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To think that the bride's been cheeky here!

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whywhywhywhywhyyy · 15/04/2018 15:51

Alright, so there's a girl I met at uni who's now getting married. We're not close at all, but she's been very kind and invited me to her wedding. Evening only.

As the wedding is hours away, there's only one hotel close by with ridiculous rates, and I'd only be invited from 8:30pm anyway, I'm planning on not going. I went to go and click the 'sorry, can't make it' option on her RSPV website when I saw the ride share list on there.

I've been put down to drive (what appears to be) one of her elderly relatives from my hometown. Never offered this, have never met the elderly relative in question, haven't really spoken to the bride about the wedding at all Confused Messaged another friend who's been invited to evening early and is down on the list to rideshare with someone elderly, same thing with her!

I've never declined an invitation so fast. Not sure if I've been invited as a friend or because I've got a car and happen to be from the same place as her relative!

OP posts:
Sunnysidegold · 17/04/2018 19:19

A "friend" from uni accepted invitation to my wedding even though it involved a flight. She didn't want to book another night in the hotel so I said she could stay at my mum's the night before with me. No problem. Day before wedding (when everyine is kind of busy!) she rings to says flight is on time, where will I meet her?Turns out she expected a lift when there was plenty of concenient public transport available. My husband to be ended up havibg to pick her up and meet my dad halfway home to drop her off. On the morning of the wedding she got the hairdresser to do her hair "since she was there anyway". Turns out she hadn't booked a hotel room after all and asked my bridesmaid if she could share her bed as she was the only one going to be in the bed. My bridesmaid was not amused but ended up saying Yes!

We are not in touch anymore funnily enough.

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whywhywhywhywhyyy · 17/04/2018 19:22

Been back in contact with the girl who works with her Grin

Apparently CFB really got on her nerves, so she's asked why her wife was invited to the full day and she wasn't. CFB insisted 'oh there must have been a mistake' and promptly informed her that they were both invited... to the evening only Grin She's been complaining to someone else in work about getting a few declines, I think that's an extra two in the post.

Still waiting for my other friend to speak to her about the ride share bollocks!

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MrsKoala · 17/04/2018 19:22

She is my new hero. I can't help but grudgingly admire how cheeky some people can be. I'd be lying awake at night fretting. But these people have no shame or self reflection at all. It's kind of amazing. Like they will be the ones to survive the zombie apocalypse by just eating and robbing the rest of us.

AddictedToRadley · 17/04/2018 19:23

Absolutely agog at the CFery going on here and with other PPs!!

Also, unashamedly place marking for the update.... Wink

MoorMummy · 17/04/2018 19:31

Loving this , unbelievable !

Spam88 · 17/04/2018 19:34

Oh my gosh I love it! Wedding Cheeky Fuckery can get so repetitive, it's nice to have something different.

Spam88 · 17/04/2018 19:34

Oh my gosh I love it! Wedding Cheeky Fuckery can get so repetitive, it's nice to have something different.

nailslikesnails · 17/04/2018 19:36

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bettytaghetti · 17/04/2018 19:41

Spam88 was your repetitive post intentional or just pure luck! Grin

hdh747 · 17/04/2018 19:46

Why isn't there a MN CF award smiley? Biscuit

RidingMyBike · 17/04/2018 19:52

Ok so I can’t believe she just assumed you’d provide a lift.

But I have on several occasions been in the situation of not having transport between ceremony and reception at a wedding, mainly in my 20s before I owned a car. Some people were incredibly thoughtful and offered to arrange lifts, one laid on a bus for everyone between the two and back again. However, there was one wedding where the bride had promised a lift had been arranged and we stood in the church car park as people disappeared and it became obvious there was no lift. No one obvious to ask (all ushers etc had already vanished). We walked back to local station (had travelled by train) and discovered we’d need to get a train several more stops taking quite a while and that the venue wasn’t that close to the station anyway and there was no taxi rank there. It was January and snowing too...

We decided to turn round and travel home, stopping when we changed train for a meal. A week later I get a call from the bride - apparently several people hadn’t made it to the reception, she’d had the equivalent of a whole table of food wasted and she hadn’t done anything about lifts for people.

Yesiamhappy · 17/04/2018 19:58

I thought the bride and groom arranged transport to get people to the venue - we hired a bus to pick people up from my hometown take them to the church then the venue. Is that not done these days???

Aeroflotgirl · 17/04/2018 19:59

Oh god, she really is something isen't she, silly bint.

gingergenius · 17/04/2018 20:00

Her cheekiness has reached Machiavellian heights (lows??) 10/10 for inventiveness!!!

browneyes77 · 17/04/2018 20:09

This is cheeky fuckery at its finest...! Grin

LoniceraJaponica · 17/04/2018 20:11

Oh, this CFB just keeps on giving Grin

Farrah87 · 17/04/2018 20:21

Oh wow! This really is one of my favourite ever CF threads 😂

Jedimum1 · 17/04/2018 20:29

I bet they are now both invited to the evening so one of them/both drive those relatives? Lol

IceNoSlice · 17/04/2018 20:30

I can’t believe the work friend wife was uninvited from the day but! 😂

Cookies2015 · 17/04/2018 20:33

I'd like to think she's set up one of those wedding websites and put this information in provisionally but was planning to ask based on your acceptance

HumptyD93 · 17/04/2018 20:37

HOW do you mistakingly invite a married couple to different parts of the wedding....surely theyd be given an invite to share
( or was I a tight cf who only gave 1 invite per couple/family group ) I dont think that was a mistake and she probably doesnt like one as much as the other.

As for the ride share.....lol CF!!! what if you hadn't checked, would great aunt edna be sat waiting for you on the day and then the bride would be posting on here about how her "friends" were all cf and didnt even bother to pick up her aunt so her day was ruined.

camelliasinensis · 17/04/2018 21:11

HOW do you mistakingly invite a married couple to different parts of the wedding....surely theyd be given an invite to share

We had this. DH was invited to the day part of his friends wedding, I was only invited to the evening.

Angie169 · 17/04/2018 21:32

itsnachocheese I agree very cheeky , but I love your thoughts, if you set up a thread for the 'cheeky fuckers Olympics ' I an sure you would get tons of comments .
My entry would be, when asked by a taxi driver (that we had pre-ordered from my local pub to take me home ) if we minded if he picked up a friend on the way as he was going in the same direction , we foolishy said ok and what should of been a 15 min ride took 40 mins then he still wanted us to pay the full fare !

Pinkprincess1978 · 17/04/2018 21:39

I love a CF thread and this one is one of the finest. I really hope cfb kicks off over so many declines and how her family will get there 😂

ReanimatedSGB · 17/04/2018 21:43

Agree the idea of car-sharing is reasonable, particularly if the reception is some distance from the register office/religious venue/stately home where you're having the ceremony. But you need to ask people, not tell them - and if it starts looking like you won't have enough seats in cars for everyone, you need to look into hiring a minibus or something similar.

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