To think if you can't spend the day with someone else's child, you're not ready to have your own?

[SabrinaHope]

Just what the title says...

Someone I know is starting to TTC, but she always says how hard it is when she looks after a 9 year old for the day or whatever and says "I couldn't have that all day".

stupid inflammatory comment.

I only enjoy my kids. Not fussed on anybody else’s.

Nope.

I basically dislike all children. And that's me being polite.

Except my own, they're the best!!

I was at a restaurant last week with a close friend who ended up having to bring her three children at the last minute due to her child minder cancelling. All was fine until all three children decided to bang their drinks glasses on the table, loudly, repeatedly and my friend did nothing about it...

People were staring, it was getting very embarrasing and after a few minutes had to say could they please stop as it's giving me a headache..

She knows im TTC and looked shocked and said "well maybe you having a child isnt such a good idea then!"

I didn't want to make the situation anymore awkward by stating that actually, my kids wouldn't be allowed to repeatedly bang their glasses on the table loudly thanks!

Lots of people don't like other people's kids I agree!

I couldn't deal with a 9 year old for a while day. I just don't know what to do with them. I cope with two toddlers just fine though. You learn as you go.

No, other people's kids are wildly irritating in large doses whereas I adore mine and spend as much time as I can with them.

YABU to expect someone to conform to what you deem to be acceptable as 'mum behaviour'. I'm sure she'll be excellent (unless there's a massive drip feed)

It's always different when it's your own.
Other people's kids are nearly always exhausting or frankly a PITA, especially when you're not used to kids at all.

Yabu other people's kids are annoying at time and 9 years old whammo on day one is not what initial parenthood is like. I see it as akin to those types who say 'when I have kids I'll never let them...'

YABU
its not comparable. at all.

YABU.
I still find my friends children quite difficult to tolerate at times- mainly when their behaviour gets challenging.
Absolutely adore my own child and enjoy spending time with her.

No.
Because I love my kids, I’m quite good with them. Before I had kids i hated any form of childcare, because liking them wasn’t enough to get me properly engaged, it turned out that only love was enough.
I also mostly dislike having other kids round. I’m not pleased or proud of this, it’s just the way it is with me.

God others peoples children are so tedious. 3 hours max for a play date is all I give. Unless there is an emergency and I’m compensated with wine afterwards. A whole day sounds gruesome.

Before I had kids I’d have preferred to stick pins in my eyes than look after a kid for a day. Or even a few hours. That hasn’t made me a crap parent. I’m actually quite a good parent. And a good friend as I rarely inflict my kids on my mates. Especially the ones without kids as I know how much I hated it.

OP, what are your thoughts?

YABU other people's kids are the not the same as your own!!!

YABU, not the same at all !

I have two children of my own and frankly no I would do just about anything to avoid having someone else’s child in my care for a day! I don’t think they are comparable and I dread dealing with other people’s kids on play dates, etc.

I hate other people’s children.
I love mine.

Glitters, thats a horrible thing for anyone to say, let alone a ‘close friend’. How unkind of her; and that sounds like some pretty shoddy parenting on her part to me.

God no. I actively avoid other people’s children. Sometimes I avoid my own.

no - I had never even changed a nappy before I had children. I had no desire to - looking after your own kids who you know very well and who love you unreseverdly is completedly different to baby sitting.

Glitters I can't believe your friend said that to you! What a twat!

No not really, I'm pregnant with number 4.I adore my children and I'm happy as Larry spending all day and night etc with them, doesn't matter what we are doing I find them joyous.

Can not be arsed with other peoples and find babysitting a complete chore. Hate it.

I think the OP is nonsense. I wasn't really interested in kids and wouldn't have wanted to bother with looking after one all day.
Then I had one and now I adore them and work with babies and toddlers.
Most people don't really get kids til they have their own.

I once worked with a woman who was quizzing me about whether or not I wanted kids (I know, whole other thread).

I said that teaching had made me think very, very carefully about having children of my own. She said something like

"Looking after other people's children is nothing like looking after your own. You know how at the end of a day teaching, when you're exhausted and they all leave and you get that wonderful quiet and can just finally relax? That's how I feel when I get my dc back at the end of the day. It's the opposite way round when they're your own."

She did have one well behaved 5 year old though.