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3 year old going to see the new avengers film.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 25/04/2018 21:44

Would you judge?

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IAmMotherOfDragons · 26/04/2018 19:49

I probably wouldn't... its different from home, everything is so much bigger and louder which makes it scary.

wait for the dvd x

0h · 26/04/2018 20:02

I'm just back from seeing it. Some daftie took her 4 year old who then asked 45 questions and she had to shh him 45 times.

So that wasn't annoying, doesn't everybody love that? 😖

He wasn't badly behaved, it's just too complicated for a small child so of course they ask what's going on or is excited when Captain America appears etc.

It was great btw but pretty intense at times.

gussyfinknottle · 26/04/2018 21:24

Nice, op. Hope you had a lovely time.

clockworklime · 27/04/2018 08:29

I’m not judging you on the issue of you taking your 3 year old to see the Avengers, but I definitely am judging you for your responses on this thread. You seem entitled and arrogant.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 27/04/2018 08:34

Wow thank you so much Dr Armchair

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MyBoyBuildsCoffins · 27/04/2018 19:00

We are at Avengers now & it's absolutely full of kids 🙂🙂🙂

PasstheStarmix · 27/04/2018 19:05

How old are the kids? Dh went to see it and came back and said it was very dark and emotive. He said he wouldn’t want ds watching it until a lot older than 3. He has let him watch some of the other lighter hearted marvel movies but this one he said is too much.

MyBoyBuildsCoffins · 27/04/2018 19:10

Mostly from 6-11 ish but also a few younger ones too

gussyfinknottle · 28/04/2018 08:58

Having heard what happens- no spoilers- it sounds totally unsuitable for a 3 year old. Let kids be kids. And don't desensitise them to stuff just so you can be a cool parent.
I wouldn't let a 3 year old watch reports of the Syrian conflict on the news.

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 28/04/2018 09:36

DS2 is 7 and watched it last night. The only bit he didn't like were the dogs at the barrier, but everything else was fine. Absolutely not the scariest or darkest film he's watched (and we're generally cautious about age ratings on games and movies). I'd say some of it went over his head, but the bits he got he wasn't scared by.

The dementors in Harry Potter movies were by far the scariest thing he's seen in a movie.

PasstheStarmix · 28/04/2018 13:00

I remember watching some films at a friends house when I was a kid that I wasn’t supposed to watch and they gave me nightmares for weeks Shock

Twofigsnotgiven · 28/04/2018 13:08

Having seen it last night with our elder boy (12), there is no way a young child should be watching that film. If they did see it and weren’t scared and upset, then I’d seriously be questioning what else they’ve been allowed to watch.
Judging all the way here. There’s a reason why it’s a 12 here and PG-13 in the US.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 28/04/2018 15:16

I’ve just taken my nephew to watch it and the cinema was absolutely packed with kids.

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PasstheStarmix · 28/04/2018 15:27

I agree just because a few kids are allowed to watch it doesn’t mean they all should be. Dh went to see yesterday and said there wasn’t any kids there.

pinkhorse · 28/04/2018 15:32

My 8 year old is seeing it next weekend and a lot of his friends have seen it today.

PasstheStarmix · 28/04/2018 15:49

A mature 8 year old who understands themes of death, threat and violence but also understand that it is all make believe would probably be okay. I wouldn’t say very young children would be though or should understand.

CoolCarrie · 28/04/2018 15:59

Here, in South Africa, any child under the age rating for any film, would not be allowed in, simple as that.

CoolCarrie · 28/04/2018 16:04

Frankly, taking a very young child to a action movie like that one is bloody stupid, irresponsible and you are clearly an idiot! You will be telling us you let the child see Deadpool next!

reddressblueshoes · 28/04/2018 16:27

I am horrified anyone would take a small child to this.

We saw it last night- no children there.

No specific spoilers, but it features:

  • scenes of fairly graphic torture
  • scenes with limbs torn open and graphic realistic injuries from the beginning
  • beloved avengers dying in open-eyes, broken necked kind of ways
  • a plot that is so insanely complicated and long my 37 year old husband started checking his watch two hours in
  • lots and lots more death of known characters
  • a not-happy ending as it is part one of a two-parter with the sequel coming next May

I would judge the fuck out of anyone brining a child under ten to that film. It is totally inappropriate. It's nothing like the other marvels- I'd actually say deadpool would be less disturbing because aside from some of the scenes where he becomes deadpool, the death and fighting is more absurdist and fantastical than this.

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 28/04/2018 17:29

I guess this is just something we will disagree on.
None of the kids at the cinema today, nephew included, we’re at all traumatised and they all loved it.

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Scottsy100 · 28/04/2018 19:08

if they’ve watched any other Avenger type films then I don’t see what the problem is. My folks were always pretty liberal with what I watched and im a bit of a film buff never did me any harm, I always encourage my 8 yr old to watch films that aren’t necessarily his age group as long as the reason they are is only fantasy type violence or mild language anything too sexual that he wouldn’t understand is where I draw a line really. Superhero violence which is all Avengers is is fine in my book.

voddiekeepsmesane · 28/04/2018 19:40

Meh I would NOT judge OP ...DS has been watching spiderman, ghostbusters etc since 4/5 he is now a very polite, well adjusted, academic 14 year old. It really does depend on the child and how you as a family talk about and view films. DS has never been one to "act out" what he has seen in films. We spoke from a very early age about what acting is versus reality. But I am sure if his personality was different then we may have changed our viewing habits.

whiteraven010185 · 28/04/2018 19:58

No, not at 4 no I wouldn't let my child watch this film... Too much violence.

thesockgap · 28/04/2018 20:01

We saw it this afternoon. Without wanting to give massive plot spoilers, there is a lot of stuff that's very violent and potentially upsetting, even my 11 year old was quite gutted after we came out! Also it's very long (2h 40m). Although all of my kids went to the pictures at age 3, they got fidgety after an hour, asked questions, wanted the toilet, etc. I very much doubt they'd have sat for 3 hours with adverts.

Serenitymummy · 28/04/2018 20:09

Do it, you know your own kid. I saw it the other day and will be taking my 5yo tomorrow, to a daytime showing. Before I had kids I’d go to these films in the evenings to avoid being there whilst children are.

If she has seen the others and liked them then I don't see the harm. He's been watching them for at least two years so i dont think its too young. You've seen it already so you xan judge whether its appropriate. Go nuts, I hope she enjoys!