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To think that the bride's been cheeky here!

488 replies

whywhywhywhywhyyy · 15/04/2018 15:51

Alright, so there's a girl I met at uni who's now getting married. We're not close at all, but she's been very kind and invited me to her wedding. Evening only.

As the wedding is hours away, there's only one hotel close by with ridiculous rates, and I'd only be invited from 8:30pm anyway, I'm planning on not going. I went to go and click the 'sorry, can't make it' option on her RSPV website when I saw the ride share list on there.

I've been put down to drive (what appears to be) one of her elderly relatives from my hometown. Never offered this, have never met the elderly relative in question, haven't really spoken to the bride about the wedding at all Confused Messaged another friend who's been invited to evening early and is down on the list to rideshare with someone elderly, same thing with her!

I've never declined an invitation so fast. Not sure if I've been invited as a friend or because I've got a car and happen to be from the same place as her relative!

OP posts:
fcekinghell · 16/04/2018 19:19

wow at the different invitations for the spouses!

Be careful though OP, this seems to be getting more and more identifying!

GreenTulips · 16/04/2018 19:25

Wow - we need an update

StealthPolarBear · 16/04/2018 19:32

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Another mutual friend has been in contact. This girl is very close to CFB, works with her, sees her daily, and has been firmly wedged up her arse for years to be honest. She has only been invited to the evening, her wife has been invited to the full day and she is fuming. "
This makes no sense! Is it the wife that's better friends with cfb then? If not how on earth dyfed she justify that?!

SimonBridges · 16/04/2018 20:14

Another mutual friend has been in contact. This girl is very close to CFB, works with her, sees her daily, and has been firmly wedged up her arse for years to be honest. She has only been invited to the evening, her wife has been invited to the full day and she is fuming.

Hold on. So she has invited one half of a married couple to the full day but not the other? WTF?

mummmy2017 · 16/04/2018 21:07

Lol. Omg the nerve.

Bluelady · 16/04/2018 21:16

Keeps getting better.

hilzilla · 16/04/2018 21:38

My favourite thread EVAH ! Please keep the updates coming 😆

hilzilla · 16/04/2018 21:40

Are the two wives invited to different parts of the wedding on the transport rota?

ohfourfoxache · 16/04/2018 21:54

Holy fuck on a fiddlestick Shock

This has the makings of a classic

Sweetpea55 · 17/04/2018 09:14

OP,,,can we have an update??

SavvyBlancBlonde · 17/04/2018 09:20

Wowsers!

On a plus side, at least you got an invite to part of it and weren’t expected to decorate the reception!

Winchester13 · 17/04/2018 09:25

How cheeky!! I definetly wouldn’t go either!
Or you should just go by yourself and if she asks where relative is you can say you didnt know anything having to give anyone a lift because she didn’t ask you!

SickofThomasTheTank · 17/04/2018 11:56

@whywhywhywhywhyyy Any update OP?

Andrewofgg · 17/04/2018 18:06

Is there a shop where they exchange grips on reality for bloody nerves?

Goldilocks3Bears · 17/04/2018 18:18

Accept the invitation and sell the ticket on ebay to random wedding crasher strangers.

simiisme · 17/04/2018 18:18

She wins gold for CFery! :D

SpringNowPlease2018 · 17/04/2018 18:19

OP I couldn't help noticing you said she had "very kindly" invited you to a wedding

wedding invitations are never kind, though I'll grant you they are not normally as spectacularly cheeky as this one!! Grin

pollymere · 17/04/2018 18:20

I wish I'd thought of that, it would've saved me a fortune on the taxi I hired. Lol. Not really. That's absolutely terrible. It also makes huge assumptions about your circumstances. I've only been driving a couple of years.

Greenyogagirl · 17/04/2018 18:21

You should have accepted the invitation, leave the relative behind and claim ignorance Grin

ReanimatedSGB · 17/04/2018 18:26

I also wonder if CFB, like Sylvanian Families Gluezilla, got this idea out of one of those wedding magazines - the sort that give already-up-themselves brides the idea that everyone is desperate to make the bride's special day special and the way to make them all feel 'included' is to dump jobs on them, because bride is so wonderful that even the tiniest sniff of involvement with her Amazing Wedding is a treat.
So there might have been an article on 'Making your old schoolfriends, who you now think you are much better than, a part of your wedding: why not invite them along to chauffeur your elderly relatives?'

WhyOhWine · 17/04/2018 18:31

I think the idea of trying to arrange lift shares is sound, but it either needs to be done at a later stage once acceptances are in (and as a request not a fait accompli) or people should be asked to specify on the website whether they have space to give others a lift and, if so, where they would be travelling from.

Petrify · 17/04/2018 18:35

Two words. Forget it x

Princess9891 · 17/04/2018 18:59

placemaking blatantly

Littlemissamy · 17/04/2018 19:00

OP, what happened?! This is hilarious!

Tinkobell · 17/04/2018 19:06

People are so closed-minded to these lift share opportunities ....think of the series "Car Share"..... could be the beginning of something very beautiful!! 😁