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To wonder where the hell he is?

452 replies

TheHeightSupremacist · 14/04/2018 20:59

Been seeing someone for a couple of months, at least twice a week but it’s been nearly every day over the past couple of weeks. He has been really into me, cooked for me, taken me away numerous times and said the l word very early on.

We had plans to go to his friends birthday tonight, spoke to him earlier and everything was fine. Text later to let him know what time I would be over, not read and no reply, we are now 2 and a half hours after we were supposed to meet and I haven’t heard from him since 3.30pm. No messages read, no answer to my calls. Getting a bit concerned, where could he be?!

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hungryhippo90 · 15/04/2018 14:37

Has OP joined her BF in the Bermuda triangle?

member · 15/04/2018 14:43

Still no word?

I know posters aren’t,t duty-bound to report hourly but I hope the OP has found info and that everything is ok.

SoleBizzz · 15/04/2018 14:53

I hope you aren't worried about posting what happened..x

BipolarSunset · 15/04/2018 14:55

Hope you're ok OP?

Chimchar · 15/04/2018 14:56

I really hope all is ok op BrewCake

mynamei · 15/04/2018 14:58

Hope your ok op?

Bedtimesnacks · 15/04/2018 14:58

Any news

mynamei · 15/04/2018 14:59

Hope your ok op?

mynamei · 15/04/2018 14:59

Hope your ok op?

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 15/04/2018 15:20

My ex used to go on the missing list all the time.

First time he'd gone out and we were supposed to be going out together later, but he didnt answer phone, I had no clue where he was. I satthere waiting for him for four hours all dolled up and when he came back eventually, he was stupid drunk. That time was a highlight: generally he just didnt bother coming back.

This happened nearly every single time he went out. Most notable was the time I had my daughter just home from hospital (two months prem), was recovering from a botched c-section and had a 14 month old. He went on a night out with his friends and ended up going up to Dublin for FOUR DAYS where he didnt answer phone or anything. I was almost hysterical by the time he decided to roll back up home.

I went into labour with youngest DD at 28 weeks. Himself was still on the missing list from the night before so I had to pack up the children and a maternity bag, take them to his parents and ask that they minded them whilst I went to hospital. He turned up half pissed eventually and then he left to go back to the kids at his parents. I gave birth to my daughter completely alone.

When we got her from the hospital (eventually, ten weeks later, shes a tough little cookie) he announced that he was going to his friend's birthday party and was furious (I mean screaming and shouting angry) that i wanted him there for the first night of my baby being home. Add into that I had a 2yo and 1yo.

Those are the highlights. I actually cant remember how many times he went out and didnt come back/was incommunicado.

Bottom line- it doesnt get better, it gets worse. He doesnt respect you at all if hes pulling this sort of shit, especially only a couple of months in.

Juells · 15/04/2018 15:22

Hope your ok op?

The proper form is "you ok hun?"

advocatingmum · 15/04/2018 15:36

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pigpoglet · 15/04/2018 15:38

Blimey ..

DragonMummy1418 · 15/04/2018 16:31

Excuse my rough around the edges explanation here @advocatingmum but it's just because mumsnet is a bit more blunt / to the point whereas netmums are sugary sweet

So mumsnet might just say, "hope your ok."
Netmums would say "hope your ok Hun. X"

It's a perfectly acceptable thing to say in real life to people you actually know 😊

Coconutcreampie · 15/04/2018 16:31

@advocatingmum u OK hun is normally a response put to a vague attention grabbing status on social media that is then either not responded to or its said to pm them. For example

Tracy - OMG Ffs I can't believe dis has happened 2 me, y is life so hrd?!?! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Stella- u OK hun?
Jemma- u OK hun? Pm me
Dyanah- OMG u OK hun pm me

4 hrs later after 30 people have messaged

Tracy- pm me guys cos I dnt want ne1 2 know wata going on but it's awful, worst thing Eva!

Turns out Tracy just had a full fat latte instead of a skinny latte.

DragonMummy1418 · 15/04/2018 16:31

Excuse my rough around the edges explanation here @advocatingmum but it's just because mumsnet is a bit more blunt / to the point whereas netmums are sugary sweet

So mumsnet might just say, "hope your ok."
Netmums would say "hope your ok Hun. X"

It's a perfectly acceptable thing to say in real life to people you actually know 😊

pigpoglet · 15/04/2018 16:34

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They have a similar one this year.

pigpoglet · 15/04/2018 16:34

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They have a similar one this year.

pigpoglet · 15/04/2018 16:35

Sorry wrong thread

strongerthan · 15/04/2018 16:47

@CoconutcreampieGrinGrinGrin

DGRossetti · 15/04/2018 17:02

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Orchardgreen · 15/04/2018 17:04

I'm worried about the poor cat, I hope it's been fed.

bobstersmum · 15/04/2018 17:34

Have we been had?

Addictedtohavingbabies · 15/04/2018 17:51

bobsters mum, yes I think so. Can guess how this thread is going to end.

StaplesCorner · 15/04/2018 17:55

Can you tell me then Addicted?! Wink