To be depressed where I live?

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Okay, not actually depressed but feel incredibly down about the whole place and think it's as dull as dust?

I've been depressed in the real sense of the word so perhaps that's not the word to use.

I just think the whole town where I live is incredibly dead. I moved here 8 years ago when I married DH.

Anyone else feel this way? You can all probably guess the town, no doubt

Bump x

Can you not move??

The tien I am living atm is horrible all over. Hideous place. Boring AF. People substandard. If it weren't for the easy commute into London I don't think I would have ever come here.

Well, there's your opportunity.

Start a running group, a choir, a photography group, whatever.

Milton Keynes?

Yes. We are leaving the UK at the end of summer 🤞

I didn't always feel depressed here but the last few years it's snuck up on me and I realised when the clocks changed this year that the winter nearly did me in.

I feel a bit anxious and will continue until we're actually gone.

Milton Keynes?

Near

Tell us where it is so we can avoid it 😂

Is it Hull?

Dairy Do we live in the same place?!

Tell your DH living there is impacting on your mental health and your level of happiness. Make sure you have some idea of the places you would like to live and why those areas offer something more. Don’t stay somewhere you’re unhappy, that’s a miserable way to live your life.

Start a running group, a choir, a photography group, whatever

Not quite what I'm looking for, I think those things would bore me more

In all fairness, I have spoken to DH about moving and he doesn't want to leave his family close by. Doesn't want to leave him hometown

Is it a city or a town? Can I guess?! You should leave- you've only got this life that we know of! Xxx

The place is Luton

I'm 27 and feel dizzy knowing I may well probably will die and be buried h re

I was gonna guess! Leave!!! Enjoy your life! Xxx

We have a DD and I hate to think that she will grow up here.

It's bad enough knowing she'll be attending nursery here and being born here was bad enough for her

Definitely leave. Honesty there's no point regretting your life or living it miserably x

Couldn't agree more op- grew up here, couldn't wait to get out and have never looked back. There's a reason it's the only place on the London commuter belt with affordable housing prices....

If your dh doesn't want to leave his family, why not look at a move to harpenden/st Albans/hitchin/one of the nicer surrounding towns? I know property is more expensive in all of the above but your mental health is worth the sacrifice of a few years of saving

Luton is a bit depressing but on the plus side has an airport...so you can go somewhere else.

Leave! Life’s too short to live in Luton.

I grew up in a quite unpopular place (but a city, so a bit less dead). Could have bought a nice big house in a town I used to live in but preferred to buy a more expensive smaller one in a nearby town with more character where you don’t feel suicidal every grey day.

What are your options for moving? Easier done while DD is pre-school aged.

Can't afford to move to any of the nicer surrounding areas/villages

It all just seems so... grey. I can't put my finger on it... I grew up in a London Borough council estate and it was more cheery.

It's £250K for a 2 bed flat so not very good pricing at all for what you 'get'

Husband works at the hospital so won't go anywhere anytime soon since he's doing well there and refuses to transfer.

I get on well with in laws but they're very busy folk with busy social lives

Surely a huge generalisation to call a whole city 'dull'? What's your definition of excitement?

Surely a huge generalisation to call a whole city 'dull'? What's your definition of excitement?

It doesn't take much to entertain me, but believe me when I say, it's awful

Even the neighbouring town Dunstable isn't any better.

MIL agrees and she's lived here since she was a baby.

Husband thinks I'm ridiculous, but he has all of his sisters around him

I was going to guess Luton. Can you not move out to a nearby village with a bit of character and lively atmosphere? Or to Aylesbury or St Albans - near enough to family but towns with some life in them.

What interests you? What do you wish existed there? Chardonnay's ideas are good ones. You just need to start something you would love to have there.

When I moved to our village I started up a group because I wanted to meet likeminded people and most of my favourite people locally have come from there.