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To think brides often get their dress wrong?

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FreeMantle · 13/04/2018 18:16

I have always thought this actually but no one else seems to have noticed.
My lovely friends, who pride themselves on dressing very well, seem to chose a dress that doesn't suit them at all. Skinny ones go for the tightest column dress ,so they look like beans. My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues.
The latest is my size 8/10 cousin who without an inch of fat, has wide hips. So of course she's gone for a full on strapless mermaid. Making her shape look totally out of proportion.
Obviously she'll be beautiful as a bride but why that dress?
I am now looking for one for myself . Despite being short and athletic everyone seems to love a huge ivory fluffy tulle princess type dress on me. I look like a dumpy fungus. It's thin straps and tight bodice totally emphasise my lack of top half. And yes, I'm tempted.

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seven201 · 13/04/2018 18:30

I think I've only seen one strapless bride within the last ten years and she looked amazing. She has the shoulders for it. I tried a strapless dress on and felt like and looked like a snowball.

TellOutMySoul · 13/04/2018 18:30

Strapless dresses look terrible on most women.

BrashCandicoot · 13/04/2018 18:32

I agree. Strapless dresses rarely look good but because it was The Fashion and I'm surprise the trend lasted as long as it did. 80s puffballs died a death, and 90s off-the-shoulder-sweetheart-necklines look very 90s, yet here we are with women wearing strapless dresses looking uncomfortable and like they're about to fall out of them if they move too fast. It's taken until far to long into this decade for more slimline cuts and sleeves to come back in properly.

AlistairAppletonssexyscarf · 13/04/2018 18:33

I got my dress at Monsoon because it had straps. I also bought a sheer bolero jacket to cover my arms. To be honest, I still looked a sight because the dress clung to my stomach and my arms were still visibly huge through the sheer jacket. I'd go 50s style if I had my time again, including proper sleeves. I hate my wedding photos.

NeverTalksToStrangers · 13/04/2018 18:34

Couldn't agree more. When i got married mid 200s I was adamant I wasn't having a strapless dress. Everything is so much more demure now, which doesn't suit everyone either.

You need to find a dress that suits your personality and style.

smithsinarazz · 13/04/2018 18:34

DH said if I turned up in a big meringue he wasn't going through with it.

Dad told my sister, "I'm not walking you down the aisle in a toilet roll."

KatherinaMinola · 13/04/2018 18:35

Yes, I agree. I mean, most brides look good, but considering they've paid £1K+ for their outfit, the stakes are higher. I think most choose a style or colour that doesn't quite suit them.

When I go to a wedding where the bride has absolutely chosen the right dress I'm really struck by it.

Bluelonerose · 13/04/2018 18:37

Yes I see what you mean but if you fall in love with your dress it will look amazing on you.

When i got married I had a massive poofy strapless dress which I loved (and still do even though I've been divorced 4 years) couldn't give a crap what anyone thought because it made me feel beautiful.

BrashCandicoot · 13/04/2018 18:39

if you fall in love with your dress it will look amazing on you.

If that's what women have to tell themselves to justify a 4 figure frock then go for it. It's like when people call newborns cute but everyone knows they look like little old men.

honeylulu · 13/04/2018 18:40

I'm also a bit baffled by the number of brides who have a really severe updo for their wedding. Firstly most of them never wear their hair up so they look like a stranger on the day. Secondly it tends to look very "scraped back" ie Croydon facelift style.

Squ1ggle · 13/04/2018 18:40

I had 2 requirements when I went wedding dress shopping 1) lace and 2) sleeves. The dress I bought was strapless but was changed to have lace sleeves added and it was so much better (in my eyes anyway). People generally say my dress was lovely, hope they were telling the truth

NeverTalksToStrangers · 13/04/2018 18:40

You do hear a lot of lovely comments on your wedding day, genuine or not, but my best one was from my dh's cousin who was about 17 at the time.

We were doing a line up outside the church (irish thing) and when it was her turn to walk past she just said "YOU are coming wedding dress shopping with ME" and walked on.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 13/04/2018 18:41

YABU.

It’s a difficult thing to choose. It’s not something you buy every few months so you know what suits you.

It’s very emotional, many brides would have had imagined their dream dress from a very young age and they have grown up with a dream which then does not really translate well into reality.

Momo18 · 13/04/2018 18:42

Hmm, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and a that..

Sarsparella · 13/04/2018 18:42

I couldn’t agree more, most wedding dresses are bloody ugly tbh

I remember going to a dress shop where the sales woman assured me that every woman looks at her best in a strapless dress

I got this crap from bridal shops too, basically cos all they had to sell were strapless monstrosities

I 100% didn’t want a strapless dress, I never normally wear strapless because the style doesn’t suit me, why would I start on my wedding day?

I found wedding dress shopping in general really frustrating & annoying, plus you end up standing about in your knickers in front of strangers - hardly glamorous Confused

I ended up getting my dress from House of Fraser, it had straps and was lovely & floaty, not a corset or boob hanging out to be seen Grin

pointythings · 13/04/2018 18:42

I got my dress in 1998 and not only did it have proper supportive straps (with lovely beading on), it also came with a tailored long-sleeved jacket. It did have a big skirt, but was very fitted in the bodice and I'm tall (almost 6 ft). It was sort of Edwardian fantasy riding dress and it was amazing. Comfy too, even outside when it was perishing for the photos (I'm looking at you, shitty late April weather!)

Eryri1981 · 13/04/2018 18:43

When I went trying on wedding dresses I really had no clue (not normally a dress king of girl), but new that the one style I didn't want was the mermaid. I went along with the dress fitter and tried on what she thought I should, and ended up with a mermaid dress. The dresses I picked out made me look massive and ridiculous, they just didn't work!!

TheFirstMrsOsmond · 13/04/2018 18:43

Most strapless wedding dresses look cheap & tacky & vulgar, regardless of how much they cost

Thereshegoesagain · 13/04/2018 18:45

For fucks sake. What a shitty thread.

sockunicorn · 13/04/2018 18:46

I think i have rose tinted glasses...Ive never seen a bad bride. I just love the pretty dresses and would happily wear mine to do the dishes in if it still fit

idontevengohere · 13/04/2018 18:46

I know I looked fat in mine. But by God did I love it and I still do regardless.

idontevengohere · 13/04/2018 18:48

I didnt even contemplate strapless as I usually think they can look chavvy.

HumphreyCobblers · 13/04/2018 18:48

My SIL had the best wedding dress I have seen. It was truly transformational, she looked amazing. From all angles!

It was an extremely expensive dress, proper designer job and you could absolutely see the quality of both the design and the dressmaking.

CornishYarg · 13/04/2018 18:48

Strapless was everywhere when I went dress shopping which really didn't suit me as I'm very busty. But most bridal shops were really pushing them. I knew I'd found the right shop for me when the assistant immediately said that wasn't the right style for me because I just wouldn't feel comfortable as I'd constantly be hoiking it up to avoid revealing tons of cleavage!

BiddydeBint · 13/04/2018 18:50

I agree. I look at my wedding dress and think, what on earth was I thinking? And it wasn't strapless - had quite a high neck and spaghetti straps. But not a style I wore before or since. I was a very down to earth bride, but even I must have been blinded by the floof at that point. On saying that, it was a wonderful day and I do look beautiful because I'm so happy and glowing and thin. I think that's the case for most brides, even if they were in a bin bag

Strapless dresses are just horrendous and I can't believe there hasn't been a backlash yet!