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To think it's a bit cheeky of this guy to invite himself over to mine?

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BeQuietAndEatYourGreens · 24/04/2018 14:01

We've been on three dates, all very spaced-out and quite superficial. I'm not really feeling anything for him if I'm honest and could happily take him or leave him. I've been agreeing to keep meeting-up just to be open to something developing I suppose, especially as there's nobody else great in the pipeline either. Nothing much has happened physically because I'm not sure I want it to and I don't want to lead him on either (and I'm not generally one to get very physical early on anyway).

He texted to ask if I'd like to meet up for a fourth date. I said, 'Sure. How about dinner Wednesday?' He said fine and I suggested meeting in an area which is a good midway point for both of us.

He then said, 'OK. Could come to your place before or instead if that's easier?'

Erm, shouldn't it be me inviting him rather than him inviting himself?! Even if we get a take-away rather than me cooking for him?

OP posts:
angryburd · 25/04/2018 16:03

Maybe you should stop fucking him about.

ReanimatedSGB · 25/04/2018 16:17

A few casual dates is fine - and very sensible if you are interested in having a relationship rather than hookups. However, if you're so uninterested that you are hoping the other person will disappear, then it's rather more grown up just to say to that person, 'look, this is not really working for me, let's not waste each other's time.'

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/04/2018 16:18

In light of the psycho-misogynist in Toronto, it might be best not to imply or say that women who 'lead on' men or don't put out are nasty and deserve anger.

It's a waste of everyone's time and a bit silly. He was a little rude and you were a little naive. Everyone should just cut their losses.

YouTheCat · 25/04/2018 16:43

Glad you've seen sense and called it a day. It wasn't going anywhere and it saves further disappointment on both sides.

Mrsmadevans · 25/04/2018 19:06

You are not being horrible OP , l am glad you have finished it too, your heart just wasn't in it and no point in continuing .

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