She made him wait for his pjs

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Sil is a bit odd at best of times and we get on ok but not great. Over at hers this evening for dinner and about 10.30 dn (5) was sick. When we heard him crying out sil went up and we heard her say oh dear you've been sick dn, so I went up to see if she needed a hand sorting him out/stripping bed etc.

She had taken off his pjs and was wiping him down so I looked in a drawer for other pjs and pulled some out. She told me they were a bit too small but she had some downstairs. So I finished cleaning up dn while she went to get them from the laundry.
Luckily bed was ok as he had gotten out and had actually been sick in bathroom so easy to clean up.

Anyway, she was ages. Dn was tired and I wrapped him in a towel to keep him warm but all he wanted really was to get back into bed, bless him . Eventually sil came back and said, sorry I was so long they weren't ironed, I just had to iron them.

I just looked at her, I didn't really know what to say to that. Aibu to think of all the times to iron something, this really wasn't it.

When my children get ill I panic. You wouldn't know I was panicking because I seem really calm.
But a cold, cough, bout of sickness makes me plan the whole week ahead.
That starts with planning a trip to A&E, then staying in hospital and possibly a long term illness or death.
So my version of ironing PJs would be making sure DC were wearing, clean, matched, new looking PJs.
Taking five minutes to get that sorted would make sense in my head as part of the long term plan.

I realise my madness is a bit extreme but its possible your SIL is doing a mini version of that and wanted everything 'sorted' should she need to call a doctor.

Or she might just want her sick little boy to be comfortable in ironed PJs.

Either way I don't see the issue. You were there with him, he was warm and cared for.

Stop being so mean.

maybe she is emetophobic and deliberately took a while so you would have cleared up the sick by the time she returned.

so I went up to see if she needed a hand sorting him out/stripping bed etc.

I looked in a drawer for other pjs and pulled some out.

^^ massively overstepping boundaries

Don't worry OP.
If there was the scenario were it had been a Mil going downstairs for another pair of pyjamas and she had spent 10mins ironing them.
MNers would have been calling her bat shit.
MN is so look predictable!

She was hoking for pajamas!😂😂😂

Some people just run on rails. Ask them to think laterally, and they can't do it - departing from a routine is really hard for them. My MIL is like this, and would probably do something similar in the circumstances. She has turned faffing over small inconsequential details into an incredibly annoying artform.

Mind your own business.

They may have been creased in a way that it rubs the skin or folds in the wrong way that makes them uncomfy to wear.

In T shirt type material? Come off it!

This is one of those weird threads where an OP tries desperately to turn something fairly banal and normal into evidence of evil, usually from an inlaw!

I babysit my dogs at his house regularly. If he was sick whilst l was doing so then of course l would clean it up and sort him out. But l would t dream of taking it upon myself to go in a drawer and get some pj's out for him whilst my dd was there. Still say that is overstepping, sorry !
Plus you say you wrapped him in a towel to avoid him getting changed twice but why not just put him into bed.

Dogs = dgs ffs!!

If there was the scenario were it had been a Mil going downstairs for another pair of pyjamas and she had spent 10mins ironing them.

Well, that’s not really a fair comparison is it? Most people don’t like the op’s op because they say they think she’s overstepping. If it was a MIL doing the ironing and the op was the parent then the op wouldn’t be overstepping when she commented. I bet she’d be called ungrateful anyway. That’s what happens on a lot of MIL / grandparent threads ime.

I'd have had to say some pointed remark. There are times to be anal about such things, and this wasn't one of them.

I don’t think it’s odd you offered to help.

I don’t think it was overstepping anything to look for clean PJs in the drawer you know they’re kept in. If you were rifling through SIL’s chest of drawers then THAT would be overstepping, but 5 year olds dont have private stuff in their drawers usually. Your SIL had her hands full and you helped.

I do think the ironing is odd, but that’s because it wouldn’t have occurred to me - like you, I’d have reached for the too-small PJs, or a t shirt, or whatever.

But probably everyone is right - the PJs were a bit damper than she’d expected so she ironed them.

You could’ve said “Why did you iron them?” and all would have been revealed!

It does seem a bit mad. My friend also irons everything including pyjamas, socks... everything. It is a little bit mad and I would just laugh about it tbh.
I go out of my way to NOT IRON anything if I can help it, which I’m their eyes is equally as weird as I find them 😄

She probably dislikes the sight and smell of sick as much as the next person - and as you were being so capable and helpful she thought she'd hide downstairs for 10 minutes in case he was sick again. My SIL reacts the same way about poo nappies - you can still love your child without liking the yuk that goes with it!

Seems a bit mean to post so strangers can have a laugh at your sil. Maybe she wasn’t feeling brilliant either.

Why would you do that?

It’s a snapshot and does n’t mean she’s a bad mother

Arf at they might not fit if they don't have a sharp crease ironed into the seams!

Most people don’t like the op’s op because they say they think she’s overstepping

To clarify; I mean overstepping by posting her op, not by offering to help which was a nice thing to do.

Hope your sil isn’t on here