Annoying things other posters do

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Just wondering what things other posters do that really annoy you?

For me it's the deliberate misconstruing of an opening post and then flaming the OP for something they never actually said or implied.

Also the posters who conjure up wild scenarios to try and prove the OP is BU - "How do you know the woman who pushed you out of the way at the bus stop wasn't rushing home to her seriously ill child and has only 2p in her purse so couldn't afford a taxi. Try to be kinder and less self absorbed in future".

See Kintan, I hate hugs.
I can’t stand it when people invade my virtual personal space and try to hug me.
There’s a poster on here who gives hugs. I would like to virtually head butt her. I think it’s patronising.

"OP's who post about their DP's hobby but won't tell us what it is, in case it's 'outing' - hardly ever relevant but still winds me up grin"

It's cycling.

Yes so annoying. My dp's 'hobby'. I have a 'hobby'. Fuck off with your 'hobbies'. God, even the word is so fucking twee.

"Name change for this" right, so you changed your name so you couldn't be identified but now you're telling us? Doesn't make sense to me.

Twisting things you have said and when you clarify, completely ignoring the clarification because it would shut down their nastiness.

Looking you up on other threads. Under another guise, I had written a post about Ghosting and ended my post by saying ‘he probably still tells people i’m His girlfriend’ One poster came onto the thread to tell everyone I had been cheating even though the ghosting had happened at least 5 years ago!

Sad sack

By the way I WAS GHOSTED!!

Not the other way round.

Fishface77 fair enough - I’m not into giving out (or receiving) virtual hugs either - it’s the phrase ‘unmumsnetty’ that annoys me. If one is going to offer a hug just do it and don’t try to sound too cool for school about it! :)

Sorry kintan didn’t mean your comment specifically, just hugs in general. (((((Unmumsnetty hug)))

When posters assume there's a troll or paedophile and hurl abuse at an OP based on not a lot!

Example:

OP: My neighbour keeps parking me in and I can't get out of my drive

Poster: Yeah right OP, fuck off you pervy troll

Well my husband says X and he works in Y so he knows.

I don't understand it but my husband has said X.

Yes I know what your husband said and in some circumstances he right, but not in this one.

I think that was when I was being told binary HAD to have 16 digits. If you are programming a computer yes it does, but just doing sums no it doesn't.

Is anyone going to log it with 101?

Advice such as...
Just get a better paid job or ltb

Ageism...assumption that young mums have nothing to give..

Posters who like to piss on your chips...
(Apparently a 2 year relationship might fall apart any minute like a 10 year marriage wouldnt)
When talking about mg retraining i was told i woildnt earn much ...as though that was the only consideration

Benefit bashing...could go on

Posters ganging up on op

The threads like this:-
Op :- my husband beats the living daylights out of me, gives me no money and I can’t go anywhere. We have children and I am scared if I leave I won’t be able to financially support my kids.
Poster:- well can’t you get a job OP and start to squirrel money away.
Really makes me angry!

DannyLaRuesBestFrock

Yes so annoying. My dp's 'hobby'. I have a 'hobby'. Fuck off with your 'hobbies'. God, even the word is so fucking twee.

For goodness sake, it's just a word! My DH is very much into steam trains, and loves gardening. So what do you call them other than his hobbies?? He doesn't have all that much time for them these days, admittedly, but we take our DDs on steam trains. What's with the rant about what is just a word?

At this rate, no one is going to dare to post anything ever again. Because what they say is bound to give someone the rage. Or maybe some of us will start using these words and phrases even more, as we don't want to be told what we should and shouldn't say.

Rabbitsitter people namechange in that situation because it is very specific so could be easily identifiable, and therefore lead someone to be able to look at all their posts. OR they are generally quite open on MN, have maybe met local MNers in RL and want to keep a particular issue private.

Very long posts with no paragraphs. Can't be bothered.

The frequent rush to excuse ANY sort of bad/rude/inconsiderate behaviour with, 'Oh, s/he may have MH 'ishoos' , have a hidden disability, why are you so judgey,' , etc.

The other day I felt like posting about a very young, slim, athletic-looking woman dressed in what looked like gym kit, who bounced on and off the bus - and plonked herself straight in the disabled seats when there were plenty of others available - with her bag plonked beside her, and proceeded to be so engrossed in her phone that she conveniently didn't notice elderly people who could have done with those seats.
If I had, I just know someone would have said she probably had whatever hidden ishoos , why was I being so judgey...

Some people just are rude, inconsiderate, selfish, plain Ps ITA.

I agree that some posters are too quick to suggest hidden disabilities or MH issues. The reality is that MH issues don't give you the right to be a PITA and behave in an entitled way. And I'm speaking as someone who suffers from complex PTSD from childhood SA. It doesn't mean I have the right to impinge on other people.

I find the navel gazing "could my child be a genius / prodigy ?" Posts v annoying. You can tell, the parent does think that their child IS in fact a genius. I really dislike parents that put their children on a high imagined pedestal, they are setting themselves up for a big fall. IMO parents who have kids who are brilliant are, on the whole, very very modest.

Tinkobell Parents who have kids that are brilliant post of the boards that are just for that purpose.

*post ON...

Very long opening post, usually a blow by blow account in the she said/I said mould.
Don’t read those. Can’t be bothered.

@Rose those annoy me too but then as the thread develops with more info, the ‘drip drip drip’ brigade jump on the OP (which annoy me more).

Nowt wrong with having a hobby. It's posting that the OP/OH is 'doing his hobby/doing my hobby' that just can't help sounding a bit...mimsy, somehow.

'So I was doing my hobby.' 'OH likes to do his hobby twice a week.'

Just saying knitting/cycling/weightlifting/painting little tiny war figures in an attic/whatever sounds far, far less mimsy.

But it's a small thing. Bit grating, but not really important

Posters who think putting at the end of an insulting, rude reply to an OP elevates it to a witty and clever response. It doesn't.

Actually any poster who can't seem to distinguish between ignorant and witty is annoying.

Also posters who plot miserably onto lighthearted threads determined to suck the fun out of them by finding something to take offence at or to get angry and indignant about.

Likewise the posters who open clearly titled threads to sigh 'not another one of these' 'Oh it must be that time of year again', 'what exactly is the point of this. thread'?. If it's all so wearying and tiresome, just don't open the bloody thing. I can assure you the OP won't miss your pointless contribution.

Re the hobby thing, if it's football or jogging or tennis then yes, why not just say.

But if it's collecting 1920s teaspoons and you've already said you live in the South and work in a hospital and have 4 yr old twins, then it could be a bit outing so I can understand why someone might be cagey.

"Hobby" is always cycling.