be useful to emphasise a point, however, they’re just so everyday on here. (Says so much about the person in my view, not nice and happy I don’t know you xxxx)

BamBamIsALittleShit · 27/04/2018 13:04

Sorry OP but "eleventy billion" is another for my list. It just bugs me!

I've noticed that a lot of posters ask people if their kids are "on the spectrum" surely the OP would mention that if it was relevant?

BamBamIsALittleShit · 27/04/2018 13:06

Last one - mumsnet isn't Google! That thing you've got in your hand can also be used to access drumroll THE REST OF THE INTERNET

letsgomaths · 27/04/2018 13:10

Whenever religion (especially Christianity) is mentioned, the way that it's not long before the sneers of "indoctrinated", "deluded", "imaginary friend", "fairy stories" start appearing. I could fill a bingo card on such threads. It's your right not to believe, but whatever happened to respect for other people's beliefs?

Also the reply "why are you doing asking strangers on the internet?" Sometimes people like to informally test the water by seeing what kind of reaction they get from people they will never meet, before speaking to a doctor or other professional about a difficult situation. (Andrew Lloyd Webber said that if you had a musical you weren't sure would work, you could show it a small town or village to test the reaction, before taking it to London. He also said that that's no longer possible with the internet, where reviews can be all round the world in minutes.)

JaneJeffer · 27/04/2018 13:11

On the TV threads people will be happily chatting about last night’s episode and there’s always someone who comes on to say something like “I stopped watching this programme years ago, it’s rubbish, don’t know how you can watch it”.
Or they say I'm not going to watch this anymore, it's crap and then are back posting about the next episode.

leggere · 27/04/2018 13:15

Posters (often teachers) who can't accept that everyone disagrees with them, so keeps repeating their opinion like a broken record.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 27/04/2018 13:15

People who post a detailed ‘witty’ insulting retort that the OP should use against her antagonist next time there is a confrontation assuming that her scripted words are so devastating it will resolve the situation on the sport and force an apology as opposed to the more likely outcome of the OP just being told to fuck off or her picking her teeth off the floor.

Original poster
user1485342611 · 27/04/2018 13:26

Oh woe is me posters:

"If you had four kids under four to get dressed and out in the morning OP, you wouldn't have time to worry about your neighbour's fence"

"I used to be a single unemployed mum who had nothing in my purse by Friday. So yes, I might have snapped at you in the supermarket like that woman. People often have other things on their minds you know, OP."

OP posts:
Lucisky · 27/04/2018 13:27

I hate the use of 'D' , as in ds, dh etc. If anyone referred to me as dear they would certainly get a funny look, it is so old fashioned and a bit odd in my book. Why can't one just put s, d or h?
"Give your head a wobble" I'm not even sure I know what that means.
I also don't understand the relevance of 'giving biscuits', can someone tell me?
The idea that people over 60 are old (and possibly lonely, according to one thread I was reading recently).

pigsDOfly · 27/04/2018 13:37

'D' doesn't have to mean 'dear' Lucisky it could mean darling, damned, demented, despicable and oh so many others. It's just what you read it as in your head.

RoseWhiteTips · 27/04/2018 13:39

I thought the D was for Darling. Either way, it is not something I would use. I prefer OH although I am married - my husband sounds so smug.

RoseWhiteTips · 27/04/2018 13:40

Isn’t there a list of Mumsnet abbreviations somewhere?

HabituallyOptimistic · 27/04/2018 13:42

Don't RTFT (which incidentally I haven't Grin)

MyotherUsernameisaPun · 27/04/2018 13:44

People who demand detail that isn't necessary -

OP: I had a traumatic sexual experience when I was younger and now I find it hard to be intimate. AIBU to ask my partner to wait?

MNer: I couldn't possibly offer advice until you've given me a detailed run down of every sexual trauma you have experienced in your life to date.

99% of the time the detail is irrelevant to the advice sought and it's just other posters being nosy and rubber necking!!

Oblomov18 · 27/04/2018 13:46

Most of these apply to me!
Katherine Tate: "bovvvered"? Hmm

implantsandaDyson · 27/04/2018 13:49

Posters who use the phrase "interesting first post Hmm"
or make some oh so smart remark about Netmums being that way - complete with arrow.

It sounds so smug - I picture posters waiting for a pupil of the week award because they were so smart.

willynillypie · 27/04/2018 13:50

Posters assuming something can't possibly be true because they haven't experienced it.

willynillypie · 27/04/2018 13:51

Also I dont understand when people say "NC as it's outing" but then proceed to give a number of incredibly personal details that would be very outing anyway? I don't really get it - why NC?

minionsrule · 27/04/2018 13:53

The detailed breakdown of childs lunchbox with a panicky..... is this healthy?
Its usually a stealth boast of how good and nutricious it is.... does make me laugh when the sugar brigade jump on and are horrified at the amount of sugar in the fruit/homemade from scratch flapjack Grin

sashh · 27/04/2018 13:54

I've said this before, but on the baby names threads, "We really like classic old names, we already have a Victoria and we want something similar for our new daughter, can't use Elizabeth although we love it, have you any suggestions?"

What about Unique? Or Shaziaaa

Swiftly followed by

Do you know if it's a boy or a girl?

maxthemartian · 27/04/2018 14:00

People that use "have you visited the gp about your anxiety" as a way to insult and undermine the OP.