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To think brides often get their dress wrong?

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FreeMantle · 13/04/2018 18:16

I have always thought this actually but no one else seems to have noticed.
My lovely friends, who pride themselves on dressing very well, seem to chose a dress that doesn't suit them at all. Skinny ones go for the tightest column dress ,so they look like beans. My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues.
The latest is my size 8/10 cousin who without an inch of fat, has wide hips. So of course she's gone for a full on strapless mermaid. Making her shape look totally out of proportion.
Obviously she'll be beautiful as a bride but why that dress?
I am now looking for one for myself . Despite being short and athletic everyone seems to love a huge ivory fluffy tulle princess type dress on me. I look like a dumpy fungus. It's thin straps and tight bodice totally emphasise my lack of top half. And yes, I'm tempted.

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BoucleJacket · 14/04/2018 00:12

So many horrible people on this thread.

It takes a special sort of journalist bitch to:-

a) start a nasty thread about wedding dresses and then fuck off never to be seen again.

And

b) post on the thread to be a bitch about a colleague who wears glasses.

And then we get this sort of shit :

"Oh, here's my wedding dress"... simper

Those posting photos of their dresses are just cringeworthy people looking for validation of their choices by random strangers on the internet.
Embarrassing.

CuckingFunt1987 · 14/04/2018 00:19

Sorry but it's not your place to say how they look

Morphene · 14/04/2018 00:28

I'm not sure I've ever felt so painfully ashamed and alienated from my gender.

Glad there are at least a couple of other voices on here that have some concept of women's value outside of their appearance.

Namechangetempissue · 14/04/2018 00:29

I think that dress is beyond hideous RoseWhiteTips -like a shapeless bag and awful material (like it needs a good iron) BUT the only thing that matters is that the bride is happy and thinks she looks amazing. Then it IS the perfect dress, whatever anyone else thinks.
I made entirely the wrong choice and really regret it. I don't have any photos displayed and have never seen my wedding video. I was mid eating disorder crisis, had my dress taken in twice and looked like a frail little ghost in my size 4 Sad. The thin strapped, clingy dress made me look every inch of the skeleton I was. I'm much better now thankfully.

MCSpammer · 14/04/2018 00:31

And their husbands 😂 haven't RTFT so apologies if this hilarious comment has already been made

MCSpammer · 14/04/2018 00:35

Oh and btw total cunty attitude.

You're welcome!

categed · 14/04/2018 00:35

Why do we care what others wear? Why do we believe we are so superior and look so much better.
On someone's wedding day as long as the couple are happy then it's great. Fashion comes and goes but hopefully their marriage lasts longer.
As a society we wonder why women feel so bad about themselves. I think this post is a perfect example of Why!
As a bride wear whatever you want,enjoy the day and remember it's not a fashion show,not everyone will like what you wear so don't try to impress others. Believe in yourself and have a wonderful marriage x

Kokeshi123 · 14/04/2018 00:36

I have seen some women look nice in strapless dresses (but others who did not look nice). I do think that the look is overplayed. I think it's cheaper and easier to construct strapless dresses and it removes the need to fit different upper body shapes, which I guess is why manufacturers make so many of them.

I wore the complete opposite--mine had sleeves that came down over half my hands!

Openup41 · 14/04/2018 00:48

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JamieVardysHavingAParty · 14/04/2018 00:55

Personally, I would love to get married in a meringue. I quite possibly wouldn't care how I looked, 'cos meringue. I dearly hope that all brides find their dresses emotionally satisfying, regardless of whether it suits their body shape.

That said, when I got married, it was, like others have observed, peak-strapless. That contributed to my decision to go straight for a registry office do sans any dress.

As far as I can tell, to look your best (by current cultural standards, natch) in a strapless gown, you either have to have exactly the right body shape for a strapless bodice, or full corsetry and a skilled seamstress who can fit the dress so it will stay up over your breasts without visibly digging into your flesh.

I don't have that body shape (and I knew it!), and I certainly didn't have the budget for the latter.

mummwest · 14/04/2018 01:23

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo
Carrie looked awful but that was the hair and make up I think, I wasn't a fan of the dress but it looked a lot better when she did the photo shoot with her hair down and wavy.

Wifelife, you look fab!

Mercurial123 · 14/04/2018 05:34

I haven't read all responses but why is it mean and bitchy to say that a certain style of dress isn't a good look? I'm sure most people would say the bride was beautiful even if how dare she preferred to wear her glasses on her big day. Some people are so sensitive.

Bettyfood · 14/04/2018 05:42

I thought all my friends looked absolutely beautiful when they got married and have not once thought someone "got it wrong".

So fucking what if someone who is a size 8 emphasises their hips in a clingy dress? What is wrong with someone having a curvy bum? Good luck to them, I bet it looks amazing.

What a bitchy and utterly vacuous way of thinking. With friends like these, etc.

Raven88 · 14/04/2018 06:27

My dress was made by my MIL so I picked one with short sleeves and a tea length skirt. I wanted it loose at the waist and stomach and my bridesmaids didn't like it. They wanted me in a strapless dress with a full skirt. I'm a tall size 18 and I like my legs so I wanted them out. They probably thought I picked the wrong dress but I loved it.

Oblomov18 · 14/04/2018 06:30

You don't know it isn't going to fit properly/keep slipping down/keep having to pull it up or down or adjust the bust/keep having to pick up the train - and wished you'd never chosen a train, until the day, presumably.

Gwenhwyfar · 14/04/2018 06:55

"I think part of the problem is that as a start point, white is a bloody difficult colour to wear for most people. It generally shows up every lump and bump and casts quite a harsh light against your skin, unless you have a deep skin tone."

A few people have said this, but it's the first time I've heard it. White is generally seen as a classic - the white shirt with jeans for example. I don't think you have to have dark skin to wear white.
A lot of women wear ivory or cream anyway.

Gwenhwyfar · 14/04/2018 07:01

"even the character Carrie Bradshaw got it wrong, she looked so much better in the suit she wore at her registry office wedding than the church wedding I think."

Carrie often wore horrible dresses. She was quite a fashion victim. I don't like the suit she had either.

Gwenhwyfar · 14/04/2018 07:16

"I haven't read all responses but why is it mean and bitchy to say that a certain style of dress isn't a good look? "

It's not, but this is typical of MN these days. So many things people take offence at. Maybe there should be a warning at the top "If reading that some people don't like a certain style of clothing upsets you, don't read on". These people must have Style and Beauty hidden or they'd never cope.

The only thing I do object to, is the glasses thing. I don't wear my glasses as a style thing, it's so I can SEE.

sashh · 14/04/2018 07:55

stayathomegardener I was going to gues 1994 because of your flowers, but your dress is actually quite similar to my mother's from the 1960s.

One dress I was shown pictures of but didn't attend the wedding the bride had a 1920s vintage dress. It will never go out of fashion.

The worst one I think I have ever seen was in the 1980s, if you remember Austrian blinds, that was what the dress was like, panels of Austrian blind. It only surpassed Lady Diana in it's 80ness and just wrong.

But I've seen some stunning dresses too.

I think the key is to think about who you and what suits you rather than thinking 'bride'. I also think it is worth looking at 'posh' frocks rather as well as wedding dresses.

Belindabauer · 14/04/2018 07:57

Interestingly it was Queen Victoria who made the tradition of wearing white popular. It symbolised wealth
I thought Paula Yates looked amazing in her red wedding dress.

GinGeum · 14/04/2018 08:21

Sorry to slightly derail, but to those who work in wedding dress shops, how hard/expensive is it to make a simple dress to go under a lace overlay? I have an old wedding dress in the family, and the lace part is beautiful, but I don’t like the strapless under dress, and would ideally like a strappy, simple dress I could wear on its own later on in the day after removing the lace part.

bananafish81 · 14/04/2018 08:53

This was us dicking around for the photographer, hence the ridiculous pose. I questioned wearing ivory when I'm so pale, but I thought fuck it, I wanted to wear it. And I had lots of colour with my hair (and the matching trainers I wore under the dress!) Grin

To think brides often get their dress wrong?
ziggy1986 · 14/04/2018 08:57

@bananafish81 any pics of the trainers? Thinking about wearing trainers under my dress.

You look fab btw.

DrGreeneChairLean · 14/04/2018 09:00

For fucks sake. What a shitty thread.

Agreed.