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To think that the bride's been cheeky here!

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whywhywhywhywhyyy · 15/04/2018 15:51

Alright, so there's a girl I met at uni who's now getting married. We're not close at all, but she's been very kind and invited me to her wedding. Evening only.

As the wedding is hours away, there's only one hotel close by with ridiculous rates, and I'd only be invited from 8:30pm anyway, I'm planning on not going. I went to go and click the 'sorry, can't make it' option on her RSPV website when I saw the ride share list on there.

I've been put down to drive (what appears to be) one of her elderly relatives from my hometown. Never offered this, have never met the elderly relative in question, haven't really spoken to the bride about the wedding at all Confused Messaged another friend who's been invited to evening early and is down on the list to rideshare with someone elderly, same thing with her!

I've never declined an invitation so fast. Not sure if I've been invited as a friend or because I've got a car and happen to be from the same place as her relative!

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SimonBridges · 18/04/2018 18:20

It’s not like anyone reads the Star.

I’m willing to bet that MN has more readers than the Star.

SimonBridges · 18/04/2018 18:23

The Star has a circulation of 401,616
Mumsnet has 12 million users.

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whywhywhywhywhyyy · 18/04/2018 19:24

I can't believe the star is this interested in my petty drama.

Don't worry, I'm not arsed if she sees it. There's plenty she's done this to so she'll never know it was me (and she's self absorbed enough to think that the bride had a great idea just like her!) 👀

Will update you all after I've heard an update, never fear.

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MrsHandles · 18/04/2018 19:42

Well, she’s the CF to end all CF’s! not placemarking

MoltenLasagne · 18/04/2018 20:11

That's the kind of response I like to see OP! Dedication to the MN cause

Lizzie48 · 18/04/2018 20:43

I get the impression you wouldn't be too bothered if she did know it was about her. She deserves to have egg on her face really.

EeeSheWasThin · 18/04/2018 20:48

I have an invitation to respond to on a website...best look if there’s any car sharing plans on there!

MsJolly · 18/04/2018 22:43

I was once invited to a wedding where DH was best man. Actually did know lots of people there (DHs mates and their wives). He was obviously on the top table. I was dumped on my own on a table with her work mates who ignored me all through dinner. There also was only one bottle of wine per table so I had to keep making excuses to leave the table and go to the hotel bar on my own! Awful wedding.

iknowimcoming · 19/04/2018 09:20

DH was best man at a wedding once, we were very surprised that our dc weren't invited and since dh was also driving the groom in a sports car he had at the time it was a long day for childcare but hey ho, groom said they couldn't afford to invite kids so fair enough. I was sat on a table with a group of our long term friends so happy with that (some of whom were a 3 hour drive away who also were surprised that their dc weren't invited as childcare issues etc) so we sat and bitched about why the (non-family) bridesmaids kids were ok to invite and lots of others but ours weren't AngryHmm. The wedding was shit with a hideous dj playlist (which we later found out was entirely chosen by the bride) and the marriage barely lasted 2 years. We are no longer friends with either of them Wink

bettytaghetti · 19/04/2018 09:57

Whilst we are waiting for CFB's reply, I was once bridesmaid to a friend at her wedding in the US. As a result I had to go in one of the bridal party limos between the church and reception and DH had to try to follow in our hire car, as it was a strange city to him and he didn't know where the reception was. I'm not quite sure how or why, but we had a police escort taking us through red lights, stopping other traffic on the I-10 interstate to let us all on etc. This was in pre-mobile phone days and my poor DH was frantically trying to keep up with this speeding convoy so that he didn't lose his way! Thought he was going to get arrested for going through red lights etc! Sometimes being the partner of someone in the bridal party is not easy. I am not going to begin to describe the mid 80's Laura Ashley pair of curtains that we bridesmaids had to wear; that's worthy of a whole other thread!

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whywhywhywhywhyyy · 20/04/2018 22:31

Aaaand the meltdown has hit.

My friend met up with CFB tonight, and she asked about the ridesharing list and whether it was a compulsory thing. CFB told her very plainly that if your name is on it, you are driving the other person down and that she's planned this all out so carefully and people were depending on it.

Friend asked her what the fuck, and CFB blew up. A classic bridezilla meltdown - quotes I have been told are "It's my fucking special day!" and "You don't want me to have my grandmother there on my wedding day!" and "After everything I've done for you, you can't do this one thing for me!". After this, CFB stormed out of the cocktail bar (without paying!!!)

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MoltenLasagne · 20/04/2018 22:35

So when she was planning so carefully did she think to check whether the drivers had plans? Not so clever really, is she?

Willow2017 · 20/04/2018 22:36

Ha ha! What a loon.

Hope you and your friend tell her to stick her wedding where the sun dont shine and that you are not her personal chauffeurs Grin

What a CF Bridezilla of the highest order.

ItsNachoCheese · 20/04/2018 22:36

Id accidentally lose my car keys the day of the wedding Wink

BritInUS1 · 20/04/2018 22:38

Just seen your update.

OMG That is classic - can't believe she has been so blatant !

Leeds2 · 20/04/2018 22:38

Had the CFB realised that you had declined your invitation, and that her aunt was without transport?

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whywhywhywhywhyyy · 20/04/2018 22:43

She's not spoken to me @Leeds2 but she's retweeted something about fake people in the last hour Grin I expect a message or something as soon as she figures out her rideshare list is going to shit.

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Willow2017 · 20/04/2018 22:46

Oh dear it gets better!

"Fake people" the ones she did not bother to ask if they minded taking random strangers to someones wedding (and back again I presume) for shits and giggles?
She is deluded.

Leeds2 · 20/04/2018 22:47

Oh dear!

She really is something else!

Cagliostro · 20/04/2018 22:53

Wow! What a loon.

It’s one thing to expect people to ride share, but to arrange it without, you know, actually asking people 🧐🤦‍♀️

ReanimatedSGB · 20/04/2018 22:54

Was she always this convinced that she was the centre of the universe, or is it classic weddingmania?

StrugglingMumma · 20/04/2018 23:06

Got to love a bridezilla!

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whywhywhywhywhyyy · 20/04/2018 23:08

@ReanimatedSGB She's always been self centred, but I think before she thought she was jupiter with a couple of moons revolving around her and now she's getting married she's the sun everyone revolves around.

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DarkPeakScouter · 20/04/2018 23:14

Wow! Those naughty fake people lol

Daifuku9 · 20/04/2018 23:34

Not sure if I feel sorry for the groom or not. Either he’s a masochist that likes the idea of marrying an entitled beast, or he’s deluded into thinking she’ll settle down once they’re married.

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