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For being bitterly disappointed at the language and attitudes of people on MN lately?

418 replies

CS1753 · 14/05/2007 14:02

I started using MN for support when I was going through hard times, hopefully supporting people when they were going through their hard times, learn new things, catch up with news etc. Lately however every thread I go on seems to be one big fight session. People are either being purposefully nasty or having a go at anyone who disagrees with their opinion - foul language included in the bundle. Is this really what this site is turning in to? Surely everyone is entitled to an opinion and surely if you don't agree and can't be mature about you should follow my mother's advice 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'.

OP posts:
ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 14/05/2007 16:44

My norks aren't upper class or poncy.

LittleMouseWithCLogsOn · 14/05/2007 16:44

i will NEVER NEVER SURRENDER

< im Ulster accent>

Greensleeves · 14/05/2007 16:45

Oooh, thanks

Boco · 14/05/2007 16:46

My mother always used to say 'break it on down, come on, yeah, one time, uh huh, yeah, come on, shake your thang'.

LittleMouseWithCLogsOn · 14/05/2007 16:46

( do you htink the home owners had a say there on wat colurs were used?)

Gizmo · 14/05/2007 16:47

Boco I knew your mum and she never said no such thing...

MarsLady · 14/05/2007 16:47

My mother still says..... "I brought you into this world and I can take you out!!"

expatinscotland · 14/05/2007 16:47

The Red Hot Chilli Peppers say it best:
I am/What I am/and most mutha fuckas don't give a damn.

NoodleStroodle · 14/05/2007 16:47

I think this is a bit odd.

I quite like MN for the edge and slight madness that infiltrates it. I have discussions and heated exchanges with people who are obviously from completely different walks of life and it makes me think. I have learnt loads and its not all nappies and breast feeding.

Sometimes I play deveils advocate because I am bored.And I like a heated debate that keeps you on your toes.

The problem is that you don't get tone in the exchanges - so it is sometimes hard to judge whether a comment is vengeful or in jest. But that is the amusing bit when there are misunderstandings.

Some threads I steer clear of because obviously the posters are barking and I am never going to agree with them.

LittleMouseWithCLogsOn · 14/05/2007 16:47

my mum says" do you want a cold sausage" but i dont ont he whoel let that be a Life Lesson

LittleMouseWithCLogsOn · 14/05/2007 16:48
ScottishThistle · 14/05/2007 16:48

My Mother used to say...

"Take it in your stride!"

expatinscotland · 14/05/2007 16:48

I think we should have a 'Get Over It' section rather than an AIBU one.

MarsLady · 14/05/2007 16:49

She does codliver. And I say it to my children too. lol!

She also says (my own personal favourite) "Stop the coming and COME!"

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 14/05/2007 16:49

I think a FUCK OFF AND DIE section might be quite pleasant and stress releiving.

Greensleeves · 14/05/2007 16:49

Acksherly my mother said "Greeny, the trouble with that child is that he's too comfortable. You want to traumatise him a bit." Pure MN

LittleMouseWithCLogsOn · 14/05/2007 16:49

ooh er liek tony sopranos mum

LadyOfTheFlowers · 14/05/2007 16:49

i am whatever you say i am,
if i wasnt then why would say i am,
in the papers, the news everyday i am,
i dunno its just the way i am.

sorry, ignore.

NoodleStroodle · 14/05/2007 16:50

I would also like there to be a naughty step where people can go and think about that they have done (like starting a Christmas thread in May!)

dinosaur · 14/05/2007 16:50

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 14/05/2007 16:50

SHPHH

pmsl

mamazon · 14/05/2007 16:50

maybe your not looking in the right places then CS1753

if you go into a breast v bottle discussion you must expect some disagreement.

but if you go on a "help i think i may be miscarrying" thread youw ill see some of the most amazing honest and open posts offering every bit of support we can offer.

i get a bit annoyed that threads like this pop up every now and then, usually by posters i have never seen before, sying that we are a bunch of unfeeling opinionated bitches.

you need look no further than the christmas gift sharing scheme, the Mile for maude, the help and support people like Mb or GGG have recieved following their awful news....even a thread a while ago where an MNer had a months shopping posted to her as she was on hard times. to know that Mumsnet is a place crammed full of amazingly careing but also intelligent articulate women who liek to spend their day discussing politics rather than soaps.

if you wish to spend your time on a site that has (((hugs))) at the bottom of every post then this really isn't the place for you.

if however you like the idea of genuine warmth and support as and when its NEEDED then i suggest you stop moaning and start reading.

MarsLady · 14/05/2007 16:50

LOTF.... I love that song!

NoodleStroodle · 14/05/2007 16:51

Perhaps we should always have a Friday Fight like the one Mouse started last Friday. Very cathartic.

Boco · 14/05/2007 16:52

The title of this thread makes me feel really disapproved of and told off, which makes me want to swear, which makes me realise that i've not grown up at all, which makes me ashamed, which makes me think 'wtf, ffs! you aint the king of me, i's the king of me! and play really loud music in my room.