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To think brides often get their dress wrong?

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FreeMantle · 13/04/2018 18:16

I have always thought this actually but no one else seems to have noticed.
My lovely friends, who pride themselves on dressing very well, seem to chose a dress that doesn't suit them at all. Skinny ones go for the tightest column dress ,so they look like beans. My large busted ones are falling out of massive strapless meringues.
The latest is my size 8/10 cousin who without an inch of fat, has wide hips. So of course she's gone for a full on strapless mermaid. Making her shape look totally out of proportion.
Obviously she'll be beautiful as a bride but why that dress?
I am now looking for one for myself . Despite being short and athletic everyone seems to love a huge ivory fluffy tulle princess type dress on me. I look like a dumpy fungus. It's thin straps and tight bodice totally emphasise my lack of top half. And yes, I'm tempted.

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TellOutMySoul · 13/04/2018 18:18

It absolutely agree but we will both be called bitches for thinking it.

tortelliniforever · 13/04/2018 18:19

Strapless dresses hardly suit anyone imo!

LostInShoebiz · 13/04/2018 18:19

Yes, a lotnof them do but that's the case with anything you rarely wear. I always make dreadful decisions about hot weather holiday clothes because I rarely wear them and have no practice.

Colour always bugs me about wedding dresses. If you'd never wear white because it washes you out, why pick the most visible day of your life to wear head to toe white.

ziggy1986 · 13/04/2018 18:20

So I am 14-16 and I found bridal shops steered me towards bigger dresses which made me look...bigger. Like massive full skirts.

I’m not sure why 🤔

However I have rarely seen a bride I thought didn’t look good so perhaps you are being slightly over critical. All my friends have looked fab on their wedding days.

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot · 13/04/2018 18:20

I agree. I went to one wedding and the bride was a curvy lady who barely kept her nipples warm In her dress. Surely you want to look your best regardless or your figure and show off you looking fabulous?

Deshasafraisy · 13/04/2018 18:20

Wedding dresses are horrible things

LostInShoebiz · 13/04/2018 18:21

You'd be a bitch if you said it to a bride's face or in the likelihood she would hear. But I'm very general terms on an Internet forum: not a bitch!

CruCru · 13/04/2018 18:21

I got married ten years ago. It MIGHT be different now but then there seemed to be pretty much ONLY strapless dresses.

Flockoftreegulls · 13/04/2018 18:22

Why do you care?
I mean surely the point is that the bride likes the dress? Hmm

Mercurial123 · 13/04/2018 18:22

Many people don't look good in strapless there are so many Beautiful dresses out there but many won't even consider them.

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot · 13/04/2018 18:22

Bridal shops love you to show your bingo wings. I married at a size 16-18 and when I mentioned I wanted a bolero or straps to cover the flab I was told it wouldn't be needed. My gown was a strapless number so very much needed!

ALemonyPea · 13/04/2018 18:23

Grin dumpy fungus

madamginger · 13/04/2018 18:23

Mermaid dresses look awful on everyone. I have a guilty love of say yes to the dress and most brides who pick them look terrible.

AssassinatedBeauty · 13/04/2018 18:23

Don't people choose what makes them happy, or fulfils their imagined dream wedding scenario? Even if a different style would suit their shape better.

HopeAndJoy16 · 13/04/2018 18:23

What does it matter if they feel special and love the dress they wear?

Passportto · 13/04/2018 18:24

I agree with CruCru, there's so little choice.

I had very bad skin on my back and upper arms and really wanted a dress with sleeves but they hardly existed then or now. (Plus I agree very few people look good strapless anyway)

LostInShoebiz · 13/04/2018 18:24

I've seen two brides look genuinely awful and it's because they're not dress people in the slightest and had the biggest, most rigid dresses picked by their mothers based on what the mothers would have had for their own weddings. They just hunched and looked sad all day. One spent all day apologising to guests for looking so miserable.

BumpowderSneezeonAndSnot · 13/04/2018 18:25

How can you feel special if you're constantly hoiking up your dress to protect your nips? How can you feel special if you waddle and can't sit down due to your mermaid dress (seriously whoever created this style was having a complete laugh at women's expense!)

wizardswife79 · 13/04/2018 18:25

It’s 50/50 at weddings I’ve attended.

One very slim, straight up and down, attractive bride went for a dress that demanded curves (strapless fishtail). She looked nice (to be fair she’d look fine in a bin liner) but she’d have been beyond stunning in a dress like Kate or Pippa Middleton wore for eg.

Another bride went for a huge huge meringue but her wedding was a barn dance and she ended up with the dress all screwed up stuck into her knickers so she could dance . The dress was totally inappropriate for the wedding given she wanted to dance all day not just stand around.

Other brides have totally nailed it - one of my larger friends just picked the perfect dress and looked amazing.

Hope I got mine right! Grin

Mydoghatesthebath · 13/04/2018 18:25

I think it’s because too many people go along to shop with the bride and don’t give their honest opinion as if a bride is set on a dress what would you say? I have been twice and both times thought ouch but didn’t say it as the bride to be was set on thr dress.

Showergel1 · 13/04/2018 18:26

So many people go for strapless when straps or a lace covering would look so much better. Especially when there is flesh spilling out at the back.
I loved my dress and it was a was flattering because I had a sweetheart style neckline with straps which made my bust look amazing and visually broke up the skin on show. I think perhaps lots of people think straps are unfashionable and don't go for them when if they tried it on they'd see the effect.
Embrace the straps people.

seven201 · 13/04/2018 18:28

I don't think I've been to a wedding where the bride didn't pick a good dress for her figure. They've all looked bloody gorgeous. I picked a dress that didn't cling to my fat belly.

stayingaliveisawayoflife · 13/04/2018 18:29

Mine was corset and had cap sleeves which I had taken off. I wore a lace bolero which was attached to my dress by clear poppers and just looked like part of the dress. I was covered where I wanted to be and actually comfortable until I wanted to sit down and the corset decided I shouldn't!

Situp · 13/04/2018 18:30

I got married ten years ago. It MIGHT be different now but then there seemed to be pretty much ONLY strapless dresses
Me too! I wanted a dress with straps or sleeves and was lucky if there was one in the shop!

My dSIL is very petite and has absolutely enormous breasts and she wore a strapless dress. She spent the whole day pulling it up and tucking them back in and It was a bit awkward as you could see some of the guests didn't really know where to look.

I remember going to a dress shop where the sales woman assured me that every woman looks at her best in a strapless dress Confused

WazFlimFlam · 13/04/2018 18:30

There's a reason you don't plan on wearing a white strapless floorlength dress any other day of your life. They are pretty hideous.

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