To ask what you use for contraception?

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I'm 38, I have 3DC's just had a baby (hopefully my last) and I should have taken the surgeon up on being sterilised 😩

I've used the pill (many, many years) before & Mirena coil recently but they really affected my mood. In recent years I take anti depressants which really help with my mood.

What are my options? I've been so ill after this baby I can't face another pregnancy

Uterus extirpation. Works like a charm. Saved me money too.

But all joking aside (I did have one, but it's not a standard measure of course), look into the various options, such as ablation, Essure etc. before you go back on the pill or the coil.

After a mc at 45 my gp told me I wouldn't get pregnant again. So don't use anything at 46.9!

My DH had a vasectomy soon after we had our fourth DC and knew we'd completed our family. Used condoms until he was given the all clear, four years ago now.

DH has a vasectomy.

DH refuses to have a vasectomy... he wants another DC 😐

Erm, we ‘pull out and hope for the best’ which I definitely do NOT suggest for you as you don’t want to fall pg again.

I can’t take the pill, didn’t get on well with the coil at all, dh hates condoms and is petrified of getting the snip.
Would your dh consider a vasectomy?

Sorry I just saw your update!
I’d withhold sex unless he wears a condom then!

Abstinence until he either wears a condom or has a vasectomy.

Cervical cap and rhythm method.

He's useless with condoms... we usually use the 'pull out & hope for the best' method.

Are there any low hormone options?!

I use the depo injection. Small injection in my arse cheek every 12 weeks

Condoms, have done for 2 years (and at uni when not in relationship), never had one break, never got pregnant.

I've heard too many horror stories from friends to ever go on hormonal contraception.

Pull out method

My dh had a vasectomy

You can use copper coil OP. No hormones. Makes your periods heavier though, apparently.

Condoms for 11 years. 2 planned children first month trying each time at 34 and 39. Commons have been perfect for us. They’re very reliable and I can’t take hormonal contraceptives and we don’t want accidents so pull out would be irresponsible as I definitely don’t want more children.

DH is having a vasectomy now our family is complete.

I have the implant. It's not for everyone as it can change your period and until you have it you can't predict what changes will happen. some women can't get used to the changes, I find also that I sometimes can feel it and it aches if I lean against it the wrong way.
That said though although it's a hormonal contraception Iv found it fine on the whole for 15 years.

To be honest if I could I'd choose to be sterilised!

DH refuses to have a vasectomy... he wants another DC 😐

He's useless with condoms... we usually use the 'pull out & hope for the best' method.

Well isn’t he selfish. You've given him three children, have been ill after having your youngest, have told him you're done but he just wants to keep squirting away and risking another pregnancy regardless.

I'd be abstaining from sex til he shows more respect for your physical and emotional health, recognising contraception is his responsibility too.

I'd go to your doctor and explain what you want.

This may sound controversial but I don't think you can expect your DH to have a vasectomy if he doesn't want one. Can you imagine the furore that would erupt on here if someone posted that their husband was pushing them to be sterilised? His body his choice. You're both responsible for the use of condoms as well so I'd be knocking your doctor's door down to explore all avenues.

Iv just reread your post and I think you have a situation on your hands more complicated than contraception.

You don't want more children but he does and won't use condoms because of this (reading between the lines) that's not on! Unless your both willing to deal with this then you could be facing big problems! Having children you don't want especially if you feel pushed into it can cause relationships to fail!

For what it's worth, I have what would be considered serious mental health issues in the depression family and get on ok with the implant.

We’ve used condoms for the past six years (and the two years before that - had a planned baby between) and DH got the snip in November.

I really do not get grown men who are ‘useless’ with condoms .

So he wants to keep you pregnant then?

Personally in that case I would go and get sterilised. Mine had the snip and it’s a wonderful thing not to have to think about pregnancy. Take control.

Only the baby is his, my older DC (large age gap) are from my marriage. He says no to any thing permanent in case I change my mind.

The implant (I’m on my 3rd) and condoms (new partner)

Copper coil has worked best for me. I don't really get on very well with anything with hormones.