For being bitterly disappointed at the language and attitudes of people on MN lately?

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I started using MN for support when I was going through hard times, hopefully supporting people when they were going through their hard times, learn new things, catch up with news etc. Lately however every thread I go on seems to be one big fight session. People are either being purposefully nasty or having a go at anyone who disagrees with their opinion - foul language included in the bundle. Is this really what this site is turning in to? Surely everyone is entitled to an opinion and surely if you don't agree and can't be mature about you should follow my mother's advice 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'.

That's quite fine Rhuby You were talking good sense as always

That's great news Fio. Now pop along to the "How many times..?" thread and state how often. You will be an inspiration

Fio - that is not so easy when people change names as often as they change their knickers.

Plus I'd be there all day.

You can avoid certain posts, but sooner or later you'll get the one-liner poster with a hilariously funny insult directed at yourself. If you're struggling with a real problem, that ain't funny.

Guilty of (((hugging))) myself on occasion. But only people I'd hug in RL. Lots of indiscriminate (((hugging))) goes on in other forums .

I've got mixed feelings about how robust the debate is here.
I like the idea of a forum where anything goes. But I hate it when a pack of people descend on a poster who has an 'unacceptable' pov even if that pov is odious. It does seem to have got more hard core than I remember a few years ago.
But I love the bad language when it is blardy and Farking - that's still very funny to me!

It's all very well saying 'avoid those threads' but people do want to have a say without feeling like there's a pc lynch mob converging on them.

why thank you mummdoit - i thought i had been lost in a sea of lezza'ness

i typed mumsnet wrong when i was still new to teh site and found a completly different one....and WOW was it different.

full of ((hugs)) and aww hun's. it should have had a disclaimer on the front page saying buckets were necessary

I have been (((hugging))) strangers on the Reltionships section I have to admit, because their husbands have been/are being such twats

Three letters P M T!

thats teh thing though. when a ((hug)) is deserved then great, but on some forums i have seen you get them all over theplace for no apparant reason.

its puke inducing

Dino.

No, that's not my point. As I said people were rude to each other before but there was always a reason, like a debate on religion or something and they disagreed with each other.

Now it could be something as innocent as baby weaning and someone will just breeze in, say "parp" or "fucking 'ell I'm fed up of hearing about this" or whatever and then breeze out again. There seems to be no reason behind it other than to be annoying.

And name changing is very regular now, I think a lot of people hide behind that.

I hate PARP. It's a helluver lot ruder than fuck off IMO!

well "fuck off IMO"

arf

But Rhubarb they are really easy to spot becuase they post in the same fashion and banter with the same posters..

Go and play in the canal Mouse

Rhubarb has a good point about people breezing in saying "I'm fed up about this". Even if a topic's been covered lots of times, it might still be the first thread someone has read/posted so it's completely new to them. I do have to say, though, when I posted a topic that had recently been covered, everyone was very polite!

I agree with Rhubarb.

I came to MN neraly 5 years ago, mainly for advice as ds was a tiny baby at the time. I've had some excellent advice, mainly on dealing with challenging behaviour and a miscarriage.

In between all of that I used to enjoy heated debates, have a laugh and actually be eduacted on rather alot of issues.

Now, all that seems prominent to me is the oldie v newbie debate, who is the funniest, who is the rudest etc. To be honest it is boring the tits off me.

I'm sick of reading threads and seeing somone post 'yawn', 'FFS' and in particular the madeleine McCann threads have sickened me at the amount of insults flying around because some posters don't aggree with others actions. Maybe no one is right or wrong concerning this particular topic, but a certain amount of understanding is needed.

Alot of people on here seem to have the 'humane' chip missing and think they hav ethe right to post what they like, including hurtful comments and insults.

Noone would behave like that in RL (I hope)

Any way, I'm sure none of you give a toss what little old me thinks.

I am just questioning what I actually get out of MN, and if it's what I need right now.

Think I already no teh answer to that though....I don't have to change my name to ay this either.

Not really, with one liners it is hard to spot who is who and they just try to type like cod a lot of the time.

Plus it just seems to be the done thing now.

Tell you what annoys me.

Someone posts something, say about fruitshoots, M&T parking spaces, something about SN children, food, weaning or anyother "HOT" MN topic.

Then 20 posters come along and post "oh I'll get my popcorn" "pass the hardhats"

ad nauseam

If you want to debate about those subjects, go for it. That's the beauty of MN. But the ones who post about wanting doughnuts are just, well doughnuts.

Funny you should start this thread, I was thinking the same thing until recently when I met up with an old friend and we went to see a band that we had really loved. Instead of having the time of my life, by about 11.00pm I felt tired, missed the kids and looked at all the weirdly dressed lads and lasses and realised that I had actually grown up. Made me appreciate what I had, but also brought back great memories of all the fun things we did!!!