To think brides often get their dress wrong?

[FreeMantle]

I have always thought this actually but no one else seems to have noticed.
My lovely friends, who pride themselves on dressing very well, seem to chose a dress that doesn't suit them at all. Skinny ones go for the tightest column dress ,so they look like beans. My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues.
The latest is my size 8/10 cousin who without an inch of fat, has wide hips. So of course she's gone for a full on strapless mermaid. Making her shape look totally out of proportion.
Obviously she'll be beautiful as a bride but why that dress?
I am now looking for one for myself . Despite being short and athletic everyone seems to love a huge ivory fluffy tulle princess type dress on me. I look like a dumpy fungus. It's thin straps and tight bodice totally emphasise my lack of top half. And yes, I'm tempted.

Wasn’t me that said it 5 mins later though... I genuinely don’t care what some anonymous person on the internet thinks of my wedding dress choice. Or indeed anyone, except my DH and me.
I might think your dress was shit... i imagine you don’t care much what I think either!

I’m obese so no judgement of people’s size in itself. But you can do things to help make the most of your looks. Not have back fat and arms all hanging out on show.

A wide strap is so much more flattering.

But each to their own, as I don’t care what anyone thinks I suppose.

(Not that I'd give a flying fuck what size any other bride in the world was, and I'd have a LOT to say to anyone who dared to criticise any of my friends! It's just that I wouldn't want to squeeze my own stupid top heavy skinny legged body into a white dress!)

To be fair, you said you doubted "anyone on here cares" when there have been plenty of people throwing around the "sisterhood" (Boke) "bitter" (ok then) and "bitches" comments because people are actually feeling able to let out a collective sigh of acknowledgement of the poor-fitting abomination that is the strapless dress.

I didn't actually have a traditional wedding dress - I wore a dress that was in a style that I would actually wear to any other more formal occasions. Expensive wedding dresses are for mugs, in my view.

SaucyJane Just where something you're comfortable in! You shouldn't not get married if that's what you want just because of the Wedding Industry bandwagon!

I really don’t like many wedding dresses, to me it looks as though every bride is wearing a uniform, pretty much all brides look the same, I know it’s tradition to wear the white dress etc but there are so many beautiful evening dresses in colours that would be so much more flattering. I think the OP is right in saying brides sometimes loose sight of what suits them, even the character Carrie Bradshaw got it wrong, she looked so much better in the suit she wore at her registry office wedding than the church wedding I think.

Fair enough. I can’t speak for other people. I genuinely couldn’t give monkeys what other people thought of my dress. I didn’t choose it for them.

I picked a dress that was exactly the same style as dresses I wear often and get complimented on so I knew it would suit my shape. I went for ballerina length as I just did not feel like myself in a long, poofy dress, I just felt like the material was never ending!

I really loved mine, wasn’t what I thought I wanted, but I loved it, my husband loved it and everyone at my wedding said they loved it too (I hope they were being honest) it’s all personal choice and it is such a shame when brides regret what they wore, hindsight I guess!

Unless you're built like a bridal model, it's probably safe to assume you can't pull off a strapless dress.

I am actually but that doesn’t mean anyone who isn’t didn’t look amazing in their dresses either.

Does it make you feel good to make past and future brides question their dress choice as some women are doing on here?

Oh and yeah, I probably am built like a bridal model. Or at least I was when I get married (put on a couple of lbs since having DC)

Ah thanks Gherkin! To be honest it's only one reason - the main one is that I lost my mum a few years ago and I just don't have the heart to plan a wedding or choose a dress without her 😭

One day maybe, but it'll be a "take our best friends and family abroad for a week and do it on a beach" rather than a big white wedding I think!

Cerseilannisterinthesnow now that's a classy wedding dress!

YANBU

Mother of the bride/groom outfits are also awful. For some reason, certain shops seem to think that a middle aged woman needs to wear a tight polyester dress with either an unflattering bolero or a long dress coat flapping about in a pastel or primary colour that they would never normally choose. The look has to be finished off with uncomfortable high heels and a huge hat or feather thing on their head.

Does it make you feel good to make past and future brides question their dress choice as some women are doing on here?

Why would I "feel" anything passing the time before bed on a wedding dress thread? Given how invested people get in their wedding photos you'd have thought that future brides in particular would be paying attention to something they're likely going to spend a lot of money on if they're going for the whole "big day"/most or all of a house deposit in Scotland kind of wedding.

Mother of the bride/groom outfits are also awful. For some reason, certain shops seem to think that a middle aged woman needs to wear a tight polyester dress with either an unflattering bolero or a long dress coat flapping about in a pastel or primary colour that they would never normally choose. The look has to be finished off with uncomfortable high heels and a huge hat or feather thing on their head.

OMG, this.

My mum was like "I hope you don't expect me to wear one of those pencil dresses, a boxy jacket and hat". Noooooooope.

My dress is a strapless mermaid. From reading this thread I dunno if it'll be better to have my scrawny boobs rattling around inside the moulded bodice or if it's better I don't have massive hooters spilling out over the top of it.

I bought my dress 5 years ago. I loved it then and I love it still. I'll be making alterations to it to make it more suited to the day we are planning though.

I've seen brides in all shapes and sizes. I've never seen an awful looking bride, they all look beautiful and happy.

Thank you mrsosmond id post me in it but it may be outing!

Yolo, I told my mum she could wear her jeans and runners if she wanted. She won't but she loves that I don't give a fuck and want her to be comfortable and happy on the day.

I had an amazing shop owner steer me away from the massive princess dresses. She said ‘you are small not a marshmallow’. I insisted on trying on a marshmallow but she was right.
The bit I don’t understand is hair. Why do all hairdressers insist on curls? Up do with curls! No!

The worst is back cleavage when anyone larger than a size 8 wears a strapless corset dress. Yikes! I've smoothed this out on several of my friends at their weddings . Looking back though my dress didn't suit me that well. I'd lost a lot of weight so my boobs weren't very full and the dress I wore needed for them to be!

There's such little choice though isn't there? I'm a bit out of the wedding scene but it seems to be all strapless dresses these days or Kate Middleton rip offs.

Yes . Back fat , blue skin and squashed breasts galore

That said you I do like a visible tattoo on a bride personally

Sorryif this has been said already but a wedding is a wedding not a fashion show. I expect a woman wants to wear something she feels fab in because it's all about the feeling, surely? And if in her head she's always had this idea of a massive princess dress then why not. Even if she's 20 stones.
Because it's not really about what she looks like.

I looked fuckin rad in my strapless fishtail, and I speak as someone who utterly despises her body. I wouldn’t wear any of the frumpy styles popular today, but I didn’t care about looking ‘like a grown up’ (?! 😄) or ‘elegant’, women can wear whatever they want, in most cases they’re marrying someone they adore and will be beaming.

Grooms who wear the wee jackets with the back of them hanging round their knees look pure shite, and so do the ubiquitous swirly waistcoats. And top hats!! Comedically ridiculous!