To be depressed where I live?

[LatIt]

Okay, not actually depressed but feel incredibly down about the whole place and think it's as dull as dust?

I've been depressed in the real sense of the word so perhaps that's not the word to use.

I just think the whole town where I live is incredibly dead. I moved here 8 years ago when I married DH.

Anyone else feel this way? You can all probably guess the town, no doubt

A break is as good as a change.

Latit my cousin and his wife live in Luton and have a similar experience that it's dominated by a Pakistani Muslim community that doesn't want to include or welcome outsiders.

Sounds like you really need to find the money from somewhere to learn to drive. Then you could enjoy the surrounding areas much more.

Do you WoH? If not, would WoH be a way to get money to move somewhere nicer where DH could still commute to work there?

I haved lived there briefly and have family there. There are some v nice areas. The majority is grey, bleak, depressing and shit. The Arndale is a shithole, nightlife is the same, there’s not much to do. There’s one nice park. A lot of awful, awful housing estates, large non english speaking communities, I wouldn’t bring up my kids there either. Dunstable is a ghost town.
However, amusing with people saying move to St A or Harpenden. Yeah the house prices are so similar but in honesty OP I’d try one of the cheaper Beds villages or move away completely.

I came on here to say it can't be that bad if it's within reach of London...but...I had forgotten about Luton. YANBU.

I have to admit that it would get me down too.

YNBU...Luton really doesn't have much to recommend it...Leighton Buzzard?

I've just seen that you aren't averse to the less fancy parts of Essex, so you're really not asking for the moon. Would that really be too far for your husband to move, if you promised to go back regularly to see his family?

This makes it sound alright and it looks quite green
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/aspenwoolf.co.uk/7-fascinating-facts-about-luton/amp/?source=images

But.. sometimes a place just doesn't feel right and it's hard to be specific about it. You only get one life and I think you've lived there a long enough time to decide it's not for you. I would think of moving somewhere close-ish so doesn't affect your husband too much but feels like home for you.

Cook absolutely laughing at that green and prestigious 100% false representation of Luton

OP is your dh refusing to move?

Yep, DH is the one refusing to move elsewhere

That seems very unfair to you OP

When you said it’s near Milton Keynes I knew it was Luton.
Can you not find any money to learn to drive because there’s some great places near you if only you could get to them, it may make you feel better about living where you are.

Oh my God. I knew it would be Luton.

I lived there for six months and I was depressed. And it's bloody expensive to live there too. I couldn't afford to do anything when we lived there.

If hubby had refused to leave, I would honestly have left without him.

You live in Stopsley don't you OP!

peakypolly, I'd hazard a guess that your friends don't live in Luton. And that you haven't been there.

Luton- well I am not surprised at the OP. Like many towns where the motor industry was or is dominant and has seen better days.

Yeah, why don't you find the money to learn to drive, buy and run a car, then spend every day driving out to Hitchin and St Albans where you go to the theatre, bowling, cinema, restaurants and groups?? Whilst paying through the nose to live in hell. Come on, OP, why on Earth not?!!

Hi Latit, I have to say, if you have given it 8 years and you are fed up then it sounds as if your DH is being unreasonable!

Have you had a sit down proper discussion with him? There's 2 in a marriage, it's not about him and his sisters etc etc. If you got out a map surely there would be places you might like better that would be within travelling distance of his sisters.

I don't particularly like where I live anymore and more and more shops are closing all the time and a new shitty eyesore of a cinema has just opened. I feel for you. Have it out with him, you don't want to spend your life feeling fed up if you can't see any way of improving it.

I think those posters who suggested that going on holiday would solve the OP’s problems were being a bit unrealistic...

It’s a fact: Luton is not a lovely place. It has cheaper housing - yes, that’s a very good thing. But it’s pretty bleak. The town centre is really depressing.

When I lived in Luton I tried to get out of there and stay with friends as much as I could. I dreaded going home and the last days of the break were ruined by my dread of having to go back.

Move! Not necessary to live somewhere that makes you unhappy. I wouldn't be able to stand a place like that. I've been in your position before and just moved - best decision

I lived in Luton for 4 years. It is quite a depressing town.
However there are loads of nice little villages surrounding Luton you could get to.
I now live in Peterborough. I love it hear. The housing is affordable and a lot of families from London, Essex , Hertfordshire are moving here as there are loads of new build family homes being built.
It is a cathedral city and there is loads to do for families.
It is the best move I’ve ever made. It is easy to make friends here as loads of people have moved from areas close to London.

OP. I have been to Luton. Everything you say is true. You couldn't pay me enough to live there!

YANBU! I find the whole of England depressing hence why I’m emigrating in 2 weeks

OP - At least you have the option of a fast train into London. Have you been to some towns in the North? Or Scotland, particularly Aberdeen? I went there once and felt physically ill it was so grey - the buildings, the sky, the people, the sea. Believe me, most of Britain is not much better than Luton.