For being peed off that shop assistant made dd say thank you beofre giving her her sweets

[twobabies]

Hi All

I really would like to know if IABU or not, so dd is not yet two and only just started talking. She can say thank you (well she says cue but we know what she means .

We went to the shop today for her treat as she has done really well with her potty training this week and we promised her a little choccy bar. We walked down and when I let her choose she was so excited, picked one and we went to the till. The shop was packed so she had been holding it for about 5 mins before we got to the till then I took it of her for the lady to scan and dd had a small winge.

The shop lady then says to dd loudly "well if your going to be like that your not having it back until you say thank you" whilst holding it out to dd? I said she doesnt talk actually and dd is quite shy around strangers so I knew she wouldn't. The shop assistant just looked at dd and said "well are you going to say thank you" dd is now hiding in my legs looking at me really upset. I said to the woman look she isn't going to say thank you and she said "oh i'm not sure you really deserve this then" before handing it over to me.

I think the reason i'm upset is because dd was so excited as she hardly gets sweets/choccy at all and I really thought this witch had spoilt it and made it look like dd had no manners to everyone else in the shop.

Please tell me if i'm just being hormonal or if this woman is actually mad?

Is it ok to be rather proud that my thread is nearly at 200 posts, perhaps I should just print this off and give it to the shop assistant

twobabies sorry got sidetracked, you are not unreasonabel and should complain

Xenia,it's not the presentation of facts, (we all know Northeners are thick fat bastards) but the way the facts are presented by you that causes offence.

You have a magical knack of sounding "Oh so superior", and it gets right up my snout!

I'm a Yorkshire lass BTW.

I think we should commend Xenia for her DEEP concern about Britain's obesity problem, when she could so easily leave all the poor working class people to die without ANY middle class intervention at all.

We should applaud her valient attempt to SAVE BRITAIN'S WORKING CLASS (from themselves!! (And all the Scottish folk too)

how did this thread become a class issue FGS

One poster with a big wooden spoon, that is how....

Xenia, the child in question is 2 years old, not 12. A baby really.

I don't know how old you are but it wasn't that long ago that working class and less well off women breastfed due to financial necessity. Formula was for people with money. And also terry/reusable nappies were the norm. Disposables hadn't been invented let alone be affordable for everyone.

I do agree that it's odd how the middle classes/well off people have appropriated certain aspects of family life and deemed them 'lifestyle choices'. Choices being the operative word.

Sorry forgot to say that I still agree with madoldcatlady & others though.

How on earth did the thread get here?!

Becauyse only the working classes would think it right to make sweets a reward for children under 2 or complain about some poor shop assistant who was actually interested in manners.

utter bullshit Xenia

Um I'm pretty sure that I would have prompted my dd to list 'sank you' at the woman even at the age of 'nearly 2' but then even my DM says that I'm a strict parent . The shop assistant did sound a bit OTT in what she said but I've met a few silly old bags in my time who should have been pensioned off from working.

Xenia, you make me laugh.

Xenia doles out Faberge eggs instead off Creme ones!

oh ffs this thread is getting ridiculous.

I have come across plenty young shop assistants who shouldn't have been given the job in the first place because they can barely string a sentence together; they just grunt and hold out their hand for the money without even looking at the customer. Stereotype anyone?

Xenia, I know you are a legal eagle. Have you ever thought of becoming a high court judge?

Well I'm working class and have no problems with that in the slightest. I breastfeed, am a size 8 and I did eat chocolate when I was a child and still do now. I was a very active child and did ballet, tap, modern dance and horse-riding every week and I loved it, also had piano lessons. I don't think what class you are determines activity levels or intelligence. I'm also a stay at home mum because I want to actually raise my own children and parent them fully. I believe that's best for them but don't knock people that choose otherwise. I don't live off a man, I married the man I love and we made decisions together about how we would bring up our children. We share housework etc and incidentally when we moved in together years ago I was the only one working until he got a job as IT jobs were more scarce at that time and that wasn't a problem at all. After 6-9 months he found the right job but we always have and always will share all our money, there is no mine and his.

yes, make judgements all day long and get paid for it!

xenia are you for real? "only the working classes think that sweets are good treats of young children". I think you sit here and work out what will provoke a reaction then the thread can all be about you. My parents were working class, they gave me, and subsequently their grandchildren sweets. I have a PhD so i must be posh now, actually, i consider myself working class and i buy my DD sweets. Will her teeth rot? i doubt it, will her education suffer? nah, will she be obese? i hardly think so.

again, i dont want to make this personal but it is easy to make holier than though statements about parenting when you don't do it day to day.

Xenia, I don't want to join this debate but your last post was a joke, wasn't it?

LOL LL

Oh and I don't use chocolates as rewards ( one thing they aren't allowed is hard sweets as they are horrible) but I don't do rewards anyway. Sometimes we eat chocolate but it's never a usual thing or a treat, we just use our own discretion.