She made him wait for his pjs

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Sil is a bit odd at best of times and we get on ok but not great. Over at hers this evening for dinner and about 10.30 dn (5) was sick. When we heard him crying out sil went up and we heard her say oh dear you've been sick dn, so I went up to see if she needed a hand sorting him out/stripping bed etc.

She had taken off his pjs and was wiping him down so I looked in a drawer for other pjs and pulled some out. She told me they were a bit too small but she had some downstairs. So I finished cleaning up dn while she went to get them from the laundry.
Luckily bed was ok as he had gotten out and had actually been sick in bathroom so easy to clean up.

Anyway, she was ages. Dn was tired and I wrapped him in a towel to keep him warm but all he wanted really was to get back into bed, bless him . Eventually sil came back and said, sorry I was so long they weren't ironed, I just had to iron them.

I just looked at her, I didn't really know what to say to that. Aibu to think of all the times to iron something, this really wasn't it.

Not if they were damp! it’s hardly bad parenting is it? Petty criticism

This could easily be me, I have OCD and health anxiety and probably would have taken the 10 minutes to calm myself from having an anxiety attack but good to know I'd have got a pointed remark or been judged as mental and batty.
What a shitty thing to get so fucking up yourselves over.

But if you have such a good relationship how come you didn't just ask at the time why she ironed them?

And why would such a minor, albeit odd, incident continue to play on your mind enough for you to create a post once you'd got home at gone midnight?

I would have gone downstairs and taken 10 minutes to calm down

I wrote that. I take it back. It was a bit tongue in cheek and referring to the 10 minutes the sil disappeared for. I'd definitely think it was a bit cheeky though - it depends on how familiar the relationship is. The OP implied that she had to look for the pjs, not that she already knew where they were. None of my 4 sils would know which drawer to look in, they'd have to rifle through them all, but they wouldn't do that, they'd ask where they were. Or they'd say 'what can I do to help?'

Sometimes cotton pyjamas get scrunched up and uncomfortable after washing, and really need ironing before wearing. If soft jersey I wouldn't bother ironing at all.
I think that's exhausted all my opinions on this subject of great import.

Thank god the OP was there to rescue the child by wrapping him in a towel when he would have been warmer under the duvet with or without PJs

You obviously don't think much of your SiL - her ironing the PJ's wasn't really a big deal was it - you just wanted an excuse to mock. Not nice and I hope she is on here so can see what sort of person you are.

@LadyDeadpool believe it or not this thread is not actually about you

I iron pj's. But in a situation like that I would just put them on DS and not worry.. Certainly wouldn't make him wait ( I am weird tho I love ironing I even iron bibs, vests boxers and muslins etc. Lol altho I don't iron tea towels and dishcloths (anymore) lol

Bit weird but they were probably damp or something. All the posters saying you overstepped is weird though. Of course you’d go and give a hand!

Why are people criticising the OP for going up and helping?
I would go up and help anybody if their DC was sick, and I would expect the same in return - or at least an offer of help. Isn't that what nice people friends/family do?
However - if I was that close to somebody, I would just ask why they ironed the pyjamas, and wouldnt think anything of it.

I always iron pyjamas as I hate creased clothes. But in that situation I'd just grab them and put them on.

Such a minor issue. If you had good will in your heart towards this woman, OP, you would just think, 'Odd' and move on.

I'm more shocked at the amount of people who iron My iron hasn't seen the light of day since I got married 4 years ago!

It's a bit odd but is it really that big a deal?

No it's not a big deal but most stuff on AIBU isn't.

Man alive you peeps are crazy. I also don’t iron anything ever. If we’re going to a wedding DH will iron his shirt. I don’t know where our iron actually is....

Man alive you peeps are crazy. I also don’t iron anything ever

You can wear wrinkles when you're young. As you get older it can match your skin too closely. Double wrinkle is like double denim.
You have to be able to carry it off. I most definitely can't.

Sounds like someone I know! She won't go out leaving her bed unmade or any washing up not done just in case burglars break in while she's out. The burgers would be disgusted at the state of the place. I said 'Fuck the burglars. They take me as they find me!'

If you think she is a good mum, you've know her for years, regularly babysit her kids etc... Why have you come online to ask if her behaviour is off rather than just saying
"hey SIL, what's up with ironing PJ's at 10.30pm?"

I always make my bed and tidy up before I go out! Nothing to do with burglars, I just hate coming back in to a messy house...is that an odd thing to do???

Olddear Absolutely nothing wrong with making your bed and tidying up before you go out. I'm the same,like you I hate coming back home to a mess. But it struck me as odd that she proclaimed the reason that she did it was because she was worried about what prospective burglars might think,not because she hated coming home to a mess!

ALongHardWinter ok, I'll give you that! That is very odd...!!

@Buntyll do you feel better for that comment? I can call people out on using shitty disabilist language even if the thread isn't about me shockingly same as I would for sexist and racist stuff.

I cannot get at all the grief you are getting OP about going up to help out. They are family. Any member of my family would be welcome to root in our drawers for clean pjs if I was cleaning up after a sick child.

Not only family but I can't think of one of my friends that wouldn't do this either and I'd be grateful for their help.

I suppose I didn't say anything at the time because when she said she'd ironed them I just thought (in my head) 'WTAF'. And didn't want to voice that out loud

She also makes egg mayonnaise using salad cream but that's an entirely different matter! And way more batty I'd say than the pjs thing. (Disclaimer - I'll put lighthearted here for those who think I am genuinely offended by this)

OP, my hat to you, you are fab at answering stupid comments! I am with you on salad cream instead of mayonnaise too! Nothing wrong with helping when a child is sick and looking for a clean one. It is a 5 years old's drawer, not the boudoir's hidden cupboard! As for the comment about a 5 years old mortified to be wiped by his auntie, when you are sick any caring gesture would be welcome. Sad that some people see this as intruding (any family values remaining, anyone?).