Am I that dreaded noisy neighbour?

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I’ll admit that the answer was definitely “yes” 5 years ago as we did weekly karaoke nights at the top of our voices till 4am. But it didn’t matter then because

If this is a reverse it'll be my first ever

Were you born in a gutter? You r complete lack of self awareness or consideration for others is shocking.

Yes you are the dreaded noisy neighbour

Agree with pp:
Are you getting the message OP, you’re the CFN!

1. Karaoke is shit
2. They make shitty bars for people to sing badly
3. You're shit neighbour

Being spontaneous isn't an excuse for being rude and unneighbourly.

If you want to do karaoke perhaps once a year, you will need to plan well in advance, warn neighbour and finish well before midnight. Even this will be annoying, but if once a year, might be acceptable. It's not acceptable to think that just because a whim comes upon you to immedediately have a karaoke party, that's okay, because you fancy it.

Do you live in a detached, semi or terraced house? The impact is clearly greater if semi or terraced.

You sound like unaware and self indulgent students....although not quite so unaware, as you are posting on here about it.....which actually makes it worse really, because you KNOW it's awful behaviour and did it anyway - that's really selfish.

Once or twice a year without notice is utterly dick behaviour. I would shit on your doorstep daily

Marking their boundary sounds like your guests were lurching over onto their property as well, to add insult to injury

We tend to do things spontaneously so we’d never be able to give notice.

"Spontaneously" take yourselves to a karaoke bar next time then!

With no warning the neighbours had no choice but to sit there and suffer your noise. For all you know one of them might have had a job interview or been running a marathon the next day.

Suspect OP was either a wind up troll or has wandered off aghast that no-one else is willing to listen to their drunken shrieking into the early hours because they’re such a sensitive, spontaneous fun-loving soul

Will this thread give you pause for thought and self reflection? Or will you just carry on regardless?

Would it be a good moment to go out and buy some flowers and a bottle of wine and write a note saying 'On reflection, our karaoke party of ..... was a bad idea and not a neighbourly thing to do. We are sorry we didn't warn you in advance and it went on so late. Please accept these flowers and wine as an apology and we hope good relations can be resumed. Apologies again'

We have neighbours like that. Wouldn't be so bad if they could carry a tune. They also have dogs that bark all day and kids that scream and shout and the parents scream and shout back at them.

Why do you think you have the right to disrupt other people's sleep until 2.00am once or twice a year?

Could you not be a bit more imaginative, do the Karaoke earlier in the evening, if you really have to do it at all, then firmly put it away by 10.00pm and find a more socially acceptable way to enjoy the company of your friends?

I think not cutting your grass is an extremely restrained way for your neighbours to communicate how they feel about your behaviour.

Spontaneous = pissed.
YABVU.

Wow, your Poor new neighbors, bet they are regrettign buying next to you poor sods.

Home karaoke always sounds horrendous. YABU

Why would u do that? You probably really upset them.

Totally selfish. Yabtu.

Unless you are detached Karaoke at home is unreasonable anytime. And 2am for someone who gets up for work at 5.30am is a ruined nights sleep. Very selfish imo.

I think in a residential area you should switch off at 11pm.

My DH works early shifts most weekends and it responsible for a lot of peoples lives. He needs his sleep.

Well woo hoo you for being “ spontaneous “.
Selfish idiot.

Are you in a semi or terraced house ? We often have parties but we are detached .. is that ok ? Genuine question as I can't hear our neighbours so presume they can't hear us .

I could be that noisy neighbour, bearing in mind DH and 3 x DS's play musical instruments. But, out of consideration they don't do it after about 8pm. 2am karaoke is very, very inconsiderate.

I do remember years ago when DH and I first lived together, our next door neighbour used to play drums at 3am during the week, as he said he was stressed. I asked him to stop at a reasonable time, even midnight would have been OK, we had to be up for work, he refused. I did warn him that we could be very much louder than he could even imagine, so he told me to eff off.

So, the next week we started having full band rehearsals in our front room, at about 4pm, when he was sleeping, including drums, bass, guitar, singers etc. After a week, I went round and said we would stop if he would stop. He stopped.

I’m still here! Just pondering on things. I always treat people how I would like to be treated and I honestly wouldn’t mind if they were loud and enjoying themselves once or twice a year. They’ve only had one late night party but it didn’t involve karaoke so perhaps that’s more the issue. Definitely food for thought. Was not expecting the 100% YABU response! Whoops! Thanks mumsnet!!

Yes.