3 year old going to see the new avengers film.

[NotUmbongoUnchained]

Would you judge?

Even if a child shows no obvious distress it doesn’t mean they aren’t experiencing ill effects...The point is that desensitisation to violence at a young age can lead to problems that don’t show themselves until much later
Exactly, Hoppinggreen.
Small children are not able to process what they see, hear, etc, in the same way as older children. The damage that can be done is likely to be far greater if the child doesn’t react or get upset when watching age inappropriate content. It becomes normalised.

This thread wasn't about the OP asking opinions on whether to take her 3 YO to see an inappropriate film at the cinema. This thread was all about the OP showing off and demonstrating what a "cool" parent she is and that parents who pay attention to the age ratings are such boring squares.

Tedious.

And anyone who uses the expressions “cool parent” or “cool wives” are usually sad twats.
It’s not “cool” to take your kid to the cinema.

Well, I've just been to see it with DS1(15) and apart from anything else, it's 2hr 40min long - I would've had to sedate any of mine at the age of 3 to sit still that length of time...

You are right, it is not cool to take your preschooler to a movie which is a. totally over their head, b. as stated above desensitises towards violence/mutilation/death, c. has lots of rather scary characters (whether they actually do anything nefarious or not) and d. is just too bloody long.

Anyway, you know what you want to do, so do it. No need to ask here.

Aside from the fact that it's obviously age-inappropriate, if I saw a 3 year old able to sit quietly for 3h of screen time I would definitely judge - how much screen time must they have at home to make this a normal experience for them?

Exactly hedgehog, to be honest I would be very concerned about a 3 year old who cud sit for that length of time. Normally developing 3 year olds need to move around, jump, play, talk and certainly don't have a concentration span of over 2 hours.

If you don't want people to tell you your parenting choices are terrible, don't come onto a parenting forum and stealth brag about your terrible parenting choices. HTH

exposure

"More recent studies have confirmed that high exposure to television violence for children and adolescents is also associated with higher levels of aggression and violent behavior. Exposure to violence shown through media is consistently associated with problem behaviors, such as increases in aggression and anxiety. Children could also end up with lower empathy and compassion for others.

Some children exposed to various forms of media violence (not just television violence but violence on the Internet, in movies and in video games) can come to view the world as a mean, scary place where they are not safe and they can do little to protect themselves from harm. This is a particular problem for very young children such as those under the age of six who have difficulty distinguishing reality from fantasy."

This is an excerpt from "the Conversation". I don't understand why you would want anything but happy, positive films for your 4 year old to watch.

FYI, she has screen time on weekends. That’s it. She’s at nursery all week so does plenty of running, jumping, bring a mermaid, being a 3 year old etc.

Can I ask those saying their kids can watch anything they like is that including sex because many shows

Game of thrones
Westword

Ect have very graphic sex

This is why I am very choosy who’s house my kids go to

@obachan brilliant post, completely agree (couldn't have explained my problem with this so succinctly)

Metoodear, my kids (8 to 15) cannot watch just anything, but I do find it interesting how many people have more of a problems with their children being exposed to sex rather than violence.

IMO it's the depiction of sex, the kind of sex, that is increasingly shown in fairly mainstream programs, that is the problem, not the concept of 'consenting adults doing pleasurable things to each other'.
Game of Thrones is a really good example of that: totally unnecessary sex scenes, far more of them and more drawn out than in the books. They are there to titillate an adult audience and, I agree with you, are not for young viewers.

However, I don't have a problem with my children seeing kissing, hugging, people giggling under bed sheets etc. It's exploitative, semi-pornographic sex that does not add to the plot that I object to.

But I have the same problem with 'unnecessary' violence, drawn out torture scenes, for instance, where I cannot help but wonder what kind of a viewing desire is being catered for here .

And don't get me started on sexualised violence - now there's something I can barely stand to watch and I would do rather a lot to protect my DCs from.

And what obachan said - v true.

Heard it all now.
Taking a 3 year old to a 12a? Shocking parenting.
Read them a book.

Hum bongo you missed my point. Your dd might well do plenty of jumping etc at nursery, that doesn't take away the fact that 3 year olds are not able to sit and concentrate for over 2 hours without needing to jump, play, fidget etc.

Well my 3 year old is clearly an alien then. She watches one film a week, on a Saturday evening before bed. Hardly an unusual amount of screentime.

Even my 10 year old who can consentrate would fidget long before the 2 hour mark.

This film is not clear comparable to watching Toy Story though is it?
It’s not hard. Certification is there for a reason.

*clearly

This film is not clear comparable to watching Toy Story though is it?

And I found ToyStory terrifying - those Zombie toys? Absolutely the stuff of night mares

I'm not even kidding....

For gods sake there is a fully blown torture scene never mind numerous deaths and you want too take a 3 year old...... i have no words out of all the super hero movies only dr strange and deadpool rival it.

@NotUmbongoUnchained so I'm a "sad twat" because I think it's shitty parenting to take a 3 year old to see a totally inappropriate film at the cinema?

My kids go to the cinema, we saw Coco on Sunday - a completely appropriate film for their age group.

Grow up and stop being such a dick. You asked for opinions on here and apparently anyone who disagrees with you is wrong. Do what you like, you'll be reaping the consequences in the years to come.

It's too long for a kid that age, apart from anything else. My kids have seen them all and will watch this one, but at home when it comes out on disc.
Also it meant I could go without them!

12A is what an old PG was, ie it is actually Parental Guidance; a child any age can go with an adult, and parents will have more of an idea of what is un/suitable for their own kids. I can take my 7-year-olds to films that I wouldn't take my 10-year-old to because he's more sensitive.

Seamus, disagreeing with the op not only means you are a "sad twat", it also means you are a "weirdo" and a "drip".
Maturity just shining through, isn't it?

Are you still going on?