She made him wait for his pjs

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Sil is a bit odd at best of times and we get on ok but not great. Over at hers this evening for dinner and about 10.30 dn (5) was sick. When we heard him crying out sil went up and we heard her say oh dear you've been sick dn, so I went up to see if she needed a hand sorting him out/stripping bed etc.

She had taken off his pjs and was wiping him down so I looked in a drawer for other pjs and pulled some out. She told me they were a bit too small but she had some downstairs. So I finished cleaning up dn while she went to get them from the laundry.
Luckily bed was ok as he had gotten out and had actually been sick in bathroom so easy to clean up.

Anyway, she was ages. Dn was tired and I wrapped him in a towel to keep him warm but all he wanted really was to get back into bed, bless him . Eventually sil came back and said, sorry I was so long they weren't ironed, I just had to iron them.

I just looked at her, I didn't really know what to say to that. Aibu to think of all the times to iron something, this really wasn't it.

I'd have had to say some pointed remark

You sound nice

they might not have fit when they’re creasy
Huh? Who could believe that? That creases alter the size of a garment.
Weak grasp on reality or what.

I assume that your sil's partner (your brother) was there as well? He didn't think of rushing upstairs to comfort his child/clear up the sick then?

I would assume dampness. I iron everything, including nightclothes to make sure they're dry as I don't have an airing cupboard. And the radiators aren't on now and the laundry dried to about 90% but has a chill to it and stems a bit she ironed. The post sounds a bit judgey, like the mum just went off and couldn't be bothered to get the child his PJ's, or was even punishing him (she made him wait) when in fact she was just sorting them out and making sure they were nice and dry and warm and comfy for him.

Maybe they were very creased and she wanted him to be comfy? Or maybe you make her nervous by being so judgemental and she did what she thought you would want. Which obviously didn't work because now you're moaning about her on here.

I think it was nice of you to go up to help.

I think it was perfectly normal to go into his drawers to get some clean PJ’s out.

I’d find it a bit odd there wasn’t a single spare set of PJ’s in his drawer, most 5 year olds I know have loads of PJ’s.

I’d have been like you about her ironing them. The jersey ones don’t need ironing on a good day, let alone at night when there’s a child waiting for them...With my friends I’d have asked WTAF were they ironing them 😂 with my SIL I’d just put it in the ‘Fuck me she’s batshit’ box as with most things she does.

MrsDV it’s understandable, but so sad, that you worry so much when the boys are even just slightly unwell. I can understand your need to ‘be prepared’ and your inability to ignore that in the moment. Anxiety is dreadful x💐

Yeah, that's weird... I don't have an explanation, lol. Oh well. He was lucky to have you there with him.

I looked in a drawer for other pjs and pulled some out

Like pps, I think this is going above and beyond. I would have gone downstairs and taken 10 minutes to calm down.

Clavinova Tue 24-Apr-18 09:12:09
I assume that your sil's partner (your brother) was there as well? He didn't think of rushing upstairs to comfort his child/clear up the sick then?

What was the point of your sneery post?

You’ve assumed it’s her brother’s wife. It could be her DH’s sister. It could be her DH’s brother’s wife.

You’ve assumed there is a brother (brother in law).

You’ve assumed, there is one and he was at home.

You’ve assumed there is one, he was at home and didn’t get up to go up when the OP offered.

And none of any of that has anything, whatsoever, to do with what the AIBU is about.

Sneery for the sake of it. Unnecessary.

Dogs = dgs ffs!!

Glad you cleared that up, I was and just about to say "you clean up and put pyjamas on your dogs?! You definitely take the Batshit Crown off OP if so

Just to clear up for those that think I was overstepping by getting new pyjamas out. I babysit reasonably regularly and have often gotten him ready for bed. She isn't precious about whats in his pyjama/sock/undies drawer. And I know she wouldn't have gone downstairs to 'calm down for 10 minutes' because I got him some pjs out. We've known each other years and if i'd have stood there waiting for instructions after offering to help she'd have thought it really strange.

Perhaps she doesnt like sick as a pp has said and that was it. Maybe she thought if she took a bit of time I'd have it all done and ironing pjs was a great staller. In no way is she a bad mother, I don't know where some people have got that from. But she does do some quirky (what I perceive as quirky!) things, such as ironing pjs at a most inconvenient time.

She is OH sister

Out of interest, what material were the pj's? Were they jersey material or button-up, cotton ones? Several posters have said 'jersey' (including AnnieAnoniMouser) - perhaps I have missed what you described them as?

Cady you've clearly had me under surveillance, l actually put a zip up fleece coat on my dog before l put her to bed. I call it her nightie and l call her bed her 'bobo s'

You aren't familiar enough with his undie/pjs drawer to know it only contained pjs that were too small? Why would sil have put them back in there anyway knowing they were too small. Maybe. she said that because you were going in drawers in her house and she wanted take back control.

. going in drawers etc when she was there l meant

I iron pyjamas. I am not batty.

I'm sure she wouldn't have done it if you weren't there.

Why would sil have put them back in there anyway knowing they were too small. Don't know, there was only the one pair in there. Perhaps she hadn't got round to removing them?

I iron pyjamas. I am not batty. I don't think anyone that irons pyjamas is batty. I do think anyone that irons them at 10.30 at night when a naked sick child just wants them on is a bit though.

My aibu was not about ironing or not ironing the pjs or about sils ability as a mother, but just about ironing the pjs at that specific point in time.

Well quite. I wouldn't have ironed them at that specific time either tbh. I was replying to a pp who seems to believe that ironing pj's at ANY time is 'batty'

It does seem a little bit odd but no harm done anyway.
She probably lied about ironing them because it took her ages to find a matching top and bottoms.

I actually think the amount of people on this thread who would need 10 minutes alone to calm down if a member of their extended family looked in a 5-year-olds pyjama drawer the oddest thing about this, tbh!

I cannot imagine a situation where I stood and waited to be invited whilst someone else had their hands full of sicky bedding. Nowt so queer as folk, and all that

Mrs DV

With you MrsD

It’s a mean sneery thread

Is it possible pjs were damp and she wanted to dry them out by ironing them? Or warm them up for your DN so they were toasty? Hope he’s better soon!

I don't think this thread is mean.

I think it is weird to iron PJs in this circumstance yes. Very weird.

She probably thought she'd won the lottery getting someone else to clean him up.