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3 year old going to see the new avengers film.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 25/04/2018 21:44

Would you judge?

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88mph · 26/04/2018 08:50

I don't have an issue with you showing your 3 year old superhero movies, that wouldn't bother me. But in all honesty I'd be really annoyed if there was a 3 year old in the cinema with me, I know mine wouldn't sit quietly for that length of time and it would ruin a massively anticipated movie experience.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 26/04/2018 08:50

Dead pool should be an 18 really.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 26/04/2018 08:51

88 I do appreciate that, I’d feel the same. But I know that she will sit quietly, which is why if I did take her it would be in a Tuesday afternoon or something like that when there’s barely anyone there.

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Fatted · 26/04/2018 08:53

Just been talking to the OH about this telling him we are terrible parents. He reminded me of why we stopped watching in the night garden. Because eldest at the time was terrified of Iggle Piggle and having nightmares about him going off in his boat to die! This was before he was exposed to anything remotely super hero ish. He also cried at the end of the land before time when the evil trex who spent the entire film trying to eat every one got thrown off the cliff. Age appropriate does not always mean it is for your child.

This is why I say make informed choices. Sit with your children and watch with them, talk to them about what is happening on screen.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 26/04/2018 08:56

fatted I would rather my daughter watch Spider-Man than the acid trip that is In The Night Garden!
The only film that’s ever upset her was Tarzan. So I guess anyone who lets their kids watch Disney are abusive and dim because it upset MY child and therefore must upset every other child.

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DannyConcannon · 26/04/2018 08:59

I would rather my daughter watch Spider-Man

I wanted to take my youngest to see the new Spiderman last summer, but she watched the trailer and decided she didn't want to go because she found Michael Keaton scary. Not the Vulture (his character), just Michael Keaton in general.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 26/04/2018 09:01

danny that’s really funny Grin I was scared of Christopher Walken when i was little

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falang · 26/04/2018 09:02

Ok. I wouldn't judge. I would criticise any parent taking a 3 year old into a film that I thought wasn't suitable. I'd also criticise a parent who took a small child into a long film just because the parent wanted to see the film. I was at the cinema once when this happened. The poor child wouldn't stop talking and eventually they were told to leave.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 26/04/2018 09:03

I'd also criticise a parent who took a small child into a long film just because the parent wanted to see the film. I was at the cinema once when this happened. The poor child wouldn't stop talking and eventually they were told to leave.

Which doesn’t apply to me.

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DannyConcannon · 26/04/2018 09:06

I was scared of Christopher Walken when i was little

When you were little?? He still scares the bejesus out of me...

I wanted to take mine to see Thor: Raganarok so that they could experience the joy-in-human-form that is Jeff Goldblum, but it didn't work out :(

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 26/04/2018 09:14

Raganarok is actually a lot like lion king! Evil sibling takes over the home land when the father passes away and the son who jas been cast out has to come return to defend it.

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88mph · 26/04/2018 09:17

88 I do appreciate that, I’d feel the same. But I know that she will sit quietly, which is why if I did take her it would be in a Tuesday afternoon or something like that when there’s barely anyone there.

Of course you know your child, we don't. If they will sit quietly and not talk or whisper then great. Bear in mind people going on a Tuesday afternoon have still hugely looked forward to seeing the movie as much as a Saturday nighter. I would go on a Tuesday afternoon because it's cheap day.

I'm not saying your child would be disruptive, but even whispering can be irritating!

But like I said, you obviously know your child best. The noise level is another factor to consider, it would be incredibly loud for little ears!

Nanny0gg · 26/04/2018 09:18

I asked if people would judge. I didn’t ask for your opinions.

And they gave you reasons why they would judge.

If you'd just wanted Yes/No answers you should have asked MNHQ if there was a way of taking a poll.

DannyConcannon · 26/04/2018 09:19

Raganarok is actually a lot like lion king!

With the exception of the regrettable, nay shameful, lack of any Jeff Goldblum.

gussyfinknottle · 26/04/2018 09:22

I judge and think it was being done for parents not for chid.

Zeelove · 26/04/2018 09:28

My son was three going to see the first avengers film! He loved it. He's nine now and watches pretty much everything. I would not judge at all. This is not something to judge about haha.

Cutesbabasmummy · 26/04/2018 09:31

I wouldnt take my 3 year old. Plenty of time for Avengers when he gets older.

Zeelove · 26/04/2018 09:33

Oh also, I thought it was shit. So it defo wasn't because I wanted to see it. I was the fidgety child in this instance. He say still the whole way through, like I knew he would.

Ginandplatonic · 26/04/2018 09:35

I have no idea why you bothered asking as you are only interested in the answers that agree with you and had already decided what to do.

Apparently you are more invested in your Cool Parent status than in your child’s developing brain. Hmm

Camomila · 26/04/2018 09:37

On a tangent...for those whose kids like superheroes if you have virgin tv and go to ‘on demand’ there’s a whole load of (much more age appropriate) marvel cartoons there.

stressedoutfred · 26/04/2018 09:39

I wouldn't have taken either of my sons to see it, aged 3. However that's just my choice, I wouldn't judge someone else doing it

Ginandplatonic · 26/04/2018 09:39

Oh and I have seen the film Fatted so my opinion is fully informed. Some superhero films are fine for little kids, this one imo isn’t.

I would be interested to know how many of the people saying it’s fine to take your 3yo to have seen it. Have you??

Atticusss · 26/04/2018 09:51

Ive done some more thinking and actually think 3 year olds not being phased by violent or scary scenes is something you should be concerned about as a parent. The daughter of mine who wasn't scared of anything I mentioned earlier has since been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD. Her empathy and understanding is considerably immature for her age. I'm actually really relieved that my other children seem scared of these type of scenes and would rather play than watch movies.

DannyConcannon · 26/04/2018 10:06

I would be interested to know how many of the people saying it’s fine to take your 3yo to have seen it. Have you??

Haven't seen this one, but have seen all the others in the series, some with young children, so am in a position to make an educated judgement.

I would have taken my eldest when she was 3, no problem. My youngest would be too fidgety.

PrincessScarlett · 26/04/2018 10:08

I would judge OP.

It's not about whether or not she can sit through a film as I totally believe she would be very well behaved in the cinema from what you have said.

It's about the fact that you are unnecessarily showing violence and death to a 3 year old who is obviously already desensitized to violence and death. When she mixes with other children at nursery, and later school, if she acts out what she has seen on screen or talks in detail about it and consequently scares or exposes other children to such violence and death it is likely to ring all sorts of safeguarding bells.

As parents we need to make decisions on what is appropriate for our children and not let them dictate, especially at a young age. I think because you were allowed to watch horror films as a child you don't see the harm (although not sure whether you were as young as 3) but you only have to look at high profile child killers who were allowed to watch inappropriate films from a young age to see there is potential for disastrous consequences. This is obviously the extreme end of the spectrum but shows why parenting is such an important and often difficult job.