...to think that I'm ok to tell people at 11 weeks?

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Sorry folks, second post of the day. Having a slightly stressful one!

I'm 11 weeks pregnant. Had an early scan for medical reasons which I shan't go in to. Baby was fine at 10+5 and I'd like to tell my colleagues that I'm pregnant. It's getting hard to hide and I would like to be able to vomit in the loos without people speculating!

Am I mad to tell people before my 12 week scan (which isn't for just under 3 weeks)? If baby was high risk for downs we would still continue the pregnancy however I understand they look for other defects too...

Not too sure what to do here but my gut is telling me to spill as it would reduce my anxiety hugely.

Honest opinions?

Tell people whenever you feel comfortable doing so.
We told work colleagues at 9w with dc1 after an early scan as we were too excited to hide it.

There really is no right or wrong time to tell people. Only what suits your own situation. If baby was fine at 10+5 your miscarriage risk has already considerably dropped.

If it's going to make you feel less anxious tell them. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I toldy boss and colleagues the day before my 12 scan. At that point I was over 12 weeks, my scan was on the Friday and I was going away for the weekend and telling lots of people then and thought it could lead to congratulations on Facebook (which it did), as I had colleagues as FB friends I wanted to tell work officially rather than my boss find out through the grapevine. For me 12 weeks was more about the miscarriage rates than the scan as it's more likely that problems are detected at the 20 scan.

Tell people whenever you are ready to. 12 weeks tends to be the norm because of the miscarriage rates but I was showing by 10 weeks with my first so when we did tell people at 12 weeks they said they already knew 🙄

My big-mouthed husband was shouting it from the rooftops nearly as soon as I'd had a positive pee test. I wasn't far behind him!

It's the most exciting news you're ever likely to have. We loved sharing it.

Thanks all. The reason I am so anxious is because I'm being sick quite a lot, I'm exhausted, I've put on a lot of weight, can't drink alcohol at our weekly/two-weekly after work drinks, am only eating certain foods, have been off work for a while as I've been bleeding and am back this week. I just think it is really obvious that I'm pregnant and I hate the idea of people talking about it and me not knowing.

Fingers crossed everything goes well. I didn't even know until this morning that the 12 week scan looks for abnormalities! Scary how little I know....

Thank you @CuppaSarah

With DC1, we waited until 12 weeks onwards to go 'public' but had already told parents and v close friends at 8 weeks after early scan. All great.

This time I told the people I work with at 6 weeks as I felt absolutely shit. Also just told people as and when we saw them but it was 'official' after 12 weeks (meaning I was happy for people to tell whoever they want).

To be honest, both times have been lovely! And timing announcements has no impact on how well a pregnancy will go (think we were superstitious or something with the first one). There is no right or wrong so do exactly as you please.

Hope all goes well for you x

Thank you @IchFliegeNach - it's such a stressful time but wonderful also. Can't wait to tell people. We are a pretty close knit bunch at work, I just worry about having to explain if for any reason I have to consider ending the pregnancy! I'm sure it won't come to that as I'm only in my mid 20s and am very healthy but there's always a chance...
Thanks again

We were just told my stepson's about to become a dad at eight weeks. They're very excited!

I don't think there are any hard and fast rules. If you feel ready to tell then do so! Especially if it will make life easier for you.
We waited for the 12 week scan but I wasn't suffering with any nausea etc

As others have said, the main reason not to tell people before 12 weeks isn’t because of the (very low) risk of abnormalities being detected at the scan, it’s because of the risk of miscarriage, which is a lot higher than that but decreases sharply after 12 weeks.

It’s fine to tell people though, it’s entirely up to you.

And congratulations

I told my boss about dc2 when I was about 2 weeks pregnant! I waited until 12 week scam with dc1 but spent weeks vomiting in the loo. Also feeling like death due to my colleague eating sushi for lunch every single bloody day. It didn’t normally bother me but as soon as I was pregnant the smell of it made me want to die. So rather than put up with it again I told my boss straight away and he moved me next to a window and away from Mr Sushi.

Thanks everyone.

And thanks very much @ethelfleda 

@ButternutCrinkleFries I usually love sushi but even thinking about it makes me want to gag!  I always thought it was an old wives tale that women turn in to bloodhounds when pregnant but it most certainly isn't!

@Arapaima oh really? I didn't know that. I actually thought the opposite! I feel so clueless and it's not a nice feeling. MN is amazing. I feel like I've had more support and advice on here than I have from anyone I know in RL!

Congratulations and hopefully all will go smoothly!

I took the view I would only tell people that I would also have been ok with telling if something had happened. That for me was my immediate boss and close friends/family.

Tell anyone you wouldn’t mind also having to explain a miscarriage/abnormalities to. In all likelihood everything will be absolutely fine but personally, I wouldn’t tell anyone I didn’t feel comfortable explaining the above to until I knew it was all good and healthy.

I think the 12 week scan only checks for abnormalities if you ask them to. The 20 week scan is the anomaly scan. People wait until 12 weeks as PPs have said, for the miscarriage possibility. I told some of my colleagues because if I lost my baby I would want them to understand. But I am very close to them and we are a close knit group.

Gosh I told everyone as soon as I knew with every pregnancy but as my older kids got older we told them first. Then they told everyone else so we didn’t need to.

op. I couldn’t wait 2 weeks let alone 12

If you are going to loose a baby you loose

Nothing to do with scans. It just happens and can st any stage.

Thanks @SaucyJane

@Mydoghatesthebath I think you're brave telling people so early. Really glad it worked out for you

I don't know why I'm so worried that something will go wrong

Ah it's totally normal to be anxious. I'm only 15 weeks and I am very very anxious. It was worse before 12 week scan but it has only slightly reduced.

Thanks @RowenaDedalus - I'm an anxious person anyway and pregnancy has just heightened it. I keep telling myself it's only because I care!

We had IVf and a lot of people knew from the day the embryo was popped in. 😄